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Old 09-17-2004, 09:33 AM
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I have been thinking lately how I have a tendency to give some okay advice to others I care about now and then, but can't seem to take my own advice very well, LOL. I see that alot around here too.

So for today I want each and everyone of us to treat oursleves the way we treat others here, with love and compassion. I want each of us to treat the situations in our lives as we would suggest others treat them in their own lives.

Makes sense?

I am going to do this myself today!
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Old 09-17-2004, 09:36 AM
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Do unto yourself, as you would do unto others.

Makes sense, good advice.
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Old 09-17-2004, 09:39 AM
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Hi Paulie
So true. Great idea. I always ask God to help me treat others with love and kindness;
I think I'll include myself in there.
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Old 09-17-2004, 09:42 AM
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Great idea! Makes lots of sense.

We don't often think about ourselves when it comes to compasion and support. We need to pat ourselves on the back also, and give ourselves hugs.

OK, I'll work on that today also.
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Old 09-17-2004, 09:54 AM
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Paulie,
What a great thought! Kindness and compassion, forgiveness, support. All for me??? Sounds good!!!! Thanks for that thought for the day! A good one to take us into our weekends!
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Old 09-17-2004, 01:07 PM
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paulie, i so much the same way!!! Funny hpow we can sure give all the great advice but don't take our own!
But I will say something Paulie, I think you give the BEST advice!! and I am serious about that!
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Old 09-17-2004, 01:13 PM
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(you are too sweet)
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Old 09-17-2004, 01:29 PM
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****{Paulie}}}

Thanks for the nudge. :stups:
I can't remember the last time I gave myself a break. It must be something one learns in kindergarten. I need to go and get a book on the subject before my life passes by and I never feel the miracle of what you say.
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Old 09-17-2004, 01:37 PM
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Sandy -

If we learn that in kindergarten, I must have been sick that day.
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Old 09-17-2004, 01:47 PM
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Paulie, you give GREAT advice to everybody! But, isn't is so hard to do the same thing for ourselves. I'm going to work on that today.

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Old 09-17-2004, 01:51 PM
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That is why I started this thread... so that I could practice what I preach . It is always easier to suggest what others should do then see for oursleves what we should be doing, or not just see but actually do it.

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Old 09-17-2004, 01:54 PM
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That's all true stuff. It's like we can forgive everyone else for their imperfections, but we can't forgive ourselves.
Even Venus de Milo didn't have arms.
I'm handing in my notice and quitting on perfection.
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Old 09-17-2004, 01:58 PM
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Absolutely. I can definately forgive others.

But for me it is not so much perfection for myself. For me it is the "I know you can't do it anyway" kinda thing. I dont' set high standards so that I don't have to meet them, does that make sense? I suggest to others that they do what they need, and most of the time I do that for myself, but not lately, not since about 2 weeks or so before my wedding last month and now I am having a hard time getting back into it. So I thought I would start this thread to make myself accountable for practicing what I preach.
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Old 09-17-2004, 03:40 PM
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I can definately forgive others.
Well Paulie, in my book, forgiving others is a huge standard to live by. Not many people can do that successfully. Put that on your accountability list.

I dont' set high standards so that I don't have to meet them, does that make sense?
What I see is someone who is trying very hard and I respect that.
Put that on your accountability list.

not since about 2 weeks or so before my wedding last month and now I am having a hard time getting back into it.
What I see here is someone who has experienced one of the most important events of her life and wants to share her life with someone else.
Put that on your accountability list.

So I thought I would start this thread to make myself accountable for practicing what I preach
That's beautiful Paulie! And, Paulie, you're doing so much for others by passing on your experience. That is so valuable and noteworthy.
Don't forget to list it.

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Old 09-17-2004, 03:46 PM
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Wow this thread has really took a good turn - for me

You ladies are great, the friendships we make here at SR are so valuable to me.
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Old 09-17-2004, 05:05 PM
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Luv Ya Paulie. Just follow your own advice & love yer self..
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Old 09-17-2004, 05:30 PM
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Smile Amen!!

I have read a lot of your posts and replies and I agree with your Karma rating.

You are a glorious beacon of light! Thank You.

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Old 09-17-2004, 08:11 PM
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So very true, the first thing that popped in my head was from the Christian Bible, paraphrasing:

Love others as you would yourself.
Big implications there. It presumes that we love (and should love) ourselves first. Just takes it for granted as natural and good.
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Old 09-18-2004, 11:00 AM
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I can relate so much. I am so used to giving advice that when it comes to me I get put on the back burner. I need to practice what I preech. I do sometimes but I must all the time. Thank you Paulie for starting this thread..
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