brite eyes,this step can be a bit confusing.it is up to me to be as responsible,and as spiritual as i can be in this step.
before the steps i was selfish.
first starting the steps about 12 years ago i had that attitude.the after my last relapse i saw i was working the steps on self will and got high again.
then i got a sponsor who had a sponsor who had a sponsor etc,and they made me define the steps.you can try it if you want.you will get the same results i got.
keep coming back,with an open mind.