Addictive Voice Recognition Technique (AVRT) Discussion — Part 5
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In any event, great job, Peta. The big plan trumps everything, including dinner invitations that will come, go, and be forgotten in a week's time.
There is no quitting one-drug-at-a-time with AVRT. Trimpey apparently makes an exception for caffeine and nicotine, categorizing them as "minor-league", but IMO, the latter is only because he himself kept on smoking after quitting alcohol and other drugs. Personally, I believe it is the very same Beast driving things, regardless of the substance, and I suspect that even Trimpey knows this, since RR now provides specific quit-smoking materials.
Yes, this does necessarily mean that I personally consider all those chain-smoking RGM members not-quite-sober.
Later on, I want to get back into a discussion about perfect objective separation from the AV without a Big Plan. I'm not yet convinced it's not possible to succeed at abstinence in that manner.
Here's a Trimpey quote someone sent me in a PM:
Here's a Trimpey quote someone sent me in a PM:
"In AVRT, is not possible to recognize all of your AV and still drink. That is part of the foundation for our 100% threshold of confidence. AVRT is perfect, and attempts to discover imperfection in AVRT are just so much AV."
Originally Posted by "RR: TNC" © by Jack Trimpey, Pg. 134
In the logic of AVRT, the absence of a plan to quit for good is a plan, now, to drink.
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In AVRT, the Big Plan is not about quitting one substance at a time, but rather about quitting all hedonic substances at one time. Trimpey makes this clear in his AVRT Course, the RR forums, and in "The Art of AVRT", but even in "The New Cure", drink and use are synonymous. There is no "marijuana maintenance" quit drinking program in AVRT, for example. Done is done, and that means no alcohol or any other henonic, non-prescribed drugs.
Why should a smoker who wants to quit by using AVRT, also have to quit booze if they're a moderate drinker and it causes them no problems?
Doesn't Trimpey say that taking pleasure-inducing drugs is an individual liberty? If the effect of taking a particular drug is benign a person will more than likely carry on taking it. It's probably a good idea for many to make a clean break and quit all hedonic substances but I don't think it's absolutely necessary in all cases.
To Trimpey's credit, even back when he didn't want RR to focus specifically on smoking, he did say that AVRT would work the same way, and just as well, for smoking.
Nicotine and caffeine don't really affect your judgement this way, so that may also be why Jack refers to them as 'minor league', and why he makes an exception for them with regard to the across-the-board thing.
To answer your question regarding this specific scenario, I don't personally believe that someone who quits smoking but has no problems with drinking needs to also quit drinking. I don't have a reference, but I'm fairly certain that RR recommends making separate Big Plans for nicotine and caffeine. That is, making a Big Plan for drinking/using, and separate ones for nicotine and caffeine (the 'minor league' drugs). The separate chapter on smoking in The Art of AVRT appears to me to imply this, since it makes no mention of quitting other drugs along with smoking, but if someone has a definitive reference, feel free to post it.
I've read through all your posts and Dalek your stuff about relapse was SO empowering for me. I knew from my work with Jack and reading the book etc that any self doubt is AV or crap like "oh yeah this again you've said you were quitting forever SO Many times and what makes this time different etc" was AV but you're framing of it that the Beast will point towards the fix and then when we get it use it against us is powerful.
I once fell for this circular logic myself, which can be very discouraging, and in my case, deadly. For a while, I just gave up on the idea of ever being able to quit, and resigned myself to dying drunk, impaled on the horns of the Beast. It's complete nonsense, though, nothing more than pristine Addictive Voice, because the only thing drinking or using again "proves" is that you didn't quit, not that you can't quit.
Even more powerful that while I knew this, I was still holding onto some 'powerless' thinking from AA RE my relapses were a sign of disasterous powerlessness and impending doom when in fact I had just SUCCECCED in drinking, my AV was able to seduce me into connecting IT's desire with my desire and I drank.
Good day, all.
I think too much.
Or maybe "it" thinks too much; after having read through Part I of this long and very interesting conversation, it seems that perhaps "it" feels and I am allowing "it" to feed my every thought.
