Sending a pod sounds like a perfect idea. Load it up and he's on his way. You'll never have to have contact with him again. I am so sorry you're hurting. It's a perfectly normal reaction to mourn someone you loved when you hear from him again. I hope you find healing. It's an ongoing process, as you know. From what you've written here I think continuing to move on would be the best decision you could make for yourself.
Love and hugs to you. xo