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Old 06-09-2015, 04:28 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents


I set up this group for those of us who likely suffered insidious and constant forms of abuse at the hands of our own parents.

There are a few of us here but not many. And while others may empathise, I think we can be certain they do not understand.




I have been looking at these video's for weeks and still have only got through a handful, they have been that difficult to process.

I looked at a new one today and I cried, probably the first time in my life that I cried and knew why. An amazing resource & man:




Here is the group, and I will begin adding content now. Peace...

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-parents.html
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Arrow Adult Children of Narcissists: SoberRecovery from Malignant Narcissistic Abuse

I changed the name of the group slightly, I'm not sure if that affects the link

So, here it is again: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rcissists.html

I appreciate this stuff is hard work but if anyone is affected feel free to join
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder Mother Page

I doesn't look like the group is going to become very robust, lol. I want to share a new resource I found the other night with others here however;

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Mother

It's a good one, with plenty of validating quotes and links in the one place. I try not to look at this stuff at night but that is what usually happens.
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I will check the video out later. On a flight.
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Hi my1life and a great username btw. That guys video's are immense, if anyone is affected by a NPD mother (and how could one not be) I cannot recommend them enough.

Narcissism & Why We Can't Win

I have big love for him. Nothing has been more helpful to me in recent years, of course I credit members here with making me aware of NPD first and foremost. Enjoy flight.
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Strat, I'm sorry I didn't come across this group earlier.

I was raised by a narcissistic mother and it has been a struggle to accept and process. I cried also when I watched the video. Some of the words used by the man in the video grabbed my heart. He said he had to accept that he was never loved and I have too. I think the worst thing for me was that I believed that I was defective and less than, so much so that I never questioned it. It was decades later when I finally understood that none of it was about me. It was all about her.
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Hello! Count me in on this group. I haven't watched the video as I do not want a trigger right now. But, yes, I suffered greatly.
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We are not alone, thank God. Those
tapes, memories still pop up even today
some almost 60 yrs later, no contact
for awhile now.

I continue to want to connect from time
to time but as soon as I do, I am sucked
right back into the madness and regret
my actions.

No sexual abuse, only extreme verbal,
physical, emotional abuse at the hands
of a Dr. Jeckel/Mr.Hyde, narcistic, sick,
mom dealing with her own demons while
I was growing up.

Im still watching the video, needing to
know more so I can stop those memories
from popping up and causing me emotional
distress still today.

Knowing none of us are ever alone
in this is powerful. We stand strong
again those that harmed us. <hugs>
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I'm not sure whether my mother is a narcissist but I do know she has no love or affection for anyone but her boyfriend. I was neglected growing up and had low self esteem.
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I'm a bit late to this thread, but I was raised by a verbally abusive, sometimes physically, narcissistic mother. My self esteem has been horribly effected by it and it was a nightmare growing up and still is sometimes. I know this subject well and prayers to anyone effected by this.
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Glad to see this thread.
I was raised by a BPD/NPD mother and NPD father. It still unfortunately effects me to this day, but I continue to work really hard in therapy. The most important thing for me to do is to stay mentally separate from them and to no longer believe their lies they fed me during childhood.

I still shake my head when I read stuff online that people say "a mother's love is unconditional" because well no. That's not the case with one whose got NPD.

I hope this thread continues. I have an old friend who we've always been a lot alike underneath the surface. We found out a few years ago through chats that both of our mothers have undiagnosed NPD. It's interesting. We don't talk about it but there's definitely a bond there from this experience that unfortunately is rarely talked about in society.

Yesterday I saw a sign that said "You Are Enough." It just sort of hit home because like the link Stratman posted, "Narcissism and Why We Can't Win", it's a good reminder that we are enough. We don't have to change for anyone. We will never be "good enough" for the narcissist. It's a game we'll never win because it's their illogical rules. They can't continue to play their game if we walk away.
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So how do you avoid replaying the tapes? I'm tired of them. They drain me. Therapy doesn't make them go away, either.
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They are draining and I'm sorry you're going through that. I read a thing on line a long time ago about daughters of narcissistic mothers that I found fascinating. That came up when I typed it in and I felt like I was reading about my growing up years.
Best to you. This is a very hard subject to "fix", usually because it isn't fixable, but maybe manageable for you. xxoo Aly
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They are draining and I'm sorry you're going through that. I read a thing on line a long time ago about daughters of narcissistic mothers that I found fascinating. That came up when I typed it in and I felt like I was reading about my growing up years.
Best to you. This is a very hard subject to "fix", usually because it isn't fixable, but maybe manageable for you. xxoo Aly
Thanks Aly. Do you remember what it was that you read?
What helps you make it "manageable" if not fixable?
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Pathway, I believe I just typed in adult daughters of narcissistic mothers and this cool page was there. I don't think I still have the link, but I will look. Please let me know if you get any info. Good Luck, love. I'll keep looking for a link.
http://www.psychforums.com/narcissis...opic56025.html
Maybe this link will lead you to something, I hope.
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Pathway, I believe I just typed in adult daughters of narcissistic mothers and this cool page was there. I don't think I still have the link, but I will look. Please let me know if you get any info. Good Luck, love. I'll keep looking for a link.
http://www.psychforums.com/narcissis...opic56025.html
Maybe this link will lead you to something, I hope.
That's ok I appreciate the offer but please don't waste time looking for it! :-) I'll look at the link you provided. I also have a friend with a narcissistic mother who recommended the book "Will I Ever Be Good Enough".
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Hope you were able to get some info on line, Pathway!
Thanks for the book, I'll take a look at it. I think it's coming out more now and there is a bit more info out there. I think educating yourself on you and how (if) to deal with it, is a good start, like you are doing. Best of luck. Love, Aly xxoo
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