I'm a woman on the edge!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I'm a woman on the edge!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am having a terrible day (actually terrible two days). My father was admitted to the hospital yesterday afternoon with pneumonia, almost exactly a year after my step-mother died (of pneumonia). Anyway, the urge to drink is unbearable. If there were booze in the house i'd be drinking it, no doubt in my mind. I'm at my wits end. I'm only 12 days into this thing and i'm ready to give in. I don't want to deal....i just want to drink. I don't want to go to a meeting, i don't want to read a book.......I want to ISOLATE AND DRINK!
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Now ig ! it,s when you feel you DONT want a meeting , that you should go.
Ring an AA friend, and say what you have said here
Ring your Sponser , and Ditto.
Post here and vent
have a HUGE choccy malted milk
A bowl of icream
hang from the chandelier
JUST DONT PICK UP 1 DRINK TODAY!!!!
You don't have to do this alone
HUGX
Lee
PS I am sorry about your Dad , and the aweful coincidence for you in the dates, but he is in a safe place, and you'd be no good to him if you drank, hon xx
Ring an AA friend, and say what you have said here
Ring your Sponser , and Ditto.
Post here and vent
have a HUGE choccy malted milk
A bowl of icream
hang from the chandelier
JUST DONT PICK UP 1 DRINK TODAY!!!!
You don't have to do this alone
HUGX
Lee
PS I am sorry about your Dad , and the aweful coincidence for you in the dates, but he is in a safe place, and you'd be no good to him if you drank, hon xx
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Have a happy hangover remember them? They get worse!!!! If you have not experienced any withdrawls you are lucky but, if you did I hope you will remember them(withdrawls) before you take a drink...
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Don't mean to be insensitive to the situation with your Dad; but, how exactly would your drinking/getting drunk HELP HIM!?! What you really need to do is force yourself to get to a meeting, and share these feelings with fellow sober AA's!!! Listen to your HP, and practice what you've "preached" in your own tag line:
You'll be wanting to visit your Dad and offer him your emotional/moral support...can't do it, if you're drunk and/or hung over!!!
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I know it's hard. But yes, maybe bring a book in that you know he would like and read to him. Helping others makes you feel better about yourself. If you can't bring yourself to do that at the moment - go out and get a litre of ice-cream, a brilliant book or dvd and indulge yourself.
I really do believe that ice-cream helps with the cravings when they are really bad as it's calcium and sugar. Try to otherwise have a healthy diet though. A slip or two is better than indulging in alcohol. And you can always exercise the ice-cream off. You won't have that sickly guilt feeling accompanying a hangover tomorrow either.
Do you have a membership with your local library? Read up on nutrition and alcoholism. It's enlightening.
I really do believe that ice-cream helps with the cravings when they are really bad as it's calcium and sugar. Try to otherwise have a healthy diet though. A slip or two is better than indulging in alcohol. And you can always exercise the ice-cream off. You won't have that sickly guilt feeling accompanying a hangover tomorrow either.
Do you have a membership with your local library? Read up on nutrition and alcoholism. It's enlightening.
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Hi Ig,
Sorry you're having a rough couple of days and I hope your dad recovers quickly from the pneumonia.
You'll get through this without drinking and you'll feel so good about doing it! Twelve days is great and you don't need to stop now. Do anything you can to take your mind off drinking!
Sorry you're having a rough couple of days and I hope your dad recovers quickly from the pneumonia.
You'll get through this without drinking and you'll feel so good about doing it! Twelve days is great and you don't need to stop now. Do anything you can to take your mind off drinking!
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When you make it through this rough patch, you will be so much stronger. The worst thing for you now would be to end up with a horrible hangover that would only add stress to your already stressful situations. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.
Remember, that now is the time when you need to take special care of yourself. And enjoy that big bowl of ice cream or a warm bubble bath.
Don't take a drink-- it is not worth it!
Remember, that now is the time when you need to take special care of yourself. And enjoy that big bowl of ice cream or a warm bubble bath.
Don't take a drink-- it is not worth it!
