Originally Posted by Don S
* Whining, awfulizing, and engaging in self-pity.
* Ascribing absolute conditions to situations and predicting dire outcomes.
* Exaggerating discomforts even though they are temporary.
Low frustration tolerance beliefs usually include…
'I can't stand it. I can't bear it. It's intolerable. This is unfair. She always does this. He never does that. I shouldn't have to do this. He shouldn't do this to me.'
OK, this post is getting under my skin.... dog ran away this morning, at 6.30. I stomped around the house getting more and more irritated, we're going to be late, I'll never find him, the fields are too high in hay, kid will be late, won't be able to pick up the form we need, the bread's burning in the oven cos I was looking for the dog, got to stop and get petrol which will make me even LATER - ok, now I've missed the 7.15 traffic-lull, and NOW... I don't have time to fix my hair and I'll look like a witch all day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
No, the reality of it is that I left the leads in the car last night so let the dog out without one. He took his wee doggie chance and took off.
It's my fault, and no matter how irritated I get it's not going to fix it.
Oh, and I got to work on time and the situation wasn't that awful after all.
Huh!
J