Low Self Esteem
This is a great thread. I especially like the information about the dual diagnoses. I've long known that both issues need to be treated together. Without which, relapse is very common. That need is not addressed in RI. Only one rehab allows medications for mental illness. Even the Salvation Army (in RI), refuses to accept people with medication for depression, anxiety, bipolar or any other mental illness. The doctors and hospitals continually refused to look at the issue - despite their own research which I've shown them. (There are excellent research hospitals here in RI and in Mass.) And now, the prison doctor will only give Trevor an anti-depressant and not a mood stabilizer for bipolar. It's really maddening! Especially when I saw the difference it made in Mass.
But, it's also true that medications do not work as intended when the addict continues to use. That doesn't necessarily completely negate their effect, however. But, no doubt, it interfers.
The article on dual diagnoses really helped me to see how the interrelated issues contribute to a further loss of self esteem.
Thanks for sharing that!
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But, it's also true that medications do not work as intended when the addict continues to use. That doesn't necessarily completely negate their effect, however. But, no doubt, it interfers.
The article on dual diagnoses really helped me to see how the interrelated issues contribute to a further loss of self esteem.
Thanks for sharing that!
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Gabe, is there anything available as to what the doctors are finding AS the most successful treatment with a dual diagnoses. If I missed it, let me know. As with recovery, I like how the counselor told us that saying there is only a 15 percent success rate after rehab, he added that this IS because the addicts are not following the things that they need to follow. That IF they do, the success rate is 80 percent. That put a different spin on how we can view this.
I am imagining it is the same with the treatment of other disorders. I am very interested but still learning about this as I go along. You know I have to say again that responsibility for "self" has to play a major role. This is where the "whole" person has to be treated.
Another difficult thing is we have different doctors that believe different things. Some go for medication alone, and we know there is a money trail in all of that. Some offer alternative care, and combine that with conventional medicines.
Did ya think I could ask SO many questions? lol Never mind...don't answer that
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I am imagining it is the same with the treatment of other disorders. I am very interested but still learning about this as I go along. You know I have to say again that responsibility for "self" has to play a major role. This is where the "whole" person has to be treated.
Another difficult thing is we have different doctors that believe different things. Some go for medication alone, and we know there is a money trail in all of that. Some offer alternative care, and combine that with conventional medicines.
Did ya think I could ask SO many questions? lol Never mind...don't answer that
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I'm no expert Hope.
I'm just posting what I've been finding on the internet regarding all this.
From what I've read, it looks like addiction gets a lot of focus and treatment, and the secondary or co-existing disorder goes ignored or untreated a lot of times.
This could possibly shed some different light on the posts I've read from Anons that say the addict in their life is sober, but still exhibiting "trouble signs".
I don't think successful recovery takes place unless the "whole person" is treated.
It's like trying to get well and treating your broken leg, but ignoring your pneumonia.
I'm just posting what I've been finding on the internet regarding all this.
From what I've read, it looks like addiction gets a lot of focus and treatment, and the secondary or co-existing disorder goes ignored or untreated a lot of times.
This could possibly shed some different light on the posts I've read from Anons that say the addict in their life is sober, but still exhibiting "trouble signs".
I don't think successful recovery takes place unless the "whole person" is treated.
It's like trying to get well and treating your broken leg, but ignoring your pneumonia.
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First off, congrats on 26 months of sobriety. I myself just celebrated my one year in September. I think everyone myself included, have been guilty of lying. Especially in active addiction( they sadly go hand in hand ) The way I look at it is I walked seventeen miles into the woods, and now I must walk seventeen miles out. Trying to rebuild trust is extremely exhausting, however little by little it does happen.Just know as long as you keep on keeping on honestly, it gets better and better. Especially around the holidays, we all just want to get along. I will keep you in my prayers. Try and have a wonderful holiday season.
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First off, congrats on 26 months of sobriety. I myself just celebrated my one year in September. I think everyone myself included, have been guilty of lying. Especially in active addiction( they sadly go hand in hand ) The way I look at it is I walked seventeen miles into the woods, and now I must walk seventeen miles out. Trying to rebuild trust is extremely exhausting, however little by little it does happen.Just know as long as you keep on keeping on honestly, it gets better and better. Especially around the holidays, we all just want to get along. I will keep you in my prayers. Try and have a wonderful holiday season.