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Hey igfan, I really dont want you to drink. Im having a hard time with this myself. We all have our personal problems alot of people in here do some worse than others and right now its your turn to be in a bad spot. That totally sucks!! But tipping a bottle wont help your dad and its not going to help you either. Yikes I hate feeling like this to. Go to the hospital and be with your dad. He needs you sober and healthy. He wants the best for you and thats not drinking. I hate seeing people hurt and you included. Im not trying to be harsh but were all in this together when one of us is in a bad way we all are. I hope you make it thru this time you will be stronger on the other side. Bla, Bla, Bla, You know what I mean.
Max looking in the mirror talking to himself.
Max looking in the mirror talking to himself.
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Just try to approach this rationally: what good will it do to drink and what are the con's? Bet the con's outweigh the good things, right? And how will this help your dad? How big of a chance is there he'll really die from pneumonia?
Hang in there.
Hang in there.
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((igfan))
12 days sober is great! and, in the beginning, you feel vulnerable so often, its important to keep sharing with other sober alcoholics, don't isolate yourself, and don't listen when that disease starts yelling in your inner ear. Soon you'll know its voice for what it is: not your friend
((igfan)) and ((max))
You probably have lots of feelings all coming to awareness right now, and that is as it should be. Practice tolerance and acceptance with yourself. And, when the going gets tough: I agree, chocolate ice cream and bubble baths work wonders. So does sleep, exercise, reading, talking to someone and writing it out here at SR.
We ARE all in this together, Max!! Thanks for that gentle reminder
12 days sober is great! and, in the beginning, you feel vulnerable so often, its important to keep sharing with other sober alcoholics, don't isolate yourself, and don't listen when that disease starts yelling in your inner ear. Soon you'll know its voice for what it is: not your friend
((igfan)) and ((max))
You probably have lots of feelings all coming to awareness right now, and that is as it should be. Practice tolerance and acceptance with yourself. And, when the going gets tough: I agree, chocolate ice cream and bubble baths work wonders. So does sleep, exercise, reading, talking to someone and writing it out here at SR.
We ARE all in this together, Max!! Thanks for that gentle reminder
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[QUOTE=BSPGirl] How big of a chance is there he'll really die from pneumonia? /QUOTE]
Same chance there was of my step mother dying from pneumonia a year ago! We all thought she was going to be fine.......2 days later she was dead.
Same chance there was of my step mother dying from pneumonia a year ago! We all thought she was going to be fine.......2 days later she was dead.
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In active addiction, it's all about us.
When I used or drank in response to something happening outside of me, it was my way to make it about me. Look at how I'm hurting/feeling angry/stressing.
Pretty rough realization for me. At thirteen days sober (congrats!), I can't imagine how difficult it would have been for me to detach from the bondage of self. Heck, it's still an old habit that tries to muscle in. Until it becomes a new habit, how about, when someone around you is suffering, asking yourself the question, "How can I best help this person?" The answer might be that there's nothing you can do. I can guarantee that if you're being true and honest, you won't ever get the response, "Drink!"
Serenity prayer works wonders.
Keep on keepin' on. Don't drink, read those books (as well as the Big Book!), and get to a meeting....all suggestions, of course. Oh, yes...and pray.
I'll pray for you, too.
Peace & Love,
Sugah
When I used or drank in response to something happening outside of me, it was my way to make it about me. Look at how I'm hurting/feeling angry/stressing.
Pretty rough realization for me. At thirteen days sober (congrats!), I can't imagine how difficult it would have been for me to detach from the bondage of self. Heck, it's still an old habit that tries to muscle in. Until it becomes a new habit, how about, when someone around you is suffering, asking yourself the question, "How can I best help this person?" The answer might be that there's nothing you can do. I can guarantee that if you're being true and honest, you won't ever get the response, "Drink!"
Serenity prayer works wonders.
Keep on keepin' on. Don't drink, read those books (as well as the Big Book!), and get to a meeting....all suggestions, of course. Oh, yes...and pray.
I'll pray for you, too.
Peace & Love,
Sugah
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