detachment
I pretty much know that most nights between 5-9pm my husband is going to drink.When he starts rambling on and on about some unimportant topic,I take my grandaughter and leave the house.Thankfully my dad lives about a half mile from me.My grandaughter has alot of friends in his neighborhood,so she plays with her friends and I chill out on the porch.
In the winter months,we go in her room and read or listen to music.I keep telling my husband that it won't be long till she realises what he's doing to himself.
I agree that after awhile your spouse Becomes like a spoiled child tat you have to deal with!
Good Luck with detaching(you can do it)
Karen