Sincerely, Jennifer e-mail me if you like
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Originally Posted by minnie
Gabe, I actually see addiction as being the secondary disorder. But then that's probably a whole new thread.....
Which means (in many cases) the secondary disorder gets treated while the primary one goes ignored.
Oy!
From what I've read, it looks like addiction gets a lot of focus and treatment, and the secondary or co-existing disorder goes ignored or untreated a lot of times....
I don't think successful recovery takes place unless the "whole person" is treated.
It's like trying to get well and treating your broken leg, but ignoring your pneumonia.
I don't think successful recovery takes place unless the "whole person" is treated.
It's like trying to get well and treating your broken leg, but ignoring your pneumonia.
http://ps.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/c.../full/52/5/597
Precis includes % of DD and Mass use of info. Also where to get actual report online.
Kenneth Minkoff, M.D.
http://ps.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/c...full/51/9/1126
Discussion on the development of clinical understanding of dual diagnosis since the 1980s, including medical, moral, psychosocial risk and phenomenological. Argues development of integrated treatment programs, addressing both disorders as well as the delaying of public policy and programs based on wrongful emphasis on diagnosis and illness.
Robert E. Drake, M.D., Ph.D. and Michael A. Wallach, Ph.D.
http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Sec...ontentID=10333
Definitions of and consequences of dual diagnoses with call for, methodologies and factors involved in integrated treatment.
Nami
http://www.toad.net/~arcturus/dd/ddhome.htm
Developing A Cross Training Project For Substance Abuse, Mental Health
And Criminal Justice Professionals Working With Offenders With Co-Existing Disorders (Substance Abuse/Mental Illness)
Bert Pepper, M.D. & Edward L. Hendrickson, M.S.
Complete curriculum included, with overheads
http://www.toad.net/~arcturus/dd/ddhome.htm
Improving Services for Individuals at Risk of, or with,
Co-Occurring Substance-Related
and Mental Health Disorders
A SAMHSA Conference Report and A National Strategy
A Report of the National Advisory Council
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration
U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
Rockville, Maryland
January, 1997
http://pn.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/38/8/2
What’s needed for successful dual diagnoses treatment including liscenses, cost, use of data and treatment modes.
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/420310
Dual Diagnosis: Advanced Clinical Applications CME
Edward C. Senay, MD
Info on two dimensional typology; commonologies between SA and MI and treatment resources.
Hope this helps some of the questions. I hesitated to post here, because the thread is actually about low self esteem. But, Gabe, your statement above suggested it's appropriateness.
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Thanks for the resources Teach.
And no apologies necessary.
This thread went onto a few secondary topics, and that's fine with me.
I think understanding what we're dealing with is very important.
Even though we know that treatment is up to the individual with the problem, awareness on our part helps a great deal.
And no apologies necessary.
This thread went onto a few secondary topics, and that's fine with me.
I think understanding what we're dealing with is very important.
Even though we know that treatment is up to the individual with the problem, awareness on our part helps a great deal.
No problem, Gabe!
I agree, awareness and understanding what we are dealing with is important.
And, yes, it is up to the individual to get help. Just seems like it's made really rediculously impossible at times, ya know? But, then again, there's a whole lotta money to be made with untreated dual diagnoses by lawyers, courtrooms, hospitals, prisons, police....
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I agree, awareness and understanding what we are dealing with is important.
And, yes, it is up to the individual to get help. Just seems like it's made really rediculously impossible at times, ya know? But, then again, there's a whole lotta money to be made with untreated dual diagnoses by lawyers, courtrooms, hospitals, prisons, police....
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Originally Posted by minnie
Gabe, I actually see addiction as being the secondary disorder. But then that's probably a whole new thread.....
Jazz, I admit I was very simplistic in how I worded that post. I would never disagree about the addictive properties of any drug, alcohol included. I do see that a person can get physically addicted - my question would be why a person put themselves into a postion to get addicted in the first place? I think that goes right back around to the original topic of the thread - low self-esteem.
