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Old 05-02-2018, 09:16 PM   #241 (permalink)
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Wondering if my students can tell that I'm hungover
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Old 05-06-2018, 09:20 PM   #242 (permalink)
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Old 05-06-2018, 09:24 PM   #243 (permalink)
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I'll second that I don't miss dreading Monday! I'd stay up as late as I could drinking on Sundays to pretend Monday wouldn't happen. Never seemed to work..


I don't miss the daily withdrawals. The anxiety, tremors, feverish cold sweats, dry mouth, no appetite, wishing I didn't exist.
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Old 05-07-2018, 09:25 AM   #244 (permalink)
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I'll second that I don't miss dreading Monday! I'd stay up as late as I could drinking on Sundays to pretend Monday wouldn't happen. Never seemed to work..


I don't miss the daily withdrawals. The anxiety, tremors, feverish cold sweats, dry mouth, no appetite, wishing I didn't exist.
I hear you, goodbyeevan - loud and clear.
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Old 05-10-2018, 09:00 AM   #245 (permalink)
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Old 05-10-2018, 08:57 PM   #246 (permalink)
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Waking up hating myself and wishing I were dead. So glad those days are gone now.
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Old 05-11-2018, 05:07 AM   #247 (permalink)
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The way my hand would tremble just a bit as I reached for my coffee cup.
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Old 05-12-2018, 05:05 AM   #248 (permalink)
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I can certainly empathise with that ...

I can certainly empathise with that along with all the other responses on this thread.Mmmnn, wonder who started it, 43395, maybe he's got a new identity now? After all, recovery isn't about going back to your old life. It is about starting a new one.
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Old 05-13-2018, 01:14 AM   #249 (permalink)
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My inability to simply be myself...

I don't miss my inability to simply, on any and every occasion, to simply be myself. So that now,whether in my environment or online I look for credibility, including my own, in all I meet. Golden rule,'No credibility,no me.'

To the point that I'd rather go through life sober believing I'm an alcoholic. Than drunk, trying to convince myself I'm not.

I spent far to many years doing the latter, I'd much rather be a sober alcoholic, than try to impersonate an alcoholic who is sober.

Much easier that way...
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Old 05-20-2018, 08:08 PM   #250 (permalink)
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Old 05-24-2018, 01:06 PM   #251 (permalink)
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The Sobrety Calendar tells me that, 616 days have now passed since I my sober recovery commenced, something, in my case I never expected to happen so I got to thinking about a couple of the things I don't miss,

I don't miss staring at that pool of clear, blue water seconds before the first bout of reverse parasolsis hits and I vomit into the toilet bowl!

I don't miss the fact that now when my lips move it is more than likely I am actually telling the truth.

I don't miss the fear that arose when I'm driving my car every time a police car hoves into view.

What I like is enlarging my spiritual existence, particularly when I sit still in the morning with my first cup of tea, smoke a cigarette and know where I slept last night, even if it is now on my own because now I'm learning to like me and if I like me, other people will like me to.Michael.
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Old 05-24-2018, 01:07 PM   #252 (permalink)
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Totally agree - not nice at all !

QUOTE=SoberLeigh;6851291]Realizing that I had no recollection of a conversation the previous night.[/QUOTE]
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Old 05-24-2018, 01:07 PM   #253 (permalink)
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A few things I don't miss...

1. Rushing home from work driving like a mad woman in desperation to pour a glass of wine.
2. The long list of people I would have to apologise to after a bender.
3. Lying in bed all day when the weather is good after being sick 15 times.
4. The look my partner would give me when I would say I'm off to the shop for more wine.
Phew
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Old 06-15-2018, 07:40 AM   #254 (permalink)
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Do I get to post on this thread if?

Do I get to post on this thread if, after having been sober for ten years. I've forgotten what I don't miss but remember everything I like about being safe, sane and sober? Everything before that seems like a dream...
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Old 06-15-2018, 11:50 AM   #255 (permalink)
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I don't miss waking up feeling like hell and hating myself.
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Old 06-16-2018, 06:23 AM   #256 (permalink)
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No longer having to...

What I don't miss about drinking is about drinking is no longer having to live amongst selfish, self centered, delusion people, who are in full flight from reality. As I once was,both in my drinking days and in my early years of sobriety.

I'm not saying it's all gone now but I don't claim spiritual perfection or perfection in anything for that matter, but I do try to make spiritual progress along with, to the best of my ability each and every day to be wise, temperate, courageous and just. Which are known as the Stoic Virtues, supported by the words of the Serenity Prayer...to which they are strongly linked.
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Old 06-28-2018, 03:52 PM   #257 (permalink)
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What I don't miss

Tomorrow I will have one month sober. Not very much time, but enough time to know that so far, I don't miss:

*The 3:00 am (on the dot!) waking up
*Magically appearing bruises
*The extra calories
*Lying to myself about the impact of my drinking
*Driving to the recycling center so that ALL of my wine bottles didn't have to end up in my own recycling bin
*Having to ask my husband how the movie/TV show ended after I passed out

There are more, but that will do for now. Discovering more all the
time ...
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Old 06-28-2018, 06:42 PM   #258 (permalink)
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Old 07-11-2018, 07:02 AM   #259 (permalink)
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28 days sober. I donít miss:

- my young kids telling me Iím drunk
- my young son telling me he canít wait to grow up and get drunk
- not being able to look my husband in the eyes in the morning
- trying to decide which excuse will work best on my husband
- figuring out how to stay out later without hubby getting mad
- snapping at kids/hubby because Iím too hungover (or drunk) to deal with them
- texting apologies the next day
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Old 07-12-2018, 08:56 AM   #260 (permalink)
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11 days sober. I don't miss....

Hangovers
Feeling the need to drink because I feel that ill I can't get through the day sober
Having no money and no food because I've spent all of it on alcohol
Worrying if my friends and family can tell if I've been drinking
Worrying if I've done something bad whilst under the influence
Living in an absolute tip of a flat because I've been too drunk to do any housework and therefore not being able to invite anyone round ever

I just don't miss drinking. My first few days of sobriety were in hospital, and I'm actually glad, because they got me through the initial detox and when I got out, I was ready to fight this thing. I didn't need the crutch of alcohol.

The past couple of mornings I've woke up early, not because I was ill, but because I wanted to. I made myself a coffee, put Channel Four on (UK TV channel) and watched King of Queens, Everyone Loves Raymond and Frasier. Starting the day with a laugh instead of a stiff drink. And I love it!
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