The "lingo"
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Originally Posted by readerbaby71 
Excellent post. I've been reading the book you recommended, Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change. I love it. It's refreshing to see a different perspective on how to help a loved one with an addiction problem. I also like that they go into the physiological part of addiction in the brain in depth. It's very interesting and enlightening to me. As someone who has had problems with alcohol and bipolar disorder, I wish I would have discovered a lot of these things years ago.
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Most of the lingo doesn't bother me but one thing that always drives me crazy is when someone calls themself or family member "an alcoholic" and I get this picture in my mind of someone drinking too much and then they add that the alcoholic hasn't drank in 20 years. I thought the definition of alcoholic was someone who is dependent on alcohol.
I also dislike the way co-dependent is overused and particularly when describing someone who tries to help an addicted loved one.
I also dislike the way co-dependent is overused and particularly when describing someone who tries to help an addicted loved one.
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"if you are in these rooms enough you will hear your story"
I don't know about you guys but i never heard my story...not even close
most of the stories were chock full of cliches though
"a higher power of your understanding"
sorry..that one smelled like bs coming and going
I don't know about you guys but i never heard my story...not even close
most of the stories were chock full of cliches though
"a higher power of your understanding"
sorry..that one smelled like bs coming and going
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Originally Posted by soberlicious
I want to completely drop the word sober too...but abstinentolicious just doesn't have the same ring to it. Nondrinkolicious? Teetotalicious? Or I could just go by 'licious...but it's a little too gangsta rapper for my taste.
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Originally Posted by soberlicious
I want to completely drop the word sober too...but abstinentolicious just doesn't have the same ring to it. Nondrinkolicious? Teetotalicious? Or I could just go by 'licious...but it's a little too gangsta rapper for my taste.
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That term "real alcoholic" has always bothered me. I guess it's because it sounds like the very thing I told myself to keep drinking when I knew something was seriously wrong. I have honestly wanted to ask people who use that term if they hang out with my AV. Then a few days later you will see a post about alcoholism like being a little bit pregnant. Either you are or you are not right? Those two comments seem mutually exclusive to me. I wish there was a little plastic test strip you could tinkle on after your first blackout so you could make a decision before the darn demon child crowned and you lose your marbles.
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I had similar feelings for a long time and what I did, somewhat consciously but probably more on an unconscious level, was suspend my feelings toward the words that rubbed me the wrong way. I knew what was meant by them, and I didn't want to let it get in the way of my recovery. Over time I realize some words I just never use, others became a part of me and they're no longer charged. In the big picture it's not the words that matter, it's the meaning behind them.
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Originally Posted by silentrun
That term "real alcoholic" has always bothered me.
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Originally Posted by caboblanco
dry drunk
someone who stopped drinking who is an a-hole but they never consider the fact that he might of been an a-hole before he started drinking
someone who stopped drinking who is an a-hole but they never consider the fact that he might of been an a-hole before he started drinking
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Originally Posted by silentrun
Or surrounded by them. You spot it you got it. OK that one is a little true.
I never called anyone a dry drunk...i pretty much think if someone is really a pain in the a while sober a while..it wasn't the booze talking
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