Turns gay on cocaine?
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Turns gay on cocaine?
Long story, but in short, I met a guy couple of years ago. Says he is straight, but every time he took cocaine he would want to be intimate with me, this happened many times. Told me he fell for my personality. He has just been to rehab, gotten out last week and told me the sex etc was purely drug related. Has anyone else experience of this? Can someone be just gay on drugs but not when sober?
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Hi there Glenjo99,
From my experience stimulants can make some 'straight' men more likely to desire other men. I’m not sure whether this is the drugs making someone more confident to be true to themselves or whether it's just the stimulant making someone horny and up for doing things they may not like or do without drugs.
So, I guess coke and other stimulants can make some men ‘gay’, in a way.
Hope that makes some sense!
J
From my experience stimulants can make some 'straight' men more likely to desire other men. I’m not sure whether this is the drugs making someone more confident to be true to themselves or whether it's just the stimulant making someone horny and up for doing things they may not like or do without drugs.
So, I guess coke and other stimulants can make some men ‘gay’, in a way.
Hope that makes some sense!
J
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Originally Posted by BP2 
Hi there Glenjo99,
From my experience stimulants can make some 'straight' men more likely to desire other men. I’m not sure whether this is the drugs making someone more confident to be true to themselves or whether it's just the stimulant making someone horny and up for things they may not like or do without drugs.
So, I guess coke and other stimulants can make some men ‘gay’, in a way.
Hope that makes some sense!
J
From my experience stimulants can make some 'straight' men more likely to desire other men. I’m not sure whether this is the drugs making someone more confident to be true to themselves or whether it's just the stimulant making someone horny and up for things they may not like or do without drugs.
So, I guess coke and other stimulants can make some men ‘gay’, in a way.
Hope that makes some sense!
J
Thanks yes that does make sense. I may have fallen for someone like this.
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Sorry to hear that, it's a difficult one. If there was some closeness and affection outside of the sex and drugs then it could have been more than just the drugs. Sadly some people just aren't comfortable with who or what they are, there can be many reasons for this.
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I've known people that don't identify as gay but have fallen in love and had sexual relationships with a specific PERSON. I almost married a woman at one point even though I'm pretty much a gay identified man (I called myself bisexual when younger). We didn't for reasons OTHER than sex, which was amazing. The relationship itself had an addictive quality in general, not just the sex. I have never bantered nor laughed with ANYONE like I did with her, before or since. And we did drink a fair amount at times.
Being gay isn't a simple yes/no on/off switch.
I agree with the post above that some people (usually men) will have sex with men on stimulants but not generally at any other time....have heard this happening a lot with guys on meth (could also be that meth is so entwined in the gay community in Southern California).
As I said when you asked the same question in the LGBT forum...it's a complicated question without a simple answer. Sexuality itself is complicated for many people. I used to joke with my straight guy friends that a certain guy was a sixpack away from being gay. Or a bottle of tequila. Or a half a beer (usually said disparagingly), so buzz can push someone in a direction. Were they actually bisexual before and the booze pushed them into sex? Probably, but no way to say for sure.
Being gay isn't a simple yes/no on/off switch.
I agree with the post above that some people (usually men) will have sex with men on stimulants but not generally at any other time....have heard this happening a lot with guys on meth (could also be that meth is so entwined in the gay community in Southern California).
As I said when you asked the same question in the LGBT forum...it's a complicated question without a simple answer. Sexuality itself is complicated for many people. I used to joke with my straight guy friends that a certain guy was a sixpack away from being gay. Or a bottle of tequila. Or a half a beer (usually said disparagingly), so buzz can push someone in a direction. Were they actually bisexual before and the booze pushed them into sex? Probably, but no way to say for sure.
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Originally Posted by BP2
Sorry to hear that, it's a difficult one. If there was some closeness and affection outside of the sex and drugs then it could have been more than just the drugs. Sadly some people just aren't comfortable with who or what they are, there can be many reasons for this.
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Originally Posted by MindfulMan
I've known people that don't identify as gay but have fallen in love and had sexual relationships with a specific PERSON. I almost married a woman at one point even though I'm pretty much a gay identified man (I called myself bisexual when younger). We didn't for reasons OTHER than sex, which was amazing. The relationship itself had an addictive quality in general, not just the sex. I have never bantered nor laughed with ANYONE like I did with her, before or since. And we did drink a fair amount at times.
Being gay isn't a simple yes/no on/off switch.
I agree with the post above that some people (usually men) will have sex with men on stimulants but not generally at any other time....have heard this happening a lot with guys on meth (could also be that meth is so entwined in the gay community in Southern California).
As I said when you asked the same question in the LGBT forum...it's a complicated question without a simple answer. Sexuality itself is complicated for many people. I used to joke with my straight guy friends that a certain guy was a sixpack away from being gay. Or a bottle of tequila. Or a half a beer (usually said disparagingly), so buzz can push someone in a direction. Were they actually bisexual before and the booze pushed them into sex? Probably, but no way to say for sure.
Being gay isn't a simple yes/no on/off switch.
I agree with the post above that some people (usually men) will have sex with men on stimulants but not generally at any other time....have heard this happening a lot with guys on meth (could also be that meth is so entwined in the gay community in Southern California).
As I said when you asked the same question in the LGBT forum...it's a complicated question without a simple answer. Sexuality itself is complicated for many people. I used to joke with my straight guy friends that a certain guy was a sixpack away from being gay. Or a bottle of tequila. Or a half a beer (usually said disparagingly), so buzz can push someone in a direction. Were they actually bisexual before and the booze pushed them into sex? Probably, but no way to say for sure.
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