My AH is also one of those self-aware drinkers. He is not an everyday drinker, he's a binge drinker. We can go a week or two with no drinking, but pretyy much when he does drink, he goes all out. My AH tells me too that he'll never leave me and that he loves me and I am the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with.......then he drinks.
I am just starting on my recovery journey...hop on, it is very freeing. Codependant No More is a wonderful book, get and read it, then read it again. People on this board are very helpful, take what you can use and toss the rest. Good luck to you!
brooklyn