myheartaches

I guess I can say that when I joined here I couldn't let go of someone who really hurt me. I made their problem my problem and I wouldn't let it go because of my loyalty to our love. I fought hard to keep him in my life. I wanted to believe that his problems were superficial and that with enough love and dedication to him that he would stop using, get mentally and emotionally healthy, and we would soon begin to execute our plans to be together and get married.

I snapped out of it and let him go.

One day I woke up and I no longer had any reason to hold on to him. I stopped believing the lies and started facing the truth.

It's been over three months now.

I still have hope and pray that he will be well and live out his dreams....

But they will never be with me. My enabling destroyed the prospects of a strong relationship. His lying, stealing, cheating, attempted suicide, and drug abuse gave it little hope from the start.

The truth is there was only a lesson in it to be learned for the both of us.

I feel like he has a chance to heal now that he has been incarcerated, and I have the freedom to move on and to never look back.

It still hurts once in a while but at least I know we are both safe.

Dee74

I'm sorry for your pain - but I think you're right...2013 offers a chance for new beginnings...and there's lot of support here too

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