Anyhow, I'm a novice at this and have been for quite some time. Tried to take shortcuts and that didn't work. Looked for the book yesterday in an actual bookstore (!) and will check another today. If I don't find it, will order online tonight.
Was starting to write you a book of my own and then thought better of it.
Just wanted to introduce myself and say thanks for being here.
I think too much.
Or maybe "it" thinks too much; after having read through Part I of this long and very interesting conversation, it seems that perhaps "it" feels and I am allowing "it" to feed my every thought.
Anyhow, I'm a novice at this and have been for quite some time. Tried to take shortcuts and that didn't work. Looked for the book yesterday in an actual bookstore (!) and will check another today. If I don't find it, will order online tonight.
Was starting to write you a book of my own and then thought better of it.
Just wanted to introduce myself and say thanks for being here.
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Was starting to write you a book of my own and then thought better of it.
thanks for being here.
Hi, Obladi. Glad to see you here. While you are digesting this monster of a thread, believe 100% in your own ability to get and stay sober. Next, tune your hearing to notice any doubt in your ability and assign it to you know what. Of course it isn't you. You don't drink any more, and you are not changing your mind.
But now you got me typing, so I do have one question. I'm thinking that my AV seems to listen to those of others. Does that make sense? And if so, is it wise or not so wise to hang out on SR at all? (Aside from perhaps reading this voluminous thread from beginning to end.)
Hi, Obladi. Glad to see you here. While you are digesting this monster of a thread, believe 100% in your own ability to get and stay sober. Next, tune your hearing to notice any doubt in your ability and assign it to you know what. Of course it isn't you. You don't drink any more, and you are not changing your mind.
I need to develop skills to anticipate and react to her calmly. Right now, it's like I'm pretending to be the alpha dog facing down a mastiff the same size as I am and she kinda scares me, really, but I'm trying not to let on. Fake it til you make it?
I guess that was two questions...
Obladi, I'm definitely nowhere near as informed as the guys on this thread, but I just thought I'd pop in to say that, at first, I was quite frightened by my AV - I sort of wished I didn't know anything about this strange AVRT thing because knowing about the AV sort of heightened it, in a way. I didn't really know what to do/think/say back. In the end I just thought "oh, I know what you are. I'm not listening" and basically, ignored it. Every time the thoughts came into my mind, I listened but did not react. Which I suppose is the whole point - just recognising the voice, which I did. Over time (and it was a short period of time, actually) the voice just got quieter and quieter until it barely spoke to me at all. I don't know HOW that happened or WHY it happened, but it works - all you really have to do is recognise that voice over a period of time and it gets bored of pestering you.
Also, when I first started coming to SR I had terrible difficulties with it, too... I found that it made me feel worse but I'm so glad I continued to come, though, because now I can't get enough of it! I think it was a hurdle because it made me analyse my behaviour when I drank, and I related to so much of what people were saying that it scared me, I guess. Now I'm totally at home here and my AV very rarely chatters whilst I'm on here now. It never really chatters at all any more!
Also, when I first started coming to SR I had terrible difficulties with it, too... I found that it made me feel worse but I'm so glad I continued to come, though, because now I can't get enough of it! I think it was a hurdle because it made me analyse my behaviour when I drank, and I related to so much of what people were saying that it scared me, I guess. Now I'm totally at home here and my AV very rarely chatters whilst I'm on here now. It never really chatters at all any more!
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All available evidence points to the contrary, Mrs. King.
I will look forward to others chiming in on this, Obladi. Certainly, your AV will latch onto anything it can, and spin it in a way that supports future drinking. One of the tenets of AVRT is that it's possible—I suppose some might even argue it's preferable—to recover without any peer support whatsover. Excellent topic, even if a bit ironic given the venue.
Me, I feel the insights and support I received on SR were extremely helpful in the beginning. Now I come here more for the intellectual engagement, and because I like to cheer people on. Watching folks succeed is just plain fun. And I find some of the people here to be inspirational in ways that go well beyond recovery.
