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Old 02-10-2007, 04:46 PM
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Hurting really bad...

I recently had to put down my best friend. Blue was pushing 15, and we had been together since he was just 5 weeks old. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, and I don't feel like I'll ever be the same.
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Old 02-10-2007, 04:49 PM
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Always is even when we realize that they are not in pain because of doing it.

I keep saying no more pets but as soon as I pass a pet store that changes.
New cat and a 3 year old pup here.

Thoughts are with you.
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Old 02-10-2007, 04:52 PM
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Thank you, Best.

We have a 5 month old kitty. She used to love up to Blue and sleep curled up right next to him (when she wasn't attacking him and running under his legs, lol). She probably misses him too.

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Old 02-10-2007, 04:57 PM
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((((Doorknob)))

I understand completely.... I brought my beloved Tyche to be put down when she was riddled with cancer...
Oh, it hurt so badly...

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this pain...
And I honestly believe you will never be the same, based on my own experience. You will be stronger, and you will have more compassion as a direct result of loving and missing Blue.
It's very difficult.
And you will be ok. Just keep doing the next right thing.
We're here for you...

Shalom!
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Old 02-10-2007, 05:12 PM
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I feel like I didn't do it right, like I didn't say goodbye properly (did I mention I have OCD?). I feel bad for doing it, but bad for waiting too long... and I miss him so bad. It's been almost 10 days. Tuesday I went to the Humane Society thinking I was helping myself, come home and washed a couple sedatives down with a couple of tall boys, putting myself into a considerable stupor.
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I'm sorry you are going through this. I can remember taking one of my dogs in. He was old and in pain. He always hugged me when I cried by pushing his head on my chest. I was out in the car crying ready to take him in and he was hugging me. When I closed the door to leave him there he ran to the door. I thought I was going to die. I wasn't strong enough to stay with him when they put him to sleep. It is so hard.

My thoughts are with you and I'm sending big hugs your way. It gets easier with time. Their lives are just too short.
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Old 02-10-2007, 05:27 PM
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Going into a stupor will not bring back Blue.
It will only delay your dealing with the loss and healing. And it will drag it on and on.
Do what you need to tonight, and start fresh tomorrow. It's not too late. It's time for you to live... with memories of your companion and friend.

DK, we care...

Shalom!
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Old 02-10-2007, 05:29 PM
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I'm sorry too and it's so hard to say good-bye to our animal friends who give us unconditional love. Thinking of you ...
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Sorry to hear that Doorknob

Seems that our Dogs always have time for us and are always ready to connect wth us

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Originally Posted by doorknob View Post
I recently had to put down my best friend. Blue was pushing 15, and we had been together since he was just 5 weeks old. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, and I don't feel like I'll ever be the same.
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Old 02-10-2007, 05:36 PM
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Sorry for your loss. Yesterday was the one year anniversary of losing my dog Bo after 14 yrs. Its tough. Its a family member. I went and got another Lab the next day. Wasnt my plan. Just happened to go by the shelter and found Buddy. He was 8 weeks old. It really helped me though. He's laying at my feet now. Im sure it has nothing to do with me eating chips and salsa. Bo can never be replaced, but I did tell myself he lived a long and full life. He was very well loved a was a happy dog. I am grateful for the 14 years I had with him. Hang in there.
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Old 02-10-2007, 05:43 PM
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Old 02-10-2007, 05:49 PM
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Awww ... he's precious and you were lucky to have each other (((DK)))
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Old 02-10-2007, 06:13 PM
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oh, he's so pretty....those eyes! i'm so sorry for your loss.....it's never easy to lose a pet......i know how much you must love him....

i hope things get better for you soon.....

ayla....
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Old 02-10-2007, 10:01 PM
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Originally Posted by doorknob View Post
I feel like I didn't do it right, like I didn't say goodbye properly (did I mention I have OCD?). I feel bad for doing it, but bad for waiting too long... and I miss him so bad. It's been almost 10 days. Tuesday I went to the Humane Society thinking I was helping myself, come home and washed a couple sedatives down with a couple of tall boys, putting myself into a considerable stupor.
I tried to numb out the pain of the death of a family member the same way. All I learned was that the pain was still there when I came out of the stupor. Take care of yourself, maybe stay here and post, or go to a SMART Online meeting or... just take care.
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((((Doorknob))))

I have a Shepherd who is 14, and a Orange Tabby who is 13 or 14. They're both still healthy, bu I know they won't be around much longer.

Yeah, they're Family.
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Old 02-11-2007, 08:41 AM
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Old 02-11-2007, 11:27 AM
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hey doorknob, sorry to hear about Blue. That's a terrible experience - I hope you're doing OK today.
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Old 02-11-2007, 08:32 PM
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Sending you healing thoughts doorknob. Please don’t make a difficult emotional loss disastrous by using.

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Old 02-15-2007, 04:35 PM
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hi door.. I'm so sorry about your loss.

We all know our life expectancies are far greater than that of our companions. But, knowing that doesn't make it any easier to lose them. We put ourselves through it, knowing how it will end... because of what they give us in their short lives. They don't judge us or hold grudges. They love life and offer us unconditional love, undying loyalty, and always have faith in us..even with all our imperfections.

We are very lucky to know that kind of companionship. I hope all of the wonderful things Blue brought into your life, live on in your heart forever.

((((hugs))))
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Old 02-15-2007, 04:44 PM
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(((DK)))
How ya doing?
Let us know how it's going for you, ok?
I really do remember and understand how difficult this is for you.

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