My friend smoked and had a still born baby. He died at 37 weeks.
Another girl a knew of, not a close friend, did heroin and had a child with cleft lip problems.
Another friend drank throughout her pregnancy and a baby with learning disabilities, behavioral problems, slow weight gain, slow reaching milestones. She had about four drinks every other night.
So no it's not okay.
No, you don't know if everything will be okay.
Is it worth spending ten months worrying?
Totally not judging, totally not being mean.
Kids are hard work. Kids with disabilities (that could have been avoided) are even harder work.
Take care
xx