I've got a funny one (at least to me). I am new to detachment, but I have done it some.
In the midst of dh's last relapse, I asked him to sleep on the couch. He complied without complaint for quite a while. One day he said he didn't want to sleep there any more. I gave it some thought and decided that where he slept was pretty irrelevant to what I was willing to do with him. (In other words, in the bed did NOT mean sex). So I told him so. I said, if it was that important to him to sleep in the bed, it didn't make that much difference to me.
That night at bedtime, he gets comfy on the couch. I say "I thought you wanted to sleep in the bed?"
His reply, "You didn't act like you wanted me there."
My detachment: I laughed and said "Suit yourself". And went to bed.
Three days later, without further comment from me, he slept in the bed.
To me, detachment is more an attitude than an action. I really didn't care where he slept, or if he was mad at me.
Cat