Patience vs Acceptance.
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I want to be free. That is an easy one. I've come to find out that being right doesn't mean anything. No person is always right. If they were, they would probably be lacking in compassion because they wouldn't understand what it felt like to be wrong, make mistakes.
Patience vs Acceptance?
For me, the acceptance part is easy. I can accept who I am and the chaos I have created. I can accept the part I played, my flaws and my mistakes. I couldn't always do that. Finding the patience to do so is the hard part. Patience is a virtue.
Patience vs Acceptance?
For me, the acceptance part is easy. I can accept who I am and the chaos I have created. I can accept the part I played, my flaws and my mistakes. I couldn't always do that. Finding the patience to do so is the hard part. Patience is a virtue.
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I want to be free, too. But like Leanne said, it often takes patience to find the acceptance you need to be free. I think with practice, though, acceptance comes more easily.
There is no question that 99% of the time when I am irritible and discontent, it is because I am not accepting something. For instance, I have been pretty discontent with some aspects of my job recently (I know, who isn't?). I can get really caught up in the negatives and sink into some pretty undesirable behaviors. OR, I can accept the fact that everyone has parts of their job they don't like, and if I focus on what is going well, I will be a much happier, contented person. Sounds pretty simple, but it is not always so.
The Serenity Prayer works miracles for me......
There is no question that 99% of the time when I am irritible and discontent, it is because I am not accepting something. For instance, I have been pretty discontent with some aspects of my job recently (I know, who isn't?). I can get really caught up in the negatives and sink into some pretty undesirable behaviors. OR, I can accept the fact that everyone has parts of their job they don't like, and if I focus on what is going well, I will be a much happier, contented person. Sounds pretty simple, but it is not always so.
The Serenity Prayer works miracles for me......
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Absolutely free..without doubt. A person that feels they are right all of the time, has just closed the doors to ever learning again...
No one person can be right all of the time. But the need to be..really worries me.
I am free...and loving it..
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No one person can be right all of the time. But the need to be..really worries me.
I am free...and loving it..
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Originally Posted by splendra
maybe I haven't got a clue here but how does patience vs acceptance = do I want to be right or do I want to be free? I'll choose frreedom at any rate...
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I don't think being right alters your freedom much, but I think having to be right takes away freedom. Not only do I need to accept that I may be wrong sometimes, I also must accept that even if I am sure I am right, it doesn't mean everyone else will think I am right. I can make myself literally sick trying to get people to see it my way. Why bother? If I truly am right, the truth will come out eventually.
Does this make any sense? Now I think I am confused...... Oh well. It doesn't matter because I know I am right!
Does this make any sense? Now I think I am confused...... Oh well. It doesn't matter because I know I am right!
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maybe......if we don't have the need (or let go of the need to be 'right')
we are free to listen better to others, to learn new things to grow as individuals who understand ourselves more then we could if we were locked down to defending our need to be right on our opinions?
I have had the need to be right in the past, when I look back at those situations it was not because I thought I was smarter, or that I was arrogant, I had at that time a desperate 'need' to control the situation because I was afraid.
I no longer try to control things around me (Sometimes I have to put a caramel in my mouth and my hands in my pockets but I'd working hard on this) and I have found I am happier, the world did not stop spinning. I guess setting down that 'need' to control, to be right, has set me free?
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just my thoughts
we are free to listen better to others, to learn new things to grow as individuals who understand ourselves more then we could if we were locked down to defending our need to be right on our opinions?
I have had the need to be right in the past, when I look back at those situations it was not because I thought I was smarter, or that I was arrogant, I had at that time a desperate 'need' to control the situation because I was afraid.
I no longer try to control things around me (Sometimes I have to put a caramel in my mouth and my hands in my pockets but I'd working hard on this) and I have found I am happier, the world did not stop spinning. I guess setting down that 'need' to control, to be right, has set me free?
sigh
just my thoughts
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I had overlooked the fact that people are allowed to have there own opinion even if it differs from mine. I didn't respect that right. Trying to convince others to think and believe as I, is a waste of time and energy. Besides, what does it really matter? I may change my mind tomorrow and take a totally different view. To be fickle is my prerogative. Haha...right?
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