Todays thought! - Let go of resentments
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Todays thought! - Let go of resentments
Today's thought is:
Let go of resentments
Resentments are sneaky, tricky little things. They can convince us they're justified. They can dry up our hearts. They can sabotage our happiness. They can sabotage love.
Most of us have been at the receiving end of an injustice at some time in our lives. Most of us know someone who's complained of an injustice we've done to him or her. Life can be a breeding ground for resentments, if we let it.
"Yes, but this time I really was wronged," we complain.
Maybe you were. But harboring a resentment isn't the solution. If it was, our resentment list would resemble the Los Angeles telephone directory. Deal with your feelings. Learn whatever lesson is at hand. Then let the feelings go.
Resentments are a coping behavior, a tool of someone settling for survival in life. They're a form or revenge. The problem is, no matter who we're resenting, the anger is ultimately directed against ourselves.
Take a moment. Search your heart. Have you tricked yourself into harboring a resentment? If you have, take another moment and let that resentment go.
God, grant me the serenity that acceptance brings.
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More Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
Let go of resentments
Resentments are sneaky, tricky little things. They can convince us they're justified. They can dry up our hearts. They can sabotage our happiness. They can sabotage love.
Most of us have been at the receiving end of an injustice at some time in our lives. Most of us know someone who's complained of an injustice we've done to him or her. Life can be a breeding ground for resentments, if we let it.
"Yes, but this time I really was wronged," we complain.
Maybe you were. But harboring a resentment isn't the solution. If it was, our resentment list would resemble the Los Angeles telephone directory. Deal with your feelings. Learn whatever lesson is at hand. Then let the feelings go.
Resentments are a coping behavior, a tool of someone settling for survival in life. They're a form or revenge. The problem is, no matter who we're resenting, the anger is ultimately directed against ourselves.
Take a moment. Search your heart. Have you tricked yourself into harboring a resentment? If you have, take another moment and let that resentment go.
God, grant me the serenity that acceptance brings.
You are reading from the book:
More Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
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Oh, Time2;
This is such an important thread!!!
I struggle with letting go of resentment against one person only...my ex...
I KNOW I only poison my own life's blood!!!
I have worked very hard to try and let it go. I have accepted the past for what it is...the past.
It is when something NEW happens. Unfortunately, we are still a bit connected due to our son...who is a heroin addict...and he, the ex, has done some really sh!tty stuff to our son. See the ex is a gambler...and when my son was in recovery, (almost 8 months before relapse), the ex promised to pay for the methadone treatment.
He stopped paying without saying anything.
My son went into methadone withdrawal and relapsed.
The ex was also BORROWING MONEY from our son!!!
He approved of my son marrying an illegal alien for the money!
G*D, there is so much more, but, it doesn't really matter, does it? He's a creep. And he's a creep that I will forever be entangled with as a result of our son.
I have to let it go.
But, it is so hard.... everytime there is a new problem...
But, I keep trying to let it go....
You know, I TRY to understand that his addiction to gambling is the same as my son's addiction to heroin. But, I don't believe it. There is no physical withdrawal from gambling. I understand about the "high" one gets from the thrill of the possible win; the adrenaline "rush" he gets.
But, if he were to stop gambling, he would not have physical withdrawals like an addict or alcoholic... So, I have a very difficult time with seeing them both the same. They are not.
I'm sorry, I'm just rambling. But, boy, did you hit a nerve!!!
Thanks for bringing this up. I look forward to hearing others on this issue. Very important issue for our recovery, I think.
Shalom!
This is such an important thread!!!
I struggle with letting go of resentment against one person only...my ex...
I KNOW I only poison my own life's blood!!!
I have worked very hard to try and let it go. I have accepted the past for what it is...the past.
It is when something NEW happens. Unfortunately, we are still a bit connected due to our son...who is a heroin addict...and he, the ex, has done some really sh!tty stuff to our son. See the ex is a gambler...and when my son was in recovery, (almost 8 months before relapse), the ex promised to pay for the methadone treatment.
