RJ, I too don't know what VFW is, but regardless, many people have a slip and fall along the way. The most important thing is to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and get back on track. Once you do that, do an assessment, determine why you used as best as you can and then you have a reminder of what not to do, as well as identifying triggers to watch for in the future.
During my initial attempts I slipped quite frequently. It took almost a year to get it right. But hey, now I am fine.
Peace, Levi