suebug

that you can't drink like others? The hardest part for me has been my jealousy of the "happy hour" concept. Dosen't that seem like such fun??? Unfortunatly, "happy hour" always turns into "happy hours, unhappy evening, miserable morning". I suppose we have to compare ourselves to a handicapped person who can't walk or run like others. I've known disabled people who've spent a lifetime sad and angry for their condition, and others who made peace and who's lives flourished. That's why we are here, I suppose, to flourish. And accept what we cannot change. I will say, though, watching happy hour occur will probably always tug at my heart a bit. What are your thoughts?

Dan

You mean do I resent those"Social Drinkers" ?
Yeah, I still get some thoughts of why me...
Bottom line is if I drink or use again, the result will likely be the same as the last time. Took me a looooooong time to understand that though! Yeah, these people that can stop before getting stupid... I'm just not one of them.

indigo

Sue I understand your anger, it's real I know it too. Please donn't stop posting, someone will respond.

Indigo

1Marty

I know how you feel. I do feel kind of upset sometimes. When I am out at a restaurant or bar, and I think that I will never be able to pick up that drink again, I still sometimes get choked up. Feel like I can't breath. I guess I need to concenrate on one day at a time.

Chy

It took me a long while to accept my little problem. I too wondered if the feelings of wishful thinking, social drinking would ever quit haunting me. Once I became able to accept who I was, where I've been and where I don't want to go, those feelings of envy began to lift. Today, it's okay though, because the blessings and peace I have found, well, I wouldn't trade it for all the happy hours in the world. It get's better.

namommy

I think most people like us get jealous. I will be the first to admit, I am not in recovery because I hated getting high, If that were the case I wouldn't need to be here. I LOVED getting high, but HATED everything that went with it. And the 'everything that went with it' is what I have to remember on a daily basis.

Laurie D.

godsonmyside

I used to feel sorry for the "social Drinkers" cause they didnt know how to really party, as far as a social user, have yet to meet the social user of what I use. But my wife can have a bottle of wine for ever, hell, she dumps most of it down the drain anyway.

HHButterfly

I definitely know that anger/jealousy. I often find myself wishing that I could just be a social drinker/user. But if I think it through, reality hits and I KNOW that I always get out of control. If I start with just one, I might as well say that Im turning my life over to that drug or drink. At least thats the way things always end up. I just cant afford to let that happen anymore. One is too many.

Heather

Gutterdrunk

acceptance was the key for me. My friend says that "if you don't remember your last drunk, then maybe you havn't had it yet"

Pitiful and incomprehensible, that was me.

S**t, I felt like I had lost my best friend when I started getting sober.

That thinking had to be smashed.

nee nee

I am very angry and resentful of the people that can drink. Also I couldn't seem to give up my friends that were drinkers. That's why I've progressed so far and have lost most of them by now anyway interestingly enough. Pushed them away, because I couldn't be falling down drunk in front of them. All along damaging my marriage greatly, Risking my kids lives, and warping them. Also totally screwing up my body, and mental health. Now totally depressed and hopeless. I pray to God with his grace I'm done. I'm 3 days sober.

Doug

Congrats on the 3 days and welcome Nee.

I'd like to suggest you go up into the Newcomers Forum and post a little introduction. There's alot more folks up there, and as a result, you'll find alot of support alot faster.


Here's a link to that Forum: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/

aasharon90

I like many use to feel angry that I was different
from "normal"drinkers...I use to think i could drink
others under the table till something happened
and i would get drunk, sick and in trouble.

Alcohol stopped working for me...Dog-gone-it...

Today, i have the knowledge of my DISEASE.

And i know that alcohol is POISON to me....all
i see is cross bones and a skull on all those pretty
packages of liquor...

POISON or ALCOHOL can kill me and it almost did...
TWICE....

Once with a horrible accident in Feb 90 and once
again in Aug.90 when the progression of my disease
which i didnt realize it at the time PROGRESSED
extremely fast that I tried to end my life....

I entered a 28 day rehab where i replaced drinking
with the tolos and knowledge of my disease and how
to stay sober ODAAT...ONE DAY AT A TIME.

My soul purpose in life today is to share my own
EXPERIENCES, STRENGTHS AND HOPES with others
to help the next alcoholic achieve sobriety.

Today i dont wonder if i can ever drink normally
again because i already know the answer to that
question....I can't....nor ever will....Ive ACCEPTED
that fact for the past 16 yrs.

For that knowledge Im truely grateful for.

It does get better as long as we continue
to follow the 12 steps provided to us
thru our AWESOME program of ...

ALCOHOLIC ANONYMOUS

Thanks for letting me share.