I hope I misunderstand Guy's post. I'm hoping he meant that "It's Hell for children" and not "Hell is for children!"
Regardless.....
blizzard, I think that there is often times bitter feelings towards the enablers, the friends, family, and drinking buddies of the A. But those are just my thoughts.
I know that for me - that is how I feel often times. It took me a long time to figure out just what and why those bad feelings existed for those people in AH's life. I mean, I didn't like most of them, I didn't want their friendship, their approval so much, or anything - so why bejealous? Jealousy that they had a part of my A that I didn't. That's the basic part of it.
It's good to vent - sometimes I've found that I have real lightbulb moments in the heat of a vent. I'll be spilling how I feel and then it dawns on me - "Omg, I really DO feel that way".
Just keep on focusing on you. This includes the good things about you too, blizzard!