earlybird

By the way,...whats the story behind this statement?

earlybird

[QUOTE=ghostworld]But I need to drink at least every other day.


I drank last night, and I plan to drink tonight.
/QUOTE]

ghostworld

Early, I appreciate the help, But please back off just a little. I didn't come here to lie. I have no reason to. So I can drink two nights in a row. Big deal.

Sorry, but I cannot help but feel defensive.

the_undertow

hey ghost, nice to meet u! i'm alot like you. i count days between drinking.
in fact, i actually count years, looking back. i drank heavily in college, then nothing for 2 years. then heavy for 1, then nothing, then very heavy recently.

i realized 2 things:

in the last 10 years, i dont know if i ever saw a single benefit come from alcohol and,

whether or not i am an alcoholic, i should quit just the same. im afraid if i label myself an alcoholic, ill have a disease and an excuse to drink. im also afraid if i dont label myself an alcoholic, im disease free and have an excuse to drink. so ill just stay away from labels and beer



hopefully this is food for thought. glad to have you here. its nice to see newbies like me

earlybird

I didnt call you a liar. Im simply pointing out things to show you that you need some help. I want to help. If you dont want the help, then say you dont. If you do, then ask. You originally posted that you joined to find out if you have a problem. More than a few of us said that it seems that you do. I'll just come out and say it,.....from what you posted, I think you do. You get your answer, but you dont like it, so you just say thanks, but, no thanks. Just so you know, thats typical alcoholic behaviour.

earlybird

and saying "Big deal" is just minimizing what you already know deep down may be a big problem.

ghostworld

How dare you even pretend that you know what is wrong with me. And I don't have a problem just because YOU say so. I came here just to check things out and see IF maybe I did. Isn't it a possiblity that I might not and that I drink out of boredom because I hate where I live?
Just because someone drinks every other day or two times in a row doesn't mean they're an alcoholic. But of course that is "typical alcoholic" behavior. If this is your way of helping try another approach.



Undertow you're a sweetie, and thatnks so much for treating me like a fellow human being instead of a disease.

earlybird

How dare I give you my real, unfiltered opinion?? Isnt that what you need to form your own analysis based upon reality? And is it a possibility that drink out of boredom?....Yes....thats one of the biggest reasons alcoholics drink. Hating where you live? No. Thats just an excuse to drink. And "Just because someone drinks every other day or two times in a row doesn't mean they're an alcoholic."....... I have said those EXACT words in the past. What other approach should I try? One that definitely doesnt paint you as a problem drinker? Or should I stick close to reality?

ghostworld

This is exactly the reason why I did not want to join a forum and much less a group. You sound like one of those Jehova's witness' that thinks I will burn in hell unless I convert.

Please stop talking to me, I don't really like you.

Arura

well done for seeking help n advice. like livewreyed said read
around.I drink most days and have been for about 1yr
so its new to my story. never thought i'd go to drink.
i try n tell myself it's not a problem, but my stomach
does'nt agree with my mind,?
Good Luck in what you seek.......Arura

CarolD

Ghost...you are welcome to come and explore and post.

I suggest you use the Ignore buttom for members that you find offensive.
Click on the user name
go down to the buddy list
click there for the ignore button.

And yes..it's ok to drink and post...happens often!

earlybird

....You're right it doesnt necessarily mean that. But, it probably does.

Anna

Ghost, I am sorry if you've felt trod upon in this thread.

Welcome and I hope you continue to visit SR and make use of our support and information.

historyteach

He did -- right up front!

Welcome, Ghostworld!

shalom!

Anna

Earlybird,

You need to back off and stop coming on so strong.

This is the Newcomers forum and I'd like to everyone treated with respect.

earlybird

I just find it a little in the obvious column that someone logs onto a recovery site wondering if they have a problem, posts, and that very same day, plans on going out and drinking. I just feel like,....."Uh...theres your answer"

Live

Sobriety is best made desirable by ATTRACTION. We are not diagnosticisians.
We are each individual, with our own paths. And respect and tact....that's like you'll draw more flys with sugar than vinegar. Kindness, support and understanding is what keeps me loyal to this site.

Kellye C

Hi Ghost. I have a suggestion that might help you answer some more of your questions. You can do an online search and find the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous online and you might want to give it a read. The first 164 pages are the "meat" of the Big Book and behind that are various stories of people who quit drinking either at earlier stages or at the end stages. Even before I was ready to admit that I had a problem that I could no longer handle, I started reading the Big Book. I could relate to a lot of what I read and I learned a lot. It also discusses the stages including the problem drinker who can still stop if sufficiently motivated to do so. It also gives you methods you could try to determine if you are an alcoholic.

Even if you don't feel that it applies it may help answer some questions.

I sincerely hope that you will continue to search for your answers and post any questions you have.

Hugs,
Kellye

2dayzmuse

This says it all to me. If you don't want to recover yet, you won't. So I'm not going to push it.

Anna

Earlybird,

The Newcomers must absolutely be treated with respect.

If you cannot do that, you will not be allowed to post on the Newcomers forum.