oh ****{sweetie}}}
take care of yourself.
i don't know what to tell you, these men are pains in the backside sometimes. everyone has different ways of coping. hang on to your new ways and don't go jumping in the bottle--you are great to recognize your emotions like you are.
maybe just be there for him. physically. sit with him. don't have to talk. just be. worth a try?
tell him that you love him, you want to help him through it, you wish you could take his pain away. just be open and let him know you are ready and waiting for him...
that's all you can do.