Fantabulous Secular Connections Check-in Part III
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Clinton Twp, MI
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My first post in her.
Is this where the "non-Godders" come to chat? If so, I'm in.
On day 25 and coasting along decently. I have noticed some minor mood swings, but I have ad them before just as a part of my life and I realize that they are irrational so can keep from lashing out.
TSH - Give him a little time to absorb the info from the meeting. My wife has recently started going and she has a few hard hitting revelations about herself and my addiction. She learned that it wasn't all me and that she had been helping fuel my problem as well. Maybe that's what your hubby is going through and it's a shock. If you guys have a good relationship, he'll talk when he's ready.
Is this where the "non-Godders" come to chat? If so, I'm in.
On day 25 and coasting along decently. I have noticed some minor mood swings, but I have ad them before just as a part of my life and I realize that they are irrational so can keep from lashing out.
TSH - Give him a little time to absorb the info from the meeting. My wife has recently started going and she has a few hard hitting revelations about herself and my addiction. She learned that it wasn't all me and that she had been helping fuel my problem as well. Maybe that's what your hubby is going through and it's a shock. If you guys have a good relationship, he'll talk when he's ready.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Posts: 4,150
Originally Posted by TryingSoHard 
Well now, Fub, what if 10 other people are sitting around saying exactly the same thing? 
How's the group ever going to get bigger if people won't go?
Silly man... :ghug
How's the group ever going to get bigger if people won't go?Silly man... :ghug
I got nothin'
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: My house.
Posts: 4,890
Ha ha, nands....I'm already having a good day so far. Can you believe it? I have bills due shortly...I made a phone call......and my case is pending for charity/discount. I don't have to send in any money right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yippy fer skippy! Even if they give me squat, I can still make monthly payments, so everything is cool.
Happy day all.
Happy day all.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
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I have been having a lot of mood swings since I quit. I had these when I was a drinker too though. I think it is good to try to figure out what is the real cause of these swings and try to work on correcting the root problem. I know I get them when people say or do something that ticks me off but I think there is something underneath that makes me react by changing my mood.
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Never settle.
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Under immense pressure
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Originally Posted by Bamboozle
Is your sister okay? Maybe she has something going on right now and is taking it out on you? I don't know...I'm sorry, gneiss.
I'm just a little unwell
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: USA
Posts: 2,219
Originally Posted by Strangef8
TSH - Give him a little time to absorb the info from the meeting. My wife has recently started going and she has a few hard hitting revelations about herself and my addiction. She learned that it wasn't all me and that she had been helping fuel my problem as well. Maybe that's what your hubby is going through and it's a shock. If you guys have a good relationship, he'll talk when he's ready.
Last week, when hub went to his first meeting, he was in a good mood when he got home and around 11:00 decided to spill it and tell me everything about how the meeting went (so, after about 2 hours). Sure, in those 2 hours I was curious and a bit anxious, but I was determined to just sit patiently and wait for him to bring it up... and he did. But it was a little easier because his mood was good. Last night when he got home he seemed... not sure how to describe it... borderline upset. Almost like he felt physically ill. His tone of voice and body language suggested he was not happy. I asked him twice, over about an hour, if everything was ok, if he was ok, and he said yes, so I left it alone. He never wound up saying one single word about the meeting last night. NOTHING. Not even, "It sucked, I won't be going back" or "It was ok, I'll tell you more later". NOTHING. So of course my mind is working overtime imagining all the various horrible things he said and heard that made him not want to tell me anything about it.
Our Valentine's "date night" is tonight since we couldn't get reservations for tomorrow. We'll see how that goes. It's been a while since the two of us have been out alone.
Anyway, again, Welcome to Secular.
I'm just a little unwell
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: USA
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Quick update: hub just emailed me and said last night's meeting wasn't as good as last week's. Said they picked a topic from some book to discuss and it was something that didn't really apply to him. He did, however, buy a book at the meeting last night and said he's going to try to have it read by next week's meeting.
I'm just a little unwell
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: USA
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Oh we'll be supporting the economy in a good way in about 3 hours! LOL
It just occurred to me that this will be our first time going to this restaurant since I stopped drinking. I don't *think* I'm freaked out about it... it will be weird to not order a nice bottle of wine there, but... I am pretty sure I'm ok with it. It will just be different.
It just occurred to me that this will be our first time going to this restaurant since I stopped drinking. I don't *think* I'm freaked out about it... it will be weird to not order a nice bottle of wine there, but... I am pretty sure I'm ok with it. It will just be different.
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well....it was the friday the 13th to beat all friday the 13ths.
Really just getting the concequenses of my own actions. Not feeling terribly ok at the moment. Will be working all weekend ... should be able to slip a little SR in as i expect to put at least 20 hours in, and have had to cancel the visit to see my son....he is not real pleased about that. I refused to talk to my mom and asked him to tell her...there is too much stress right now and i don't need to be talking to her, or my sponsor, or anyone that is going to make me feel any worse about things than i already do.
I will find someway to get through things. Just wish I didn't make my own life so hard sometimes. In theory I will learn how to not volunterily dig my own grave and jump in......living sober with the consequenses long enough should cure me of that habit.
So I am going to give myself 45 minites at the most to feel sorry for myself, which believe me I don't deserve then pull myself together and do something about the mess I've created.
fubar you are absolutely right..we must get down to the root of our problems...otherwise there wouldn't be much point in being sober now would there
Really just getting the concequenses of my own actions. Not feeling terribly ok at the moment. Will be working all weekend ... should be able to slip a little SR in as i expect to put at least 20 hours in, and have had to cancel the visit to see my son....he is not real pleased about that. I refused to talk to my mom and asked him to tell her...there is too much stress right now and i don't need to be talking to her, or my sponsor, or anyone that is going to make me feel any worse about things than i already do.
I will find someway to get through things. Just wish I didn't make my own life so hard sometimes. In theory I will learn how to not volunterily dig my own grave and jump in......living sober with the consequenses long enough should cure me of that habit.
So I am going to give myself 45 minites at the most to feel sorry for myself, which believe me I don't deserve
then pull myself together and do something about the mess I've created.fubar you are absolutely right..we must get down to the root of our problems...otherwise there wouldn't be much point in being sober now would there
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