Fantabulous Secular Connections Check-in Part IV
The weekend has landed! Checking in - glad to be here. Got a nice relaxed weekend ahead...
I've got the house to myself next week so i'm a bit worried about that, apprehensive i suppose... I know it'll be a tempting time for me cos i'll feel that maybe i could "get away with it"...
I just need to be mindful of that i think. I know i don't want all the rubbish that comes with it, and that the rubbish just isn't worth it.
Might be one day at a time stuff next week, or even one hour at a time...
It's almost like i'm starting to fight the urge / compulsion a couple of days early because i know it's there... It's a fight i'm quite used to though, it's just that the trickiest times are when i'm alone.
I've got the house to myself next week so i'm a bit worried about that, apprehensive i suppose... I know it'll be a tempting time for me cos i'll feel that maybe i could "get away with it"...
I just need to be mindful of that i think. I know i don't want all the rubbish that comes with it, and that the rubbish just isn't worth it.
Might be one day at a time stuff next week, or even one hour at a time...
It's almost like i'm starting to fight the urge / compulsion a couple of days early because i know it's there... It's a fight i'm quite used to though, it's just that the trickiest times are when i'm alone.

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Sparky...i think it is good you recognize it might be a problem, yet without dwelling too much on it....
helps me to just notice the thought, set it aside and move on to something else....well..or if that doesn't work...come hre and post like hll!!!!!
We'll all be around to support you (hug)
helps me to just notice the thought, set it aside and move on to something else....well..or if that doesn't work...come hre and post like hll!!!!!
We'll all be around to support you (hug)

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Good morning all.
Good luck next week Spark. That would be a tough one for me too.
My wife was away the first week of my sobriety and I was tempted with the I can get away with it thing. Fortunately my son was around to spy on me and I convinced myself that he would rat me out and then I would end up on a park bench.
Be strong you can do it. Try to make some plans that don't involve drinking.
Today is Fudge day and that is the highlight of my weekend. I need to get a life soon.
Good luck next week Spark. That would be a tough one for me too.
My wife was away the first week of my sobriety and I was tempted with the I can get away with it thing. Fortunately my son was around to spy on me and I convinced myself that he would rat me out and then I would end up on a park bench.
Be strong you can do it. Try to make some plans that don't involve drinking.
Today is Fudge day and that is the highlight of my weekend. I need to get a life soon.

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I know how you feel Spark every time I'm alone I keep think gee, I could have a swallow. But I don't, I come here and post or read. I've made a list of all the things I want to get done around the house, I try to do a least one thing a day. Then I'm proud of myself and it makes it easier to want to stay that way ! Have a great week, try to do things that will please everyone when they get back home. Cleaning out the garage (that dragon must make a mess in there!) or fixing up the garden...



LOL, I'm not sure I've ever met that drink. I guess this is as good a time and place as any. I gave in and smoked pot around two weeks ago. The next day, I had a DK alcohol binge (six-pack, Coor's Light, 8 oz cans). I haven't drank again, but I've been self-medicating with tha weed. You can kick me, but please not in the rips and not with steel-toe boots. Thank you.


I occasionally find myself wishing I could actually hug people here. :ghug is cool and all, but I'm a big fan of hugs. And not just sort of lazily draping your arms around someone, either. I hug with gusto.

I'm a bit stereotypically british and blokey with regards to hugs in real life... But i dish virtual ones out no problem! 
no-ones gonna kick you doorknob mate- just don't beat yourself up about it buddy!
I think the main thing with any mistake is to use it and learn from it.
Anyway it's one of the americanisms i'm fond of - they're not mistakes / regrets, they're life lessons...
Bit cheesy and very doctor phil (guess that's why we call them "americanisms") but i agree with the sentiment...
I'm concerned that i'll be misunderstood, that it all comes across as patronising and having a pop at the states now... I'm gonna hit "submit reply" and just hope it comes across in the spirit that it's meant!

no-ones gonna kick you doorknob mate- just don't beat yourself up about it buddy!
I think the main thing with any mistake is to use it and learn from it.
Anyway it's one of the americanisms i'm fond of - they're not mistakes / regrets, they're life lessons...
Bit cheesy and very doctor phil (guess that's why we call them "americanisms") but i agree with the sentiment...
I'm concerned that i'll be misunderstood, that it all comes across as patronising and having a pop at the states now... I'm gonna hit "submit reply" and just hope it comes across in the spirit that it's meant!


Sorry to hear that DK.
I feel very much outa step these days on SR with relapse - I just can't be all fluffy and huggy when I see people, especially those I care about, hurting themselves.
I support you of course, but only if you lay off with the booze...and kick the weed, man. Been there on that maintenance programme. It's not a step up.
Life's too short to go backwards Paul.
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I feel very much outa step these days on SR with relapse - I just can't be all fluffy and huggy when I see people, especially those I care about, hurting themselves.
I support you of course, but only if you lay off with the booze...and kick the weed, man. Been there on that maintenance programme. It's not a step up.
Life's too short to go backwards Paul.
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I can thing of quite a few things that may or may not have had something to do with it, but when it comes down to it, I chose it. It wasn't even a fly of the handle, **** it reaction. For that reason, it was calculated and contained, at least as far as the booze. Even that small amount was a clear reminder of what alcohol does to my nervous system these days.

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