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Old 01-12-2018, 02:47 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Pregnant & worried about social services!


I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I 100% plan on parenting, but I'm terrified of my baby being taken from the hospital.

I have three kids already, all of them were apprehended by social services because of my using. The last one was apprehended at the hospital but luckily I suspected as much because I admitted to using during the pregnancy, so I had a family picked out already to adopt him and the social worker wasn't able to take him. He went home with his amazing adoptive parents. The other two have also been adopted.

I told the doctor I was an addict when I got pregnant, but after my positive pregnancy test (about 3 or 4 weeks into the pregnancy) I quit using and drinking. I've been going to all my appointments, ditched the dad (completly out of the picture)

I live in the country in a safe and stable home with lots of support, meet with an addictions worker and everything but I'm consumed with stress as I get closer to my due date that because of my history with child protection services I won't be able to bring my baby back from the hospital. I've even expressed my concern to the doctor and asked for drug testing just in case they do show up at the hospital there will be documentation of my sobriety. Is there anyone with experience of these kinds of situations and am I completely paranoid? Really could use some reassurance...
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Old 01-12-2018, 05:30 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I'm really glad that you have stayed sober during your pregnancy and that you plan to take care of your child.

I don't know if Child Protection Services will be involved as your baby is born or not. If they were involved and concerned, they would be able to test the baby for substances. They would also be able to see your doctor reports, too. So, it seems there should be no problem.

I wish you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy and the birth of your child. You can be the Mom that you want to be.
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Old 01-16-2018, 01:20 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I am so happy you are sober, YAYAYAYA!!!

Sounds like you are doing all the right things, I do not see how they could take your baby. You are sober, a UA would be clean along with the baby...
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Old 03-08-2018, 05:48 AM   #4 (permalink)
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yessssss! that's a good sing you stood clean. i see where DCFS would come in but, if your clean and your baby comes out clean there's no reason for them to step in. but they would be checking up on you do to your pass cases.
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Old 03-12-2018, 07:39 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Just a quick update,
I'm 8 days away from my due date. I am proud to say Ive been sober this whole time. I couldn't have made it this far if not for the grace of God.
I'm not so worried about social services after having a conversation with my doctors and accessing a very helpful community support.
I wonder what staying sober will look like while parenting?
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I am so happy for your good news, Burningstar.

Being a sober parent will be beautifully fulfilling.

I hope that you plan to continue to meet with your addictions worker and that you take advantage of other recovery resources and support in your area.

Blessings to you and your baby.

Stay close. We care.
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I'm glad that you're doing well.

You can choose to be the mother you want to be and that your child deserves. You will be able to find lots of support here to help you with the early weeks and months with the baby.
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God bless you, Burningstar!
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Old 04-24-2019, 10:30 PM   #9 (permalink)
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It is very good to know that after knowing about your pregnancy you had quit alcohol and other uses of substances. Also, you are planning to take care of your child on your own. But after your delivery, the hospital will do the tests of your baby regarding the substances and then only, they will hand over the baby to you after seeing the results.
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Old 06-11-2019, 04:47 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I 100% plan on parenting, but I'm terrified of my baby being taken from the hospital.

I have three kids already, all of them were apprehended by social services because of my using. The last one was apprehended at the hospital but luckily I suspected as much because I admitted to using during the pregnancy, so I had a family picked out already to adopt him and the social worker wasn't able to take him. He went home with his amazing adoptive parents. The other two have also been adopted.

I told the doctor I was an addict when I got pregnant, but after my positive pregnancy test (about 3 or 4 weeks into the pregnancy) I quit using and drinking. I've been going to all my appointments, ditched the dad (completly out of the picture)

I live in the country in a safe and stable home with lots of support, meet with an addictions worker and everything but I'm consumed with stress as I get closer to my due date that because of my history with child protection services I won't be able to bring my baby back from the hospital. I've even expressed my concern to the doctor and asked for drug testing just in case they do show up at the hospital there will be documentation of my sobriety. Is there anyone with experience of these kinds of situations and am I completely paranoid? Really could use some reassurance...
Hi. So, I used drugs throughout my pregnancy with my 6 year old. When I had him at the hospital I was drug tested and they kept him under observ. for about 5 days, they let me take him home. They did a house visit about 5 days after saw that I had a clean drug test and saw that I was able to care for him in a good environment and that was that. With my now 4 year old son I went back to using as us addicts sometimes do and he was positive for drugs also. With him he was in the hospital for 1 month and CPS came to my house and saw that I was unfit. I was living with my parents who were using and they could tell that it was an awful environment for the kids so they were both taken into foster care. I followed my case plan and they were both given back to me after about a year. Because of this I was given aid and found a job and now have our own place and I can finally provide. I can totally relate to what you are going through. There was so much sadness and pain going through the whole thing. I think that if you can show that you are clean when the baby is born and show that you have a place for the baby to go and that you can provide for the baby you have nothing to worry about. They will have no reason to take the baby away. Stay strong! I am here if you need to talk.
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Old 06-20-2019, 09:17 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Congrats on your abstinence Burningstar
I can understand why you might be worried, but I do sense a bit of optimism in your post..I prayer for you & your newborn.

I can only imagine the range of emotions you must be feeling!



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