Doug

Being a healthy parent means being firm but nurturing, giving children a decent sense of the boundaries along with lots of unconditional love.
--Karen Shaud

In a healthy family, life goes along and everybody pitches in to do the housework. Some people wonder why housework is such a big deal. It is because people need to contribute to a group in order to feel they belong to it. Housework makes us part of the same group--our house, our family. We make our house comfortable so we can feel comfortable and safe in it. We show love for ourselves by making our surroundings likeable. And when we do physical work, we can do our inner housekeeping, letting go of negative feelings that pile up during the day.

On days when life feels out of control, we feel good when we do one simple job: clean the messy desk, wash dirty dishes, shovel the snowy walk. In this way we regain control of our feelings as well as a perspective on those things within our control.

What simple work do I need to do to feel better today?

historyteach

So true...
When we change what we are doing, we change what we are feeling.
One time, I was sooooo upset, angry, negative.... I had all this negative energy, and had to channel it somewhere...
I started painting the living room. In the end, I had a beautiful new room; put up new curtains; flowers...
My mind was clear, my spirit renewed. I felt joy as I gazed at the product of my labor. I'll never forget the principle you espouse here as a result of that day.
Change what we are doing, and we change what we are feeling...so simple; so profound in experience.
Today, I'll finish cleaning out and organizing a file cabnet...perhaps I'll be able to find things I need then, as I need them!
But, the important part is, that in keeping busy, I'll not have time to obsess over my son's condition! Doing something good for me is good for my recovery.
Thanks for sharing this!
L'Chaim!