98 days sober today.
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98 days sober today.
I haven't posted since before day 80. I was having severe anxiety. That eems to have cut down. I also have some difficult days approaching. The birthdays i f loved ones that have passed on and I'm looking for any advice to get through this. I used to drink to shove the feelings aside so any advice is welcome. Thank you so much.
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Congratulations on 98 days, soulcoughedream. I'm happy to hear your anxiety has cut down some. As far as the upcoming Birthdays ... I know they are difficult Their love prints are forever in your heart. Pull them out on their special day and be thankful for the gift they left for you. Do something special to honor their memory. Something that brings you joy. 
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First, 98 (now several more, I hope!) is outstanding. For me, I noticed a lot of things shift- forward- around 100 days is many areas of my life. I too have anxiety and am really glad it is easing some for you.
About the special occasions, tough occasions...anticipation....it IS hard. Plain and simple. For me, a particular example was Thanksgiving last year - for multiple reasons, it is a dreaded and emotionally loaded WEEK for me!- and I had to come up with a plan surrounding family events, spending time, and use the support from my fiance. Is there anyone who can be a partner with you getting through these tough things?
Permission to leave any situation that gives me angst, threatens my emotional sobriety, and the like is a tool and part of that kind of plan I mentioned that I STILL use as needed, here at going on 21 mo of sobriety.
Take care of yourself first- and it's hard that part of that does mean dealing with the sad and difficult stuff in life (for me, some of last year and even this year, surfaced for me to handle for the first time in YEARS!), is part and parcel to recovery.
Keep going!!
About the special occasions, tough occasions...anticipation....it IS hard. Plain and simple. For me, a particular example was Thanksgiving last year - for multiple reasons, it is a dreaded and emotionally loaded WEEK for me!- and I had to come up with a plan surrounding family events, spending time, and use the support from my fiance. Is there anyone who can be a partner with you getting through these tough things?
Permission to leave any situation that gives me angst, threatens my emotional sobriety, and the like is a tool and part of that kind of plan I mentioned that I STILL use as needed, here at going on 21 mo of sobriety.
Take care of yourself first- and it's hard that part of that does mean dealing with the sad and difficult stuff in life (for me, some of last year and even this year, surfaced for me to handle for the first time in YEARS!), is part and parcel to recovery.
Keep going!!
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Originally Posted by August252015 
First, 98 (now several more, I hope!) is outstanding. For me, I noticed a lot of things shift- forward- around 100 days is many areas of my life. I too have anxiety and am really glad it is easing some for you.
About the special occasions, tough occasions...anticipation....it IS hard. Plain and simple. For me, a particular example was Thanksgiving last year - for multiple reasons, it is a dreaded and emotionally loaded WEEK for me!- and I had to come up with a plan surrounding family events, spending time, and use the support from my fiance. Is there anyone who can be a partner with you getting through these tough things?
Permission to leave any situation that gives me angst, threatens my emotional sobriety, and the like is a tool and part of that kind of plan I mentioned that I STILL use as needed, here at going on 21 mo of sobriety.
Take care of yourself first- and it's hard that part of that does mean dealing with the sad and difficult stuff in life (for me, some of last year and even this year, surfaced for me to handle for the first time in YEARS!), is part and parcel to recovery.
Keep going!!
About the special occasions, tough occasions...anticipation....it IS hard. Plain and simple. For me, a particular example was Thanksgiving last year - for multiple reasons, it is a dreaded and emotionally loaded WEEK for me!- and I had to come up with a plan surrounding family events, spending time, and use the support from my fiance. Is there anyone who can be a partner with you getting through these tough things?
Permission to leave any situation that gives me angst, threatens my emotional sobriety, and the like is a tool and part of that kind of plan I mentioned that I STILL use as needed, here at going on 21 mo of sobriety.
Take care of yourself first- and it's hard that part of that does mean dealing with the sad and difficult stuff in life (for me, some of last year and even this year, surfaced for me to handle for the first time in YEARS!), is part and parcel to recovery.
Keep going!!
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Good advice
Originally Posted by Downthepath
AND be aware of the post-milestone dip. My AV is often very boisterous at that point. Good luck.
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Originally Posted by August252015
First, 98 (now several more, I hope!) is outstanding. For me, I noticed a lot of things shift- forward- around 100 days is many areas of my life. I too have anxiety and am really glad it is easing some for you.
About the special occasions, tough occasions...anticipation....it IS hard. Plain and simple. For me, a particular example was Thanksgiving last year - for multiple reasons, it is a dreaded and emotionally loaded WEEK for me!- and I had to come up with a plan surrounding family events, spending time, and use the support from my fiance. Is there anyone who can be a partner with you getting through these tough things?
Permission to leave any situation that gives me angst, threatens my emotional sobriety, and the like is a tool and part of that kind of plan I mentioned that I STILL use as needed, here at going on 21 mo of sobriety.
Take care of yourself first- and it's hard that part of that does mean dealing with the sad and difficult stuff in life (for me, some of last year and even this year, surfaced for me to handle for the first time in YEARS!), is part and parcel to recovery.
Keep going!!
About the special occasions, tough occasions...anticipation....it IS hard. Plain and simple. For me, a particular example was Thanksgiving last year - for multiple reasons, it is a dreaded and emotionally loaded WEEK for me!- and I had to come up with a plan surrounding family events, spending time, and use the support from my fiance. Is there anyone who can be a partner with you getting through these tough things?
Permission to leave any situation that gives me angst, threatens my emotional sobriety, and the like is a tool and part of that kind of plan I mentioned that I STILL use as needed, here at going on 21 mo of sobriety.
Take care of yourself first- and it's hard that part of that does mean dealing with the sad and difficult stuff in life (for me, some of last year and even this year, surfaced for me to handle for the first time in YEARS!), is part and parcel to recovery.
Keep going!!
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Yay!
Originally Posted by reflag
Way to go soulcoughedream! Congratulations on your 98 days! Big achievement already! 
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Well said
Originally Posted by Opivotal
Congratulations on 98 days, soulcoughedream. I'm happy to hear your anxiety has cut down some. As far as the upcoming Birthdays ... I know they are difficult Their love prints are forever in your heart. Pull them out on their special day and be thankful for the gift they left for you. Do something special to honor their memory. Something that brings you joy.
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