Hi Sadwife,
I am a little late in responding, as it is now Tuesday morning
. I just wanted to congratulate you on the way you handled yourself Sat night. It may not seem like much, but the more you keep your "hands off" and let him OWN his disease, the easier life gets for you... and the more likely it is that HE will begin to see the consequences of his own actions. After all, if you won't play his game, he'll end up losing eventually.
Take care
Meg