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Old 01-12-2018, 02:47 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Pregnant & worried about social services!


I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I 100% plan on parenting, but I'm terrified of my baby being taken from the hospital.

I have three kids already, all of them were apprehended by social services because of my using. The last one was apprehended at the hospital but luckily I suspected as much because I admitted to using during the pregnancy, so I had a family picked out already to adopt him and the social worker wasn't able to take him. He went home with his amazing adoptive parents. The other two have also been adopted.

I told the doctor I was an addict when I got pregnant, but after my positive pregnancy test (about 3 or 4 weeks into the pregnancy) I quit using and drinking. I've been going to all my appointments, ditched the dad (completly out of the picture)

I live in the country in a safe and stable home with lots of support, meet with an addictions worker and everything but I'm consumed with stress as I get closer to my due date that because of my history with child protection services I won't be able to bring my baby back from the hospital. I've even expressed my concern to the doctor and asked for drug testing just in case they do show up at the hospital there will be documentation of my sobriety. Is there anyone with experience of these kinds of situations and am I completely paranoid? Really could use some reassurance...
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Old 01-12-2018, 05:30 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I'm really glad that you have stayed sober during your pregnancy and that you plan to take care of your child.

I don't know if Child Protection Services will be involved as your baby is born or not. If they were involved and concerned, they would be able to test the baby for substances. They would also be able to see your doctor reports, too. So, it seems there should be no problem.

I wish you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy and the birth of your child. You can be the Mom that you want to be.
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Old 01-16-2018, 01:20 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I am so happy you are sober, YAYAYAYA!!!

Sounds like you are doing all the right things, I do not see how they could take your baby. You are sober, a UA would be clean along with the baby...
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Old 03-08-2018, 05:48 AM   #4 (permalink)
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yessssss! that's a good sing you stood clean. i see where DCFS would come in but, if your clean and your baby comes out clean there's no reason for them to step in. but they would be checking up on you do to your pass cases.
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Old 03-12-2018, 07:39 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Just a quick update,
I'm 8 days away from my due date. I am proud to say Ive been sober this whole time. I couldn't have made it this far if not for the grace of God.
I'm not so worried about social services after having a conversation with my doctors and accessing a very helpful community support.
I wonder what staying sober will look like while parenting?
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I am so happy for your good news, Burningstar.

Being a sober parent will be beautifully fulfilling.

I hope that you plan to continue to meet with your addictions worker and that you take advantage of other recovery resources and support in your area.

Blessings to you and your baby.

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I'm glad that you're doing well.

You can choose to be the mother you want to be and that your child deserves. You will be able to find lots of support here to help you with the early weeks and months with the baby.
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