Verbal/Emotional/Mental Abuse
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Verbal/Emotional/Mental Abuse
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Mentally/Emotionally/Verbally Abused?
Mental abuse often has some threat involved such as, "If you don't shape up, I will..."
"If you leave me, I'll go off without a trace. You and the kids will never find me and never get a penny from me."
All abuse takes a toll on self-esteem. The abused person starts feeling helpless and possibly even hopeless.
In addition, most emotional abusers are adept at convincing the victim that the abuse is his/her fault. Somehow, the victim is responsible for what happened.
Mental abuse is a blow of death to your self-esteem. Often the first step in leaving the abuse is obtaining counseling to rebuild that esteem.
Women and men can be verbal abusers.: The following recurring thoughts indicate you are being mentally or emotionally abused by your spouse or lover.
"Sandy has no right to do that."
"I had better not tell Harry or he will be mad again."
"I'd better keep this private to avoid being criticized again."
"I can never do anything right with Chris."
"I can't stand it when Erin does that to me."
"Sometimes I think Natalie is tearing me apart with her mouth."
"Bob is always so sarcastic."
"When Pat talks to me like that I feel really small."
Emotional abuse can take the form of:
Extramarital affairs
Provocative behavior with opposite sex
Humiliation and put-downs
Hypercriticism
Refusal to communicate
Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice
Unreasonable jealousy
Extreme moodiness
"I love you but..."
"If you don't shape up, I will..."
Domination and control
Withdrawal of affection
A common form of emotional abuse is "I love you, but..." That sounds so sweet, yet it is both a disguised criticism and a threat. It indicates, "I love you now, but if you don't stop such-and such, that love is of short duration." It is a constant put-down that works on your self-esteem.
Bob Carver is a relationship coach and a family mediator in Dallas, Texas.
Do Not be afraid to call your local Crisis Center for Help if you are needing to escape from this ! They will help you.
Mentally/Emotionally/Verbally Abused?
Mental abuse often has some threat involved such as, "If you don't shape up, I will..."
"If you leave me, I'll go off without a trace. You and the kids will never find me and never get a penny from me."
All abuse takes a toll on self-esteem. The abused person starts feeling helpless and possibly even hopeless.
In addition, most emotional abusers are adept at convincing the victim that the abuse is his/her fault. Somehow, the victim is responsible for what happened.
Mental abuse is a blow of death to your self-esteem. Often the first step in leaving the abuse is obtaining counseling to rebuild that esteem.
Women and men can be verbal abusers.: The following recurring thoughts indicate you are being mentally or emotionally abused by your spouse or lover.
"Sandy has no right to do that."
"I had better not tell Harry or he will be mad again."
"I'd better keep this private to avoid being criticized again."
"I can never do anything right with Chris."
"I can't stand it when Erin does that to me."
"Sometimes I think Natalie is tearing me apart with her mouth."
"Bob is always so sarcastic."
"When Pat talks to me like that I feel really small."
Emotional abuse can take the form of:
Extramarital affairs
Provocative behavior with opposite sex
Humiliation and put-downs
Hypercriticism
Refusal to communicate
Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice
Unreasonable jealousy
Extreme moodiness
"I love you but..."
"If you don't shape up, I will..."
Domination and control
Withdrawal of affection
A common form of emotional abuse is "I love you, but..." That sounds so sweet, yet it is both a disguised criticism and a threat. It indicates, "I love you now, but if you don't stop such-and such, that love is of short duration." It is a constant put-down that works on your self-esteem.
Bob Carver is a relationship coach and a family mediator in Dallas, Texas.
Do Not be afraid to call your local Crisis Center for Help if you are needing to escape from this ! They will help you.
lubochka
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 2
Im just starting to unravel all of this
I realize that Ive spent most of my life thinking emotional and verbal abuse was normal. It was how I was raised. Things in my life have changed for me personally in the last six months...My career is going well, I am taking bettercare of myself and losing weight, I have an art show coming up. My self esteem has gone up, but the relationship with my boyfriend has ended, and I cant get past the fact that it is because I have changed. He has been verbally and emotionally abusive, has substance abuse problems and is bipolar. I wanted to help him through his problems, but one day woke up and realized that I couldnt do for him what he wouldnt do for himself.
We just broke up yesterday, so its really fresh still...its going to take some time to get over it.
We just broke up yesterday, so its really fresh still...its going to take some time to get over it.
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