How Do I Save My Babies?
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Good point Hector. We must get sober because we want to. Doing it for any other reason nevers seems to work. Unless I help myself, I am not much help to anyone else. I always wanted to be, but it never seemed to quite work out the way I wanted. Alcohol squashed any good intentions I had. I either forgot I committed or just didn't show up because I was drunk or hungover. Never seemed to go over to well at PTA meetings. Go figure...
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Update...took 5 days,but I got it together.
My daughter and I ...got our hair done....shopped. and just had a great time!
....Last time we went out (yesterday).....I'm so ashamed....I stopped at "the store"
I told her it was my business .
(sorry if I'm not spelling correctly)
She helped me hide it!!!!!!!!
It's just sick!!!!
Wendy...Becky, what is going on in her head?!
She's got a bunch of Goth type things....Cool with me...but not her!
She says she is like me ...Unique!
I love that...but she is following me!!!
NOt COOL!
She swears she would NEVER do drugs or alcohol...but she is too much like me!
She won't go to Al-Anon...
I guess I'll wait...(oh that hurts!)
But how do you tell a child NO if you can't do it??
My daughter and I ...got our hair done....shopped. and just had a great time!
....Last time we went out (yesterday).....I'm so ashamed....I stopped at "the store"
I told her it was my business .
(sorry if I'm not spelling correctly)
She helped me hide it!!!!!!!!
It's just sick!!!!
Wendy...Becky, what is going on in her head?!
She's got a bunch of Goth type things....Cool with me...but not her!
She says she is like me ...Unique!
I love that...but she is following me!!!
NOt COOL!
She swears she would NEVER do drugs or alcohol...but she is too much like me!
She won't go to Al-Anon...
I guess I'll wait...(oh that hurts!)
But how do you tell a child NO if you can't do it??
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She won't go to Al-Anon...
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Please reconsider going to meetings and getting clean and sober. You see, in many ways I could be your daughter. My mother was unique. And I used to hide her medicine. My moms drug of choice became my drug of choice. The only difference is that my mom is now barely 50 and selling her home so she can continue to live in a rest home. Her illness? Drug abuse so severe she has brain damage and yet still uses to the point the doctors don't feel she is safe to live alone--she keeps passing out and breaking bones from the falls. After a year in the rest home, she didn't want to get cleaned up so she had to sell her home so that insurance will pay for her rest home. At fifty! She may not get as many drugs there as she did at home, but she still gets some. And hell, it beats the work of getting clean for her.
But I didn't follow my mother. Today, I chose to get clean. The fact you post here, tells me that you are considering that option too. For your daughter's sake, I hope you do.
But I didn't follow my mother. Today, I chose to get clean. The fact you post here, tells me that you are considering that option too. For your daughter's sake, I hope you do.
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Jazz, I'm a little confused here. So you are saying you made it 5 days? Then went back?
You were in "the store" and she helped you hide it? Does that mean you went to the store and got some alcohol and she helped you hide it?
Sorry, I confused easy
Ok, Alera, my story is MUCH like yours I followed my mom into prescribed drug addiction, only mine got to be not prescribed addiction. Mine got to borrow, steal, and beg, along with a few other terrible things I did for the drugs...
It is time for you to stop. Take a look around you. See that your daughter will follow you into alcoholism, ( I swore I would never do what my mom did, but I DID EXACTLY what my mom did) and I know you don't want that for those precious girls.
It's time to do whatever it takes to get and stay sober. Even if it means a treatment center, detox, halfway house, AA. what ever. At this point the most important best thing you can do for yourself is get sober, and stay that way. Then you won;t have to worry about tou daughters drinking, or drugging, well at least not as much, we will always worry to some extent, kids sometimes experiment, but you will be showing them that you don't need those things to live a good happy life. You will be teaching them that they can go the hard road, or the easier road, and the easier road by far is to keep drinking. You'll be showing them that, yes it is the harder road, but it is so worth it. It's worth living. You did this before, you CAN do this again.
You had 6 years. Don't toss those years out.. Bring it all back for yourself.
Wasnt life a bit more rewarding then ? Hard but rewarding?
You can do this Jazz, you just have to want to. You know what it's all about, to get recovery and keep it...
I will pray for you, and think of you often,. I hope you do this....!!!
Please keep us posted..
Love Becky*
You were in "the store" and she helped you hide it? Does that mean you went to the store and got some alcohol and she helped you hide it?
Sorry, I confused easy
Ok, Alera, my story is MUCH like yours I followed my mom into prescribed drug addiction, only mine got to be not prescribed addiction. Mine got to borrow, steal, and beg, along with a few other terrible things I did for the drugs...
It is time for you to stop. Take a look around you. See that your daughter will follow you into alcoholism, ( I swore I would never do what my mom did, but I DID EXACTLY what my mom did) and I know you don't want that for those precious girls.
It's time to do whatever it takes to get and stay sober. Even if it means a treatment center, detox, halfway house, AA. what ever. At this point the most important best thing you can do for yourself is get sober, and stay that way. Then you won;t have to worry about tou daughters drinking, or drugging, well at least not as much, we will always worry to some extent, kids sometimes experiment, but you will be showing them that you don't need those things to live a good happy life. You will be teaching them that they can go the hard road, or the easier road, and the easier road by far is to keep drinking. You'll be showing them that, yes it is the harder road, but it is so worth it. It's worth living. You did this before, you CAN do this again.
