TryingSoHard

Oooohhhhhh... BAM! BAM! HURRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dee74

Looks like we need you here Bam

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KindBird

Looks like lots of missing BAM..

This e-connection stuff is hard.. can't get in the car and go searching, or get on the phone and call Bam's ppl.. Whew.. Bam will come back..

Morning all.. just checking in and good to be here with all of you ...

Ananda

since it has come up....something i have found useful to my sobriety, although i am sure it is a BIG NO NO is that a few people i trust from SR who I know well have my phone number and email. This means that should i dissapear, there is a way for others to know what is going on.

When i realized how much it can hurt to wonder what has happened to someone who leaves SR, I made sure my son has access to someone on SR and the SR web site so that he can post or let someone here know if for instance i am in a car wreck and die or something....i mean it isn't just about drinking..but that we are close to many here and I wouldn't want to have them in pain wondering where i had gone off to.

I feel releived to know that should it be necessary, i have something in place to help with those types of sitatuions.

Bam....I really hope you do come back soon.. I wish for the best, but also understand that many do not make it back... that breaks my heart

PaperDolls

boys stink




Bam -- how are you today?

Ananda

and love sucks!!!!!

gneiss

Look what's happened: We had good, productive conversation. Then Bam left and we converse about the fact she's not here. Bam, doll, we love ya and miss ya!! If you're lurking, let someone know how you're doing. And if you need time off that's cool too, but I hope you will come back to us.

Zencat

SelfSeeking

Dang it Bam. Come back!!!

I am headed home to see my family (parents, bros and sis) for the first time since I got sober! I'm a little nervous, my dad is an active alcoholic and there's always beer and wine around, but my mom knows about the sober deal so I have moral support. I am really excited to see everybody and spend some time away from the Great Frozen North. I'm there for a week.

I got off my night shift and drove straight to the airport, been traveling for about10 hours now. Two layovers. I feel like I'm flying internationally, I'm jetlagged all to hell.

Hope everyone's having a good day

Fubarcdn

Have a pleasant holiday SS. It sounds like fun except for the traveling part of course

Ananda

still here glad you all are too (hug)

allport

Hello all I haven't been posting much lately but I'm doing ok, I seem to be waiting for something at the moment, I'm not sure what but my little brain is ticking away furiously.

Some kind of religous converstion maybe I think not

Reading Newcomers and Alcohism recently have, if anything, pushed me further the other way (if that is possible)!

I think I will have to stop reading them for a while as they are making me grind my teeth, and I don't think my teeth are up to it!

Still worried about Bam hope she comes back soon.

Glad to see this place is going on nicely though. :ghug2

Ananda

I love the gossiping smilies :ghug2

windysan

I've seen peoples come and go here. I always wonder where they are off to....I'm hoping good thangs.

Ananda

how do you deal with it windysan?

joinedintime

Now we have to give up sex too? No way. In fact, I'm getting lucky this very moment. Well ok, I'm actually just having a bowl of Lucky Charms, but I do feel lucky.

stone

Hi Allport, I tell ya I tried the AA thing all I could for about 18 months, it isn't all bad, the fact that it got me out of the house and socialising was good but I didn't like how people could automatically come in and say "you aren't doing enough meetings", lol.
As far as I was concerned I was doing AA for me, not so I could set a benchmark that others could fail me by. And people will do that, "you aren't going to enough meetings", "you aren't commited", "you don't have a sponsor", "you aren't working the steps".
People mention these things all the time, I had a sponsor, I worked the steps, I just don't see what the hell those things have to do with drinking.

AA people will say that the steps are for when you get sober, how to live sober and that makes a certain sense but the fact is that most people are so beaten by alcohol by the time the come to AA they have already stopped drinking.
Otherwise how can you do the steps when sober? You have already stopped, haven't you?
Most AA peeps have already stopped drinking before the steps.

But the steps are supposed to be the cure?

Fubarcdn

I am thinking about going to AA to check it out if I could easily find a non Christian one.
I am sure the only way to do that is to go to different ones and I am not prepared to invest that much time in it.
I found one called SOS so I gave a shout out in the AA section and found it is likely to mean either Save Our Souls or Sober On Saturday.
I am probably going to pass because if it was the former I would probably be annoyed and maybe relapse.

I am curious Stone what doesn't work with the steps? I am getting the impression that the steps is what AA is all about.

That is the only reason I am even considering going as the social aspect of it doesn't appeal to me at all. I was a bar drinker and I couldn't stand half the people I met at the bar drunk so I doubt if I would want to socialize with the same types of people sober.

stone

Hi Fubar,

My point was that people say you have to be sober to do the steps and a lot of people in AA say you should be sober before doing them...but the steps are supposed to be what takes away the desire to drink?

It is is contradictory to have to quit before the cure. If we coud quit we wouldn't need the cure.

windysan

Step 1 - don't do dope

Step 2 - see Step 1