Things to quit..
Redmayne
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Things to quit..
Remembering that alcoholism is both a physical allergy and a mental obsession.
A fact of which I remind myself,in my recovery every day think it's also worth remembering that as well as quitting drinking I need to quit,
1. Trying to please everyone.
2. Fearing change .
3. Living in the past.
4. Putting myself down.
5. Overthinking.
None of which are easy but a day at a time are achievable...small victories, win big battles.
'You must control events otherwise events will control you,' - Sun Tzu, 'The Art of War'.
A fact of which I remind myself,in my recovery every day think it's also worth remembering that as well as quitting drinking I need to quit,
1. Trying to please everyone.
2. Fearing change .
3. Living in the past.
4. Putting myself down.
5. Overthinking.
None of which are easy but a day at a time are achievable...small victories, win big battles.
'You must control events otherwise events will control you,' - Sun Tzu, 'The Art of War'.
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Location: Atlanta
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Good post!
I call it "emotional sobriety" - my goal for living my best life. Everything- especially physical sobriety- follows from having that. By that I mean, in your terms of what else I needed to "give up":
- selfishness and manipulative behavior (ie, I want what I want, no matter how it effects others and such)
- dishonesty- in big and small things- and some of the things/ways I was dishonest were shockingly awful
- self-flagellation and the cycle of guilt-shame-repeat; amends (in toto then ongoing by living in Step 10) have been the key for me
- erratic, dramatic, etc behavior - this is directly connected to maintaining an evenness, and ability to better self-correct, etc that is part of emotional sobriety
I am sure there are others (these are probably also the "names" of some of my character defects!). I have found the "new freedom and a new peace" that the steps promise, and can't begin to tell you how wonderful my full, real, kind, happy, peaceful life is now. Problems come- they don't flatten me; everything is figureoutable, as my fiance (also in recovery, at just past 14 mo, and I am just past 18) and I say. Flipping things that upset me (another expression we use) to see why I am disturbed, to look at it from another's view instead of my own, to look for the solution ("if I am not the problem, there is no solution") and such....my keys to this life I have now.
Thanks for posting.
I call it "emotional sobriety" - my goal for living my best life. Everything- especially physical sobriety- follows from having that. By that I mean, in your terms of what else I needed to "give up":
- selfishness and manipulative behavior (ie, I want what I want, no matter how it effects others and such)
- dishonesty- in big and small things- and some of the things/ways I was dishonest were shockingly awful
- self-flagellation and the cycle of guilt-shame-repeat; amends (in toto then ongoing by living in Step 10) have been the key for me
- erratic, dramatic, etc behavior - this is directly connected to maintaining an evenness, and ability to better self-correct, etc that is part of emotional sobriety
I am sure there are others (these are probably also the "names" of some of my character defects!). I have found the "new freedom and a new peace" that the steps promise, and can't begin to tell you how wonderful my full, real, kind, happy, peaceful life is now. Problems come- they don't flatten me; everything is figureoutable, as my fiance (also in recovery, at just past 14 mo, and I am just past 18) and I say. Flipping things that upset me (another expression we use) to see why I am disturbed, to look at it from another's view instead of my own, to look for the solution ("if I am not the problem, there is no solution") and such....my keys to this life I have now.
Thanks for posting.
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Originally Posted by Redmayne 
Remembering that alcoholism is both a physical allergy and a mental obsession.
A fact of which I remind myself,in my recovery every day think it's also worth remembering that as well as quitting drinking I need to quit,
1. Trying to please everyone.
2. Fearing change .
3. Living in the past.
4. Putting myself down.
5. Overthinking.
None of which are easy but a day at a time are achievable...small victories, win big battles.
'You must control events otherwise events will control you,' - Sun Tzu, 'The Art of War'.
A fact of which I remind myself,in my recovery every day think it's also worth remembering that as well as quitting drinking I need to quit,
1. Trying to please everyone.
2. Fearing change .
3. Living in the past.
4. Putting myself down.
5. Overthinking.
None of which are easy but a day at a time are achievable...small victories, win big battles.
'You must control events otherwise events will control you,' - Sun Tzu, 'The Art of War'.
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