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Old 03-23-2018, 12:40 PM   #21 (permalink)
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bim and Ann, thank you both so much. I did take my Demon Terrier for a short walk today and while so much about this was so hard (no Ned to lift into or out of the car at the park, constant thoughts of walking there w/him in the past) there were tiny moments of peace, of seeing the shape of a bare tree against the blue sky.
And yes, Ann, I pray for the day that I feel him tell me that I did the right thing and that he's happy, healthy and strong now--and that he'll keep an eye out for me when I get there, too.
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Honeypig so sorry for your loss.



My God, I thank you for blessing me with the angel that you sent to me as my pet. I know that this divine one came from your Grace, as my very days were blessed by your presence of that one in my life. For this I am grateful. My heart is released from the burden of sadness in knowing that we will be reunited again when we return to our true home in Heaven. Please help me through my loss with the understanding and knowing that my pet remains with me in spirit, loving me still as I love them. Thank you for giving me the time with this divine angel, whom you sent directly from your love. I have truly been blessed. Amen.
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I have the sweater that he wears around the house (old farmhouse, drafty down on the floor) tucked in my bed. It holds his short copper-colored hairs and his smell.

Here we are, in better days, reading in bed, one of our favorite things to do:

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Neferkamichael, thank you for that.
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Honeypig, you look just as I imagined.
I lost my beautiful English Mastiff, Heaven, way before her time. I still had my Lab, Jackpot (who we got to be her companion) - but as you said, it wasn't the same without her. I cried my heart out & grieved 'til I was sick for a few days. Then I thought - what if Heaven somehow knows I'm in such pain due to losing her. She was all about comforting me and helping to see me through a terrible time. It helped when I thought of it that way. Still, what kind of shallow people would we be if we weren't heartbroken to lose such a friend? It's the price we pay for true love, human or canine. Praying for you to feel easier. Hope you can get some sleep.
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HP, what a beautiful picture. One to treasure and hold close in these difficult days. My heart knows the type of pain you're going through and I will pray for you to find peace.

A BRIDGE CALLED LOVE

It takes us back to brighter years,
to happier sunlit days
and to precious moments
that will be with us always.

And these fond recollections
are treasured in the heart
to bring us always close to those
from whom we had to part.

There is a bridge of memories
from Earth to Heaven above…
It keeps our dear ones near us
It’s the bridge that we call love.

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Old 03-24-2018, 03:18 AM   #28 (permalink)
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Once again, thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers. I appreciate that you shared stories of your own loss and the pain of it. It helps me feel that I'm not alone as well as reminding me that eventually the pain of his loss will pass and I'll only have the sweet memories of our time together.

Please continue to light candles, pray, and think of Ned, Daisy and I. This is going to be a long time in healing.

What a face, what a dog--he was the hound of my heart.

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March 24, 2018

Death of a Dog

The next morning I felt that our house
had been lifted away from its foundation
during the night, and was now adrift,
though so heavy it drew a foot or more
of whatever was buoying it up, not water
but something cold and thin and clear,
silence riffling its surface as the house
began to turn on a strengthening current,
leaving, taking my wife and me with it,
and though it had never occurred
to me until that moment, for fifteen years
our dog had held down what we had
by pressing his belly to the floors,
his front paws, too, and with him gone
the house had begun to float out onto
emptiness, no solid ground in sight.


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Somehow, the Easter
cactus blooms, even though my
basset hound is gone.


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Old 03-24-2018, 04:58 AM   #31 (permalink)
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That is some nose, HP.
Bet he was quite the sniffer outdoors.
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Old 03-24-2018, 05:14 AM   #32 (permalink)
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Yes, that hound loved to smell things! In fact, if you're looking to adopt a basset, the rescues all specifically mention on their application that you must agree NOT to ever let your hound roam w/o a leash, b/c just like Toucan Sam, they will indeed "follow their nose wherever it goes."

Several months after Ned had come to live with us, XAH and I went out to do some errands. It was a pleasant day and we left the storm door open, only closing the screen door. When we came home, we saw our ancient Norwegian elkhound reclining in the yard, attended by Daisy, the little black terrier mix, and no sign of Ned. Apparently Daisy had jumped up on the screen door and pulled down on the lever-style handle, opening the door. "Who let the dogs out?" It was DAISY!

The elkhound was ancient and not very mobile, so he hadn't wandered. Daisy stayed to keep him company. And Ned? Well, we searched frantically and came home to a phone call from the woman who'd found him "following his nose." Unfortunately, by the time we returned her call (no cell phones then), she had already taken him to a local shelter. So we had to go bail our boy out of jail, but it was well worth it to have him home and safe again.

XAH installed a hook and eye on the screen door, and the wandering ways of our dogs were curtailed, to our great relief and I'm sure much to their disappointment.

Here's a pic of her. She LOOKS sweet and innocent, but it's all a ruse, designed to get you off your guard!