As I was growing up, I didn't have great self-worth or self-respect. However, I did have enough to know that escaping from my life by taking narcotics was not going to solve my problems - instead, I took a less obvious route by focussing on other people's problems. I was offered drugs many times at university, and bar the odd spliff, I always declined. Why did I decline and so many others didn't? Please don't think I am being "holier-than-thou" about this - I am simply intrigued by the process.
As I was growing up, I didn't have great self-worth or self-respect. However, I did have enough to know that escaping from my life by taking narcotics was not going to solve my problems - instead, I took a less obvious route by focussing on other people's problems. I was offered drugs many times at university, and bar the odd spliff, I always declined. Why did I decline and so many others didn't? Please don't think I am being "holier-than-thou" about this - I am simply intrigued by the process.
I read a study recently that "high self esteem" was associated with higher levels of violence and racisim!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I dont really believe it is anything so tangable to be given much thought. Just roll with it...
I dont really believe it is anything so tangable to be given much thought. Just roll with it...
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Originally Posted by minnie
my question would be why a person put themselves into a postion to get addicted in the first place? I think that goes right back around to the original topic of the thread - low self-esteem.
I was offered drugs many times at university, and bar the odd spliff, I always declined. Why did I decline and so many others didn't? Please don't think I am being "holier-than-thou" about this - I am simply intrigued by the process.
I was offered drugs many times at university, and bar the odd spliff, I always declined. Why did I decline and so many others didn't? Please don't think I am being "holier-than-thou" about this - I am simply intrigued by the process.
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Did you know that possibly one of the biggest factors effecting motivation is the confidence to believe we can achieve? Without believing I am capable of doing 'X' all the extrinsic and intrinsic motivation in the world is not going to be reason enough to try.
You know, I am coming round to the viewpoint that most (?all) dysfunctional behaviour boils down to low or non-existent self-esteem. Five, I know you have a problem with terms like self-worth and self esteem, but I also know that you highly rate CBT, which seems to me to be about replacing negative thought patterns with more useful ones.
I don't actually base these thoughts on my own experience as much as reading the stories of others on these boards and readins elsewhere. I have gone back several times to the Recovery Stories Board to see if I was reading something that wasn't there, but I can't avoid the fact that most stories relate "not fitting in" or "feeling left out", if not outright state that the author just "didn't feel good enough." What would have happened to these people if they had been raised to be "enough"?
I don't actually base these thoughts on my own experience as much as reading the stories of others on these boards and readins elsewhere. I have gone back several times to the Recovery Stories Board to see if I was reading something that wasn't there, but I can't avoid the fact that most stories relate "not fitting in" or "feeling left out", if not outright state that the author just "didn't feel good enough." What would have happened to these people if they had been raised to be "enough"?
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Originally Posted by minnie
What would have happened to these people if they had been raised to be "enough"?
And that word...enough.
It seems to creep up in recovery board threads a lot.
As in "I didn't ever feel like I was enough" and "I don't think he loves me enough."
Reminds me of some dialogue from the movie "The Divine Secrets of The Ya-Ya Sisterhood".
Sidda, the daughter of the alcoholic is having a conversation with her father, Shep, the husband of the alcoholic. It goes something like this:
Sidda: Daddy, did you get loved enough?
Shep: Enough? What's enough? My question is...did you?
I love the Shep character. What a big ole Codie.
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Originally Posted by minnie
What would have happened to these people if they had been raised to be "enough"?
For me, I would rather focus on the good lessons I learned from my experience. I learned how NOT to raise my kids w/ low self esteem. I look at them know and think....
It was worth it.
Yes, I picked the word "enough" because I had read it on here a lot. Maybe it's all about "unconditional love" - ie that we are loved for who we are, not our behaviour and that we feel that love from a child. How many times do we hear mothers in the supermarket screaming "You are such a bad boy!" at a child? Their behaviour might be bad, but THEY aren't, but that is the message they are getting.
And Jazz, yes, focussing on the lessons learned and passing those experiences on to the next generation is the key. I think that is what I am driving at here.
And Jazz, yes, focussing on the lessons learned and passing those experiences on to the next generation is the key. I think that is what I am driving at here.
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