rskehres

Hello All!
Let me first start off by saying that I myself am not a, addict to any drugs. I am simply here to gain information because I believe that my ex-girlfriend may have developed some serious problems. I am 21 y/o and she is 19 (age may have a lot to do with what's going on)
We had been together for about a year and a half, happy as could be. From the get-go it was obvious that we were so similar it was scary, and that way it remained throughout our relationship. We had plans to live together, finish school, and start our lives. She's a great girl with ambitions and talent in the art field. Within the last month, she got a new job and made some new friends (all of whom happen to be lesbians, but I don't think that has much to do with anything). From the time that she started spending a lot of time with these people, things have changed. She goes out drinking most nights with the promise to me that she'll be home, only to end up too drunk to drive and crashing at one of their apts. This went on for a few weeks, over and over the same thing. I'd plan dates, fun days together, whatever, and it was always trumped by her hangover or wanting to go out drinking. I was scared for her and feared that she was being brainwashed into things that aren't her. She's not a big drinker, so the fact that she was going out so much was weird.
Long story short, she dumped me a few weeks ago for what still appears to be no reason other than "it's just not there anymore."
After mauling all of this over in my head and blaming the alcohol, I've come to a new conclusion. She's always enjoyed taking adderall, although not prescribed to her. Every so often she'd grab one from a friend to study (that whole chestnut) and that'd be that.
Through talking with a friend of hers who has also been abandoned, i've learned that in these two weeks, she's only gotten worse. out every night drinking and spending time with these girls (i had my thoughts that maybe she's gay and realizing it, but adderall abuse makes more sense i think). She's lost 15-20 lbs in those two weeks, and from what I could tell only seeing her in passing at school, she's lost color in her face and looks horrible. Her sex drive had been down from the time that she started working there (which I associated with her sexuality) and she just wasn't interested in me in the least it seemed.
I believe that she may have found someone who has a serious problem themselves that has rubbed off on her. I only think this because when i was 19, i got mixed up in the wrong crowd, and myself tried almost everything. Haven't done anything but smoke a little grass since then and i'm proud of myself. But i know what it's like to want something and have it at your fingertips.

What I'm looking for I guess is for someone with this kind of experience to tell me if I may be onto something with these thoughts. Her symptoms are really this...
-Weight loss over a short period of time
-no sex drive
-depressed all the time and not happy with herself at all
-loss of interest in the people who really matter to her
-flunking school (from what I hear)
-no social life outside partying with these girls and only them

she's changed so rapidly it's just awful. I just want to know... does this sound like maybe an adderall or speed problem that's growing, alcoholism, or maybe her actually being gay... those are my thoughts and the more i look at everything a drug problem seems most likely.

thanks for taking the time to read my sob story and hopefully i can get some good advice from you folks.

rskehres

I did not realize this wasn't the thread for this kind of post. I'm moving it to the proper board myself.

Dee74

As the poster decided they posted in error here, I'll close the thread.
Interested parties can look in FFSA.

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