One thing that has helped me is to get involved with Al-Anon meetings. I have people who understand what I'm struggling with to call on. I have books to read that can guide me those situations. I have learned to take care of me, and not suffer the results of the alcoholics choices.Getting involved with Al-Anon was the best thing I have ever done for myself. It has helped me to heal and become whole. It has given me self worth and self esteem. It has given me love that I never thought I could have. I encourage anyone looking to find peace and serenity to try Al-Anon. To locate a meeting
http://www.al-anon-alateen.org/ and click on "Find a Meeting."
It will take you to local sites that list meeting schedules. It was the beginning of a new and better life for me. Hugs, Magic