Going to a party?
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Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
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Going to a party?
Here are some ideas that kept me sober during social events...
Go late Leave early Take your own car.
Take a non drinking friend with you.
Carry your AA phone contacts to use if you get antsy.
Dance a lot.
Get your own drink and keep it with you.
A 7 up + Line looks alcoholic.
Smell before you drink...glasses do get switched.
When asked if you want a drink...
"No... this is fine..thanks"
No explainations are needed.
Sober people seldom push
Drunks won't remember or care.
Go late Leave early Take your own car.
Take a non drinking friend with you.
Carry your AA phone contacts to use if you get antsy.
Dance a lot.
Get your own drink and keep it with you.
A 7 up + Line looks alcoholic.
Smell before you drink...glasses do get switched.
When asked if you want a drink...
"No... this is fine..thanks"
No explainations are needed.
Sober people seldom push
Drunks won't remember or care.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
Chy...I had to do another. I can't locate the older one!
Midas... I agree. I seldom go where drinking is going on.
However......better to plan ahead for those who do.
From the Big Book....
"So our rule is not to avoid a place where there is
drinking, if we have a legitimate reason for being there.
That includes bars, nightclubs, dances, receptions,
weddings, even plain ordinary whoopee parties. To a
person who has had experience with an alcoholic, this
may seem like tempting Providence, but it isn't.
You will note that we made and important qualification.
Therefore, ask yourself on each occasion, "Have
I any good social, business, or personal reason for
going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little
vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such
places?" If you answer these questions satisfactorily,
you need have no apprehension. Go or stay away,
whichever seems best. But be sure you are on solid
spiritual ground before you start and that your motive
in going is thoroughly good. Do not think of what you
will get out of the occasion. Think of what you can
bring to it. But if you are shaky, you had better work
with another alcoholic instead!
Why sit with a long face in places where there is
drinking, sighing about the good old days. If it is a
happy occasion, try to increase the pleasure of those
there; if a business occasion, go and attend to your
business enthusiastically. If you are with a person who
wants to eat in a bar, by all means go along. Let your
friends know they are not to change their habits on your
account."<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->
Midas... I agree. I seldom go where drinking is going on.
However......better to plan ahead for those who do.
From the Big Book....
"So our rule is not to avoid a place where there is
drinking, if we have a legitimate reason for being there.
That includes bars, nightclubs, dances, receptions,
weddings, even plain ordinary whoopee parties. To a
person who has had experience with an alcoholic, this
may seem like tempting Providence, but it isn't.
You will note that we made and important qualification.
Therefore, ask yourself on each occasion, "Have
I any good social, business, or personal reason for
going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little
vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such
places?" If you answer these questions satisfactorily,
you need have no apprehension. Go or stay away,
whichever seems best. But be sure you are on solid
spiritual ground before you start and that your motive
in going is thoroughly good. Do not think of what you
will get out of the occasion. Think of what you can
bring to it. But if you are shaky, you had better work
with another alcoholic instead!
Why sit with a long face in places where there is
drinking, sighing about the good old days. If it is a
happy occasion, try to increase the pleasure of those
there; if a business occasion, go and attend to your
business enthusiastically. If you are with a person who
wants to eat in a bar, by all means go along. Let your
friends know they are not to change their habits on your
account."<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->
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