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Daisy!
Clever girl, but naughty.
My cats are more likely to get trapped IN, not out.
I heard an unearthly yowling from the basement the other day.
It was Wes, my avatar.
He had gone down when the door was open and gotten stuck down there.
Boy, did he give me the stinkeye, as only a cat can.
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HP, I love you sharing all this with us, I feel like I'm there with your beloved furkids. The picture of you and Ned is adorable, please get it printed on good paper and framed. I have a picture of my Toby sleeping on my husband's shoulder while my husband slept, cheek to cheek they were. It's a sweet picture but fading because I never thought to have it printed on good paper by a professional.

You look like I picture you, and are a beautiful lady with a kind heart. Kind hearts get broken more often but shine brighter for the deeds.

Daisy will probably miss Ned too, it will take time for your hearts to heal.

Keeping you all in my prayers, that like Ned, you can find peace once more.
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These are wonderful posts, hp - thanks for them. I thought of you this morning while waiting for the coffee.

Ned was a handsome boy! I can see him running with those big ears flapping! I also have had hunting dogs. You're right, they will run after their noses.

When my last pet died I was still on facebook and he was my heart and I was heartbroken. At the same time I was coming to terms with a relationship breakup. When I told him I had my beloved cat put down, he never even said one word. That was another nail in the coffin of that relationship.

On facebook I made a post with tons of images of that kitty and a few stories. I'm glad I did since a lot of those pictures got lost in subsequent computer breakdowns. I can still go look at that album and it's comforting. They never leave my heart, those that have gone before me.

Hang on.
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Old 03-24-2018, 09:50 AM   #36 (permalink)
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Ann, Daisy does miss Ned. I would always take them both to the vet even if only one had an appointment. She is not a dog who does well alone, and since she is a couple years younger than Ned, I have always feared this situation, where he is gone and she is by herself.

I have filled out adoption applications at a couple of basset rescues, just so they will be on file when the time comes--they are volunteer operations, so things take time. I would love to have a basset again. However, I believe that HP will connect me w/the next hound I'm supposed to have, when I've recovered sufficiently from Ned's loss to think clearly.

I am checking into places to have some prints made of the pictures of Ned--that is a priceless suggestion, Ann, and I thank you.

bim, Ned really was a handsome guy. In fact, that was exactly what the copy below his picture on the shelter web site said: "Ned is a handsome fellow with a fine coat." XAH and I laughed about that many times, but it was absolutely true. His face got really white in his later years but he just looked more distinguished.

He and Daisy used to race through the house, chasing each other, when they were both young. My floors are either wood or linoleum, and he'd skid and slide on those big feet, ears flapping, Daisy cornering like a sports car and him handling like an 18-wheeler on ice!

The first night he was at our house, he wasted no time in climbing right over my legs, plopping himself down between XAH and I as we sat on our futon watching a movie, and squirming until he was comfy. Bassets may look like small dogs, but really, they are BIG dogs with short legs--they have big feet, big ears, big heads, big strong shoulders, big long bodies, big sturdy hind ends, and tails that could be used as a bludgeon.

Thank you all for bearing with me--it is helpful to me to reminisce about the good times, helping to overlay the pain of him being gone.
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That is so sweet about all the intertwined relationships.

I did exactly the same thing, and posted all my thoughts. It does help.
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Both Daisy and Ned look so well groomed and happy, and most of all they look very loved. How blessed they both are to have found their way into your heart and your home. No dog was every loved more.

I laugh picturing them running through the house, Ned didn't care if he ran like an 18-wheeler and it would be so funny to see him try to catch Daisy.

The day will come that memories of Ned will make you smile, even laugh, and yet your heart will twinge with the loss still. One of the reasons I never got another cat is that my Toby was so very special, I doubt that any cat could ever live up to my expectations...and yes, I know, each love is different and all worth while. And yet...I catch myself looking these days (9 years after I lost my Toby)...at shelters and some good rescue places around here. When the time is right, I think some cat will adopt me, just like Toby did.
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Filling out apps and getting ready is the right thing to so.
Even though you are not ready yet, you will be.
Cuz that’s why we are here, to love many, many furkids.
We waited the summer through after my lovely Maudcat died.
I was giving her iv fluids every few days, so that kind of straitjacketed travelling.
So we spent the summer cat-less.
In late August we were ready to adopt again.
I saw my Wes’s face and one lazy white paw sticking out of his crate, and I was a goner.
He and Tula, my whacky norwegian forest cat, got along from day one.
Love my kitties.
I like dogs too, but Mr. M would prefer not to get one.
He likes them, but feels they are a bit of work.
I don’t agree, but....not something I’m going to the mat for.
Years ago, when it was far more common for dogs to be loose, a neighbor’s basset used to come over to say hi.
What a good boy.
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Sorry, not iv fluids, subcutaneous fluids.
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