I guess I'm a soft touch in that regard. However, I am becoming a merciless hardass when it comes to my AV. If it wants to take a run at me while I'm on SR, fine. Bring. It. I'll send the beast scurrying back to its cage in the time it takes 2granddaughters to say "AA."
Me, I feel the insights and support I received on SR were extremely helpful in the beginning. Now I come here more for the intellectual engagement, and because I like to cheer people on. Watching folks succeed is just plain fun. And I find some of the people here to be inspirational in ways that go well beyond recovery.
I guess I'm a soft touch in that regard. However, I am becoming a merciless hardass when it comes to my AV. If it wants to take a run at me while I'm on SR, fine. Bring. It. I'll send the beast scurrying back to its cage in the time it takes 2granddaughters to say "AA."
I need to develop skills to anticipate and react to her calmly. Right now, it's like I'm pretending to be the alpha dog facing down a mastiff .
The more I look at it, the smaller it gets until it turns into this yappy little JR terrier that jumps when I say BOO, and then runs away and hides. Now that breathing gets deeper and more regular and I watch that miserable mutt disappear, leaving me in calm control once again.
I'm definitely nowhere near as informed as the guys on this thread, but...
I'll send the beast scurrying back to its cage in the time it takes 2granddaughters to say "AA."
MrsKing, thank you. You give me hope. See, I like being helpful to other people and I really think am sometimes, but I think that at times I am too empathetic and it impacts my own internal workings. Even better is hoping that recognizing the AV, in and of itself, can be so helpful. I can do that (at least when she's real rambunctious, maybe not so much when she's sneaky, not sure).
ReadyandAble, I'm interested to hear what other people think as well. I also get a kick out of seeing people succeed, but watching people trip seems to engage this troublesome "me too" reaction. Very troublesome.
fresh, I've thought about this quite a lot since I posted it (of course!), and I'm not sure if that mastiff is the AV or if it's what I fear the AV is guarding. And I know AVRT makes no claims to do anything to help with what you find once you've tamed the beast. Sooooo. Perhaps that's AV telling me I can't handle it, but what if she's right?
Anyhow, I got the book yesterday. Score one for acting rather than simply having an "intention." Started reading, fell asleep, will read more this evening.
ReadyandAble, I'm interested to hear what other people think as well. I also get a kick out of seeing people succeed, but watching people trip seems to engage this troublesome "me too" reaction. Very troublesome.
fresh, I've thought about this quite a lot since I posted it (of course!), and I'm not sure if that mastiff is the AV or if it's what I fear the AV is guarding. And I know AVRT makes no claims to do anything to help with what you find once you've tamed the beast. Sooooo. Perhaps that's AV telling me I can't handle it, but what if she's right?
Anyhow, I got the book yesterday. Score one for acting rather than simply having an "intention." Started reading, fell asleep, will read more this evening.
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I also get a kick out of seeing people succeed, but watching people trip seems to engage this troublesome "me too" reaction.
Perhaps that's AV telling me I can't handle it, but what if she's right?
Perhaps that's AV telling me I can't handle it
but what if I'm right?
You're gonna tame that little beastie in no time. Pretty soon you'll be playing mind games on it, walking around it, staring at its butt (that's just plain mean, FS... lol).
Keep thinking about it, Obladi, keep reading and stay aware. Turn your confidence all the way up. You can do this. Recognize any thoughts to the contrary for what they are...
Wow, I'd best be putting my nose in that book because this all seems like a riddle to me. Seriously.
Thank you very much, ReadyandAble.
I may need to spend some time reading and squinting to understand what you are trying to help me to see, but I will do my best. I saw it for a brief moment, but it's like those pictures where you need to let your mind change perspective to see the other view. You know, like the crone that's also a vase or vice versa...
Thank you very much, ReadyandAble.
I may need to spend some time reading and squinting to understand what you are trying to help me to see, but I will do my best. I saw it for a brief moment, but it's like those pictures where you need to let your mind change perspective to see the other view. You know, like the crone that's also a vase or vice versa...
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