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Old 12-15-2005, 10:26 AM
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Didn't see that coming....

I have been talking to someone that I met here on messenger for a few weeks now. He doesn't post much, just looks around. I've been telling him the things that I know about recovering from addiction. So, today we are talking like usual, and he says he has to go score. We joke about things and I wasn't sure if he was making a (not funny) joke. When I said that's not funny, he said, I'm sorry I am being honest with you. And he signed out. I am saying a prayer as I type this. I will not put his name here, but you know who you are. We don't have to live like that no more. I am worried for you. I pray that God keeps you safe. Please let me know you are ok. This disiase kills people.
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Old 12-15-2005, 10:35 AM
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I really hate this disease. It's mean. It hurts. Praying....
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Old 12-15-2005, 10:45 AM
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He is back on messenger. He has already used and has more in his pocket. His doc is heroin. I'm gonna try to keep him talking, maybe he'll toss it. This sucks. He's depressed now. I wish he would come here and post.
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I can tell how much you care and how frantic you are to help him. But, I can also see from your number of posts that you've been around here for a while. I just read this morning (in the Nar-Anon forum) about the three C's: Didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it. You may be able to have a positive influence on him; but, don't jeopardize your own serenity...dealing with an active addict can be emotionally draining, as you well know.

You may have to Let Go and Let God.
 
Old 12-15-2005, 01:03 PM
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Originally Posted by raerob
I can tell how much you care and how frantic you are to help him. But, I can also see from your number of posts that you've been around here for a while. I just read this morning (in the Nar-Anon forum) about the three C's: Didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it. You may be able to have a positive influence on him; but, don't jeopardize your own serenity...dealing with an active addict can be emotionally draining, as you well know.

You may have to Let Go and Let God.

Very true. There is not much I can do other than pray. Which I have been doing. I do not know him f2f, so I am a little safer. Still hurts, though. Thanks.
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Old 12-15-2005, 03:49 PM
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Haven't heard from him in a few hours. Praying he is ok.
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Old 12-15-2005, 04:04 PM
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Prayers for a still suffering bro.
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Old 12-15-2005, 04:52 PM
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Old 12-15-2005, 05:21 PM
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Old 12-15-2005, 05:37 PM
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A moment of silence for the addict who still suffers. Whether they still using or clean and sober.
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Old 12-15-2005, 05:40 PM
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Thank you everyone. Praying that I will hear from him tomorrow so I at least know he is alive.
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Old 12-15-2005, 08:26 PM
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A moment of silence for the addict who still suffers. Whether they still using or clean and sober.
How true...just because we're not drinking or drugging doesn't mean we're exempt from life's "speed bumps". Early in my sobriety, I heard someone say, "Pain is inevitable." I was ever so grateful (and impressed) when someone at the meeting made the correction, "Pain is inevitable; but, suffering is optional".
 
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suffering is optional.......yes.
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Old 12-16-2005, 03:28 AM
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hope you hear from him today.

you're great, you know that?
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Old 12-16-2005, 04:35 AM
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Originally Posted by shestruggles
hope you hear from him today.

you're great, you know that?

Thank you. It's nice to care about someone other than me. I am talking to him now. He survived, thank God. I will keep praying.
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Old 12-16-2005, 04:48 AM
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May he find his way to a better life!! Glad to hear he's ok!!
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Originally Posted by Little Missy
May he find his way to a better life!! Glad to hear he's ok!!

Yes. He says I helped him. I begged him not to go. I understand the call of active addiction, though. I told him to do what he had to, but that I do care and would be praying. He said he never knew someone could care like that when they never met. There are many people here who have a place in my heart. I love SR. Thanks again for all your prayers.

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Old 12-16-2005, 05:15 AM
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Yep, addiction forms a bond like no other!! The love and support that pours out of people is truely amazing!! Maybe he will read this and know how many people really do care!!

Helping others, helps ourselves!!
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