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Nonsensical 03-16-2013 10:39 PM

Letting the Beast Out
 
I let the beast out on Friday. 'A few beers' led to a blackout and I woke up in my neighbor's bushes. Saturday morning the 'hair of the dog' turned into me waking up on the floor of my office at 3 in the afternoon. Nice bruise on my head. I wonder what I hit it on.

I no longer have any control at all when I drink. None. I cannot predict my actions.

It is not acceptable.

There is only one reasonable conclusion.

I am never drinking again.

1stthingsfirst 03-16-2013 11:06 PM

Gosh, I was there just a few days ago. I am 2 days sober. I saw a post of yours on the newbie thread. An everyday drinker, and I have two kids. There is no excuse for how I lived my life over the last year and a half.

Beer was my thing too. I woke up with a huge bruise on my arm. I still hurts a lot. I have NO IDEA how I got it. I felt so ashamed and utterly disappointed in myself.

I hope you get back "on the horse." I wonder if I will have relapses, too; I really don't want to be where I was a few days ago, especially when a few days being sober has felt so good.

Working on self-acceptance and reading a few books has helped. So has this site and the people on it.

Hope you feel better about yourself soon.

instant 03-16-2013 11:32 PM

Seems like the only sane thing to do Nonsensical. I have found life to be so much easier once drinking was off the the list of options. Now I feel I am living life rather than struggling.

Fandy 03-17-2013 01:57 AM

I'm sorry Nonsensical. I've been there. I still remember how craptastic i felt at the time. (July 17, 2010....). I'm happy to report it was also my 2nd to last binge.
I was disgusted with wasting 2 beautiful sunny days drinking in a dark room by myself, wallowing in self pity. The last one was shorter and i came to realize they would happen around the same time, every other month? Go figure, it made no sense to me... i'm a slow learner but i finally got it.
March 17 is a great day to start.
Google "kick the drink easily" by Jason Vale...it's a book, you can download a free sample.
Hope you feel better today.

Dee74 03-17-2013 02:28 AM

sorry to hear Nonsensical - but if it gets you to a point of knowing that drinking is now irrevocably forever in the past for you, it's in essence a positive event :)

mecanix 03-17-2013 02:55 AM

It came as a huge relief when i made that decision Non,
IMHO It's only poison with good advertising,

Bestwishes, M

Nonsensical 03-17-2013 03:45 AM

I'm up. Short night, but I slept most of yesterday. Sleeping it off.

It is somewhat of a relief to have accepted that making my own Big Plan was necessary. I can now guarantee that my drinking will never hurt anyone. If I were to drink I cannot be certain I won't become dangerous.

I don't really feel bad about myself, 1stthingsfirst. I see the positives that Dee pointed out. It's a new day. :)

Nonsensical 03-17-2013 03:56 AM

....oh, and I am never changing my mind.

Having St. Patrick's Day as my sober anniversary is kinda cool, too. :a122:

RobbyRobot 03-17-2013 06:00 AM

Awesome! Way cool!!

Great to hear you being real, Non. :)

freshstart57 03-17-2013 06:04 AM

It got cast into cement for me Nonsensical when I pushed my BP over into the realm of morality, as you did there. I have a friend who lost the life of her husband and infant daughter to a drunk driver. A dozen lives were irrevocably rendered in that split second of horrific and incomprehensible carnage. When I conflated being drunk with risking the lives of others, the goodness or rightness of the plan became complete.

When I think of this, I simply cannot drink again.

soberlicious 03-17-2013 06:40 AM

Hey Non,
I like to quote another favorite member...she says the alcohol question has been "asked and answered". No need to test the hypothesis again, the answer is and will always be the same. That makes it easy to move on. To truly know the answer is to be able to breathe again. It no longer takes up space in my head. I closed the book on it, put it to bed, stuck a fork in it...if I could think of any other nifty cheesy metaphors I would use them.

Now you have more head space to focus on the truly important things in life like family, carpentry...and BACON. xo

Impurrfect 03-17-2013 06:45 AM

((Non)) - My last relapse was, finally, all the proof that I needed that I couldn't do that any more.

Really glad that you found it out without doing any more damage.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

Weasel1966 03-17-2013 11:33 AM

I still think , even though you have a ton of projects, that you should build a coffin for your AV. Who knows.... A little marketing and bam! A new business is born. Every alkie will have to have one! Say a prayer... Put it in.... Throw a piece of paper with the reason why you cannot drink.. Close it up... Put it in the corner.

Might be a silly idea. But it's at least creative!

Sasha4 03-17-2013 11:41 AM

Was this the dinner party night non?

I'm sorry it happened, but you seem strong in your resolve now, so thats good!

Fallow 03-17-2013 11:43 AM


Originally Posted by Nonsensical (Post 3865780)
'A few beers' led to a blackout and I woke up in my neighbor's bushes.

Im sorry I had to laugh at this. Sounds like something I would do :)

Never drinking again and never changing my mind sounds like something I would do too ;)

Nonsensical 03-17-2013 12:07 PM


Originally Posted by Sasha4 (Post 3866501)
Was this the dinner party night non?

I never made it that far. I decided to drink on Friday,and it went quite poorly.

shauninspain 03-17-2013 03:58 PM

Thanks for your posts. Like you my alcoholism appears to have developed to such a point that if I have even a small amount to drink I can loose total control and blackout very quickly and all hell breaks loose. That alcoholism is a progressive illness has become very apparent to me recently. With nasty consequences. I hope you are sober as I type these words. All the best.

Hevyn 03-17-2013 04:22 PM

Hi Nonsensical. You've suffered a setback, but you now have new resolve. That's how I was after my last binge - I suppose I needed further proof. There wasn't a shadow of a doubt. I couldn't touch the stuff. Picking up again would bring danger & probably death. That was over 5 yrs. ago, and I never looked back. I'm glad you're back on track. We know you can do this.

Nonsensical 03-18-2013 02:33 PM

Just went and apologized to the neighbors. I tried to yesterday but they weren't home. His comment, "We've all been there. I had to quit drinking three and a half years ago. Let me know if you need help." With a knowing little nod.

Looks like I may have picked the right neighbor's bushes to fall down in. D'Oh!

Impurrfect 03-18-2013 02:41 PM

Wow, what a great neighbor, huh?:)

Hugs and prayers,

Amy


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