Originally Posted by Ayers1995
How is it that we can take so much abuse. And when it comes down to it.. look at our A and still find guilt, sadness, pity, sadness.... for them? I can see that my lack of closeness hurts him, but I won't stand up for myself and say... NO - I'm really not happy. No - I am not in love with you anymore.
You may not be in love with him anymore, but you do not yet love yourself enough to stop the abuse. This is what happens when we live with abuse for a long time - it wears away at our sense of self, until there is not much left. I speak from experience.
But you know there is a problem - you know that you deserve better - but right now, it is all about his pain and his actions and his behaviour.
Do you attend Al-anon?
God Bless