Hi Chrissy
I am new here also and just learning about this, but our stories are quite similar except I havent married my A yet. We are engaged.
It is so hard isnt it when you love them so much and soooo want to help them. My A lives with me and my 7 year old son. I kept giving him chance after chance after chance and received all the promises over and over again.
Yes, he also resented me for trying to get him to stop and making the demands.
I finally told him he had to leave last week. He has now moved out and has started AA. I went with him tonight to an open meeting. I went to try and educate myself not for him.
I dont know if I am still being fed a bunch of baloney from him, but I do feel like he is trying.
I finally did have to make that decision though and let him go for my own good as well as my sons. I havent given up hope on him but I also know at this point in time that I cant live with him and worry about him all the time either. I did finally realize that I cant fix this, he has to want to help himself. I only hope that he is on the way to doing that.