Newbie my ex. is an addict.
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Newbie my ex. is an addict.
He got caught at work stealing drugs and he is a pharimars tsp) He went to rehab and went to his meetings like he was suppose too.
But after the time was up for going to the meetings to please the board to keep his job he quite going to the meetings.
He was abusive, physically(sp) and mentally plus he traded one addiction for some more like downloading porn, sex, spending and than blaming me for everything that went wrong. Before we divorced he would go to the bedroom and download the porn and jackoff. It was like he didn't even live here.
After the divorce, he started dating and saying that he had changed but yet one time when I went to get my son he pushed me down and I had to have a brace on my wrist for a week are two.
He goes to church with her but from when my lawyer asked for his bank statements he is still overdrawing in the bank.
His marriage if it makes it to the alter is doomed but my problem is I want to let go and not care what he is doing and even if his marriage does fail that is his problem not mine. I'm sure he told her bad things about me.
Who in their right mind after their divorce is final 3 months later start talking marriage with someone else?
I read up on abuse and it said it was normal for an abuser to go to someone else right after ending it with someone else. I guess fear of not being loved and also probably wanting to move out of his mother's house.
Not unstanding why any woman would want to marry a 37 yr. that is living with his mother when he has such a high paying job, also I got the house with the kids out of the divorce.
Granted she is 35 yrs. and never been married, and I know that she has heard Ed on the phone with me yelling sometimes but I'm sure on his end I got all of the blame just like a did when we were married and everything wasn't just perfect.
Sorry for rant and thanks for listening! Praying everyday that if he ever wants me back I have let him go enough not to go through that ever again.
Working on my self esteem.
But after the time was up for going to the meetings to please the board to keep his job he quite going to the meetings.
He was abusive, physically(sp) and mentally plus he traded one addiction for some more like downloading porn, sex, spending and than blaming me for everything that went wrong. Before we divorced he would go to the bedroom and download the porn and jackoff. It was like he didn't even live here.
After the divorce, he started dating and saying that he had changed but yet one time when I went to get my son he pushed me down and I had to have a brace on my wrist for a week are two.
He goes to church with her but from when my lawyer asked for his bank statements he is still overdrawing in the bank.
His marriage if it makes it to the alter is doomed but my problem is I want to let go and not care what he is doing and even if his marriage does fail that is his problem not mine. I'm sure he told her bad things about me.
Who in their right mind after their divorce is final 3 months later start talking marriage with someone else?
I read up on abuse and it said it was normal for an abuser to go to someone else right after ending it with someone else. I guess fear of not being loved and also probably wanting to move out of his mother's house.
Not unstanding why any woman would want to marry a 37 yr. that is living with his mother when he has such a high paying job, also I got the house with the kids out of the divorce.
Granted she is 35 yrs. and never been married, and I know that she has heard Ed on the phone with me yelling sometimes but I'm sure on his end I got all of the blame just like a did when we were married and everything wasn't just perfect.
Sorry for rant and thanks for listening! Praying everyday that if he ever wants me back I have let him go enough not to go through that ever again.
Working on my self esteem.
the girl can't help it
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Welcome to Sober Recovery....
I wrote a thread about doing a background check on someone that we start a new relationship with in the "women in recovery forum". It is called "what was I thinking".
But if he has changed more power to him and if he hasn't his new wife will go through lots of changes and learn a lot too....
Welcome to Sober Recovery....
I wrote a thread about doing a background check on someone that we start a new relationship with in the "women in recovery forum". It is called "what was I thinking".
But if he has changed more power to him and if he hasn't his new wife will go through lots of changes and learn a lot too....
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