He stopped paying without saying anything.
My son went into methadone withdrawal and relapsed.
The ex was also BORROWING MONEY from our son!!!
He approved of my son marrying an illegal alien for the money!
G*D, there is so much more, but, it doesn't really matter, does it? He's a creep. And he's a creep that I will forever be entangled with as a result of our son.
I have to let it go.
But, it is so hard.... everytime there is a new problem...
But, I keep trying to let it go....
You know, I TRY to understand that his addiction to gambling is the same as my son's addiction to heroin. But, I don't believe it. There is no physical withdrawal from gambling. I understand about the "high" one gets from the thrill of the possible win; the adrenaline "rush" he gets.
But, if he were to stop gambling, he would not have physical withdrawals like an addict or alcoholic... So, I have a very difficult time with seeing them both the same. They are not.
I'm sorry, I'm just rambling. But, boy, did you hit a nerve!!!
Thanks for bringing this up. I look forward to hearing others on this issue. Very important issue for our recovery, I think.
Shalom!
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Resentments are the hardest part of my recovery.I have an ex-girlfriend who is the mother of my son.I have never seen him,not even a photo,dont know his name or nothing.And its not going to happen until I get it done through the courts.When we were together she cheated on me several times.( A paterity test will reveal if the kid is even mine!) She threw a bottle through my window,stalks me here at SR,has hacked into my verizon wireless acct,made attemps to make purchases on-line using my name and SS#.And much more.To not have resentments is tough.But,what good will they do for me? Or for my son? Instead,I try praying for her.I pray God will give her all in life she needs.Her actions are out of my control.
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You're right, time2;
The resentments will do neither of us any good!
It will only poison US!
That's why it's important to let it go....
I remember you telling about your child...I pray this works out for the best...for you and the child...
Shalom!
The resentments will do neither of us any good!
It will only poison US!
That's why it's important to let it go....
I remember you telling about your child...I pray this works out for the best...for you and the child...
Shalom!
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i had so many resentments.....doing my step 4-5 has allowed my to let alot of them , i pray for those that i have a hard time letting go....I found though that I am my biggest resentment...thats the hardest of all to let go.....Forgiveness is so easy to say but harder to do. Accetance precedes forgiveness. I must remember that in active addiction i was not myself. But being there for so long i don't know me any other way. The gifts of recovery are introducing me to me.
I guess the easiset way for me is to remember that a resentment does not pay rent,...i do alot of evictions..lol Gratitude for the lessens that person has taught me is a better head space to be in. Also better for the heart. When my heart and mind are on the same page, to me that's growth. \\//peace
I guess the easiset way for me is to remember that a resentment does not pay rent,...i do alot of evictions..lol Gratitude for the lessens that person has taught me is a better head space to be in. Also better for the heart. When my heart and mind are on the same page, to me that's growth. \\//peace
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My friend, this is so true. I have nursed a resentment towards two co-workers for a very long time and today I am willing to let it go. I had to first admit to myself and another what they were doing/did to me, that what they were/are doing to me hurt, that I didn't like them and what they did to me. Then amazingly day 6 of the New Wine course help break open the dam of tears of pain I had within. Then I began to see what I did in rebuttal, I accepted that I had a resentment realizing I only hurt myself and became willing to let it all go. The co-workers may not change - that's not my business but I am willing to change and let the resentment go. I'm being selfish in a good way - I'm letting the resentment go because I know that in return I will have that connectiveness with God again. There is nothing worse than being separated from God.
Thanks...great topic! God Bless.
Thanks...great topic! God Bless.
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From what you say here and in some of your other posts I know that this is a difficult situation for you with your son. The paternity test needs to be done but I believe in your heart you already love and care for him. I hope things go well for you and your son even to the point of your getting custody of him if that is best. As you say resentments won’t do you or your son any good. I wish you well in putting them aside, as difficult as that is. You both are and have been in my prayers.
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