We are human, it is in my nature to love and care about people. I use to look at myself as a pathetic idiot, but once I got out of the relationship and moved on, I realized I could still be a loving human being and there are plenty of people out there who appreciate me for who I am.
I try to keep my "sick" ex ah quarantined from my life. Every once and awhile he will ooze in and I just hit him with a dose of my recovery and support from SR and life goes on.