I have a very specific means to help walk you thru a 4th Step thru this thread. It is a lot of work and takes a definite commitment to follow thru. If you are interested, please reply to this thread.
But 1st, as stated by 'August' in the post above, have you done Steps 1,2,3?
If not, I can walk you thru them. I also recommend going thru them again, before starting this Step 4. Please reply if interested.