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Old 03-06-2009, 10:59 AM
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I'll respond in the 12 step secular section...since it doesn't seem like a good idea here.... (huig)
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Old 03-06-2009, 11:01 AM
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Step 1 - don't do dope

Step 2 - see Step 1
Windy, yep.

I assume you were SICK of dope (alcohol-whatever), I mean done, finished.

Not everyone is like that. Me for one, alcohol makes me so sick but I still do it, I know smackheads who relapsed after 2 years clean.

You make it sound so simple, and it is. Is that why you keeep posting the same thing?
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Old 03-06-2009, 12:37 PM
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It's simple for me. I know what not to do. For me it's just behavior modification....nothing "spiritual", religious(same thing...LOL), mystical, or otherwise hocus pocus. I didn't have problems during my toilet training years. I didn't have a thing for my mom. I didn't wear womens' clothing. No psychobabble flying spagetti monster mombo jombo for me. I just don't do "A" because it leads to "B" and I really, really don't like "B". "B" is an uncool place to be.

Can You Dig It !?!?!?!
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Old 03-06-2009, 01:11 PM
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cause and effect ???
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Old 03-06-2009, 01:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Fubarcdn View Post
I am thinking about going to AA to check it out if I could easily find a non Christian one.
I am sure the only way to do that is to go to different ones and I am not prepared to invest that much time in it.
I would just pick one and go. Maybe one that is close to where you live.

I found one called SOS so I gave a shout out in the AA section and found it is likely to mean either Save Our Souls or Sober On Saturday.
I am probably going to pass because if it was the former I would probably be annoyed and maybe relapse.
On on hand, I say don't give them that much power. On the other hand, I know how you feel.

I am curious Stone what doesn't work with the steps? I am getting the impression that the steps is what AA is all about.

That is the only reason I am even considering going as the social aspect of it doesn't appeal to me at all. I was a bar drinker and I couldn't stand half the people I met at the bar drunk so I doubt if I would want to socialize with the same types of people sober.
You may find someone there with whom you can relate. They also might be able to give you a heads up about different meetings. But, if you just want to learn about the Steps, I think they have a book, lol...
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Old 03-06-2009, 01:46 PM
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cause and effect ???
You're trying to trick me aren't you?
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Old 03-06-2009, 03:08 PM
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Still alive. But posting a separate thread to berate myself. I deserve it.
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Old 03-06-2009, 03:27 PM
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how do you deal with it windysan?
How do I deal with internets peoples coming and going in here at SR ?

......like sands in the hourglass so are the days of our lives....

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Old 03-06-2009, 03:31 PM
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Originally Posted by windysan View Post
How do I deal with internets peoples coming and going in here at SR ?

......like sands in the hourglass so are the days of our lives....

You're trying to trick us, aren't you?
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Old 03-06-2009, 03:33 PM
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You're trying to trick us, aren't you?
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Old 03-06-2009, 03:35 PM
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But posting a separate thread to berate myself. I deserve it.
I dunno what's going on, Gneiss, but I can safely say that you don't deserve that.
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Originally Posted by windysan View Post
:wtf2 Oh, now you're speaking in code! Oh wait, that's not different.....

I don't even know what means.


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Old 03-06-2009, 05:02 PM
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Originally Posted by PaperDolls View Post
:wtf2 Oh, now you're speaking in code! Oh wait, that's not different.....

I don't even know what means.


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gneiss -- I'm going to look for your thread now.

I'm dancing around the issue like a good politician.
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Old 03-06-2009, 05:11 PM
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Have not been on line much in the past two days.. Looks like no Bam news. She had posted a thread about death (a discussion about it) on March 4.. sounded like she was really reflective at that time..

ananda - thank you for having your son know how to get in touch with us - you are so right about the attachments .. lots of them already and I am pretty new to this thing.

Good luck finding an AA meeting that works for you Furb.. Seems like lots of others have found that..
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Originally Posted by windysan View Post
I'm dancing around the issue like a good politician.
I thought you had to go to the bathroom...
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Old 03-06-2009, 06:54 PM
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gneiss -- I'm going to look for your thread now.


I have not posted it yet!! I'm sorry. I got called away and couldn't post it. Should have it up in a few minutes.
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Originally Posted by gneiss View Post
I have not posted it yet!! I'm sorry. I got called away and couldn't post it. Should have it up in a few minutes.
That explains why I couldn't find it!


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Old 03-06-2009, 09:38 PM
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Step into my nightmare, the water is warm!

As if my fun with the police (see my "FURIOUS at myself" thread) last night weren't enough... the hits just keep on coming. The thing with the cops was my fault, no whining allowed there.

About 30 minutes before I left BF's house to come home his mom called him and told him she has cancer. Obviously he's pretty upset and I spent a full hour of my drive home crying. His mom's awesome and this will not be easy for BF or anyone, of course. It was not the time to ask for details, so we both cried a little bit before I had to leave.

So all the way home I thought, "Well, luckily I have this field trip this weekend for a class and I will be able to kind of take my mind off all this stuff for a couple days and regroup." And I checked my email to find out the field trip is canceled. So I am stuck here, alone with my thoughts for the weekend.

*Grumble*
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Old 03-07-2009, 08:51 AM
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Hi secular peeps

My move into the new apartment was brutal. Here its 2 weeks later and I'm still as sore...very sore..ack so out of shape. The girlfriend is recovering in a skilled nursing facility. I'll be glad when she gets well enough to go home. I'm just now getting back to my groups at the clinic, boy how I missed them...even though they can be a bit chaotic...f2f recovery is best for me. Not to say SC is second rate, I do get a lot of support here but I get the feeling I don't connect well with others online...(LOL...I get the same felling in the 3D world). I think it due to my PTSD when I was able to detach and disassociate during the childhood traumatic abuse, plus the resistance to trust others. I'll continue to work on that. After all online groups are an excellent place to practice new behaviors.

Keep going forward in recovery.
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Old 03-07-2009, 09:03 AM
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It's funny you said that Zencat...I find that i tend to be able to be more honest, more receptive and learn more new ways to grow on line here at SR...then after months and months those things start showing up in my f2f AA groups and relationships...then after some time there, i am able to make those changes at work, in the family and stuff like that.

The infinate ways people work things out is what gives me such hope for sobriety and life....Thank god there is more than one way to skin a cat....

ooops now i have offended the godless, poor zencat, least and a variety of others in one sentance.

Bam....I wait patiently for your return...you too DK :ghug
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