You had 6 years. Don't toss those years out.. Bring it all back for yourself.
Wasnt life a bit more rewarding then ? Hard but rewarding?
You can do this Jazz, you just have to want to. You know what it's all about, to get recovery and keep it...
I will pray for you, and think of you often,. I hope you do this....!!!
Please keep us posted..
Love Becky*
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Angel...I can't!
Thank you so much...
Angel...
Alera..........
But I think we all come to the time...and you know.....LIVE OR DIE!
Know what? I need to get off the POT......if she does like me....I'll deal with it....Do our babies have do be drunks before they understand!!!!!????
It WILL grab them!
What Do We Do?????
Thank you so much...
Angel...
Alera..........
But I think we all come to the time...and you know.....LIVE OR DIE!
Know what? I need to get off the POT......if she does like me....I'll deal with it....Do our babies have do be drunks before they understand!!!!!????
It WILL grab them!
What Do We Do?????
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Jazz, what do you mean you can;t? You mean you won't?
Then you are damaging you daughters. I'm aure that's not what you want to do,
It's time togive it your all. You CAN di this, you have done this, just do it again.
Love, Becky
Then you are damaging you daughters. I'm aure that's not what you want to do,
It's time togive it your all. You CAN di this, you have done this, just do it again.
Love, Becky
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hey Jazz?
Why aren't you ready to stop? Are enjoying this misery? Misery loves company sorta thing?
you are killing yourself, period.
if today was the last day you had to live what would you do with it? What if you don't wake up tomorrow Jazz?
I used to run from my pain, to run from myself but dang, everywhere I went there I was. If you know life is better clean and sober, what are you waiting for?
today is a new day, just for today don't drink.
love and peace, Wendy
Why aren't you ready to stop? Are enjoying this misery? Misery loves company sorta thing?
you are killing yourself, period.
if today was the last day you had to live what would you do with it? What if you don't wake up tomorrow Jazz?
I used to run from my pain, to run from myself but dang, everywhere I went there I was. If you know life is better clean and sober, what are you waiting for?
today is a new day, just for today don't drink.
love and peace, Wendy
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Jazz, I am so sorry, I just don't know what to say to you about saving your daughters. I, myself only really know one thing. That I grew up with a drug addicted mom, and although I had and still do have a deep love for her, I promised I would never be like her, with the drug. Yet I did end up exactly like her. Exactly. No matter how much I didn't want to be addicted to drug growing up, I ended up that way. I am sorry, I would like to tell you differently, but I can't. You may not be able to save your daughters from being alcoholic or drug addict, not while your using yourself. Stop the cycle now, so they have a better chance at a different life.
But stop also so you can have a better life. Get help, it's there, you just need to reach out.
Is the father of your daughters in their life? If you are honestly asking me how you can save your daughters, maybe they should go stay with them, until you are ready to stop?? I really am not saying this to be mean at all, you asked, and I am only trying to help you.
Love, Becky
But stop also so you can have a better life. Get help, it's there, you just need to reach out.
Is the father of your daughters in their life? If you are honestly asking me how you can save your daughters, maybe they should go stay with them, until you are ready to stop?? I really am not saying this to be mean at all, you asked, and I am only trying to help you.
Love, Becky
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"Dad" is here....he hates my drinking.....but LOVES me drunk! Know what I mean?!
Wendy...Alera....thanks for the SMACK!
I am crying...but don't want to fix it!!
Ya know...I just might have to leave!
I'm too scared!!!
NO!....can't do it.....
Can I?
"Dad" is here....he hates my drinking.....but LOVES me drunk! Know what I mean?!
Wendy...Alera....thanks for the SMACK!
I am crying...but don't want to fix it!!
Ya know...I just might have to leave!
I'm too scared!!!
NO!....can't do it.....
Can I?
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Hey ppl this is Kylie this is Jazz's daughter how yall doin?????????? i know mi mom has a drinkin problem but u have 2 know i will always love her she is mi mother i dont ever want her 2 leave me she can be really crazy but i love if she leaves me it will never be the same here so please dont tell here 2 leave me.
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Oh Kylie honey. I am so sorry. How old are you?
Honey, I know you love your mom. See, I loved my mom very, very much too. I loved her more than anything. I don't want to tell your mom to leave you, I am just trying to help your mom. Your mom needs to get some help. Just like my mom did. You know that your mom loves you very much. She does, I don't need to tell you that, you know that. But she does need to get some help so she doesn't drink and she's not sick anymore. Just like when someone has another illness, they need to go to the doctor to get help. that is what your mommy needs.
I hope you are a very happy girl.. I have 2 daughters too. They are Jenifer-- she's 16 and also Tara-- she's 13. I want them to be very happy, and if I am well, it makes me happy, and it makes them happy. They want me well, just like I'm sure you want your mom to be well.
I hope you understand, we just wwant to help your mom, and also your mom does really want to be helped so she is well, that is why she comes and talks to us here on this website..
I wish you a very happy life.
Love, Becky
Honey, I know you love your mom. See, I loved my mom very, very much too. I loved her more than anything. I don't want to tell your mom to leave you, I am just trying to help your mom. Your mom needs to get some help. Just like my mom did. You know that your mom loves you very much. She does, I don't need to tell you that, you know that. But she does need to get some help so she doesn't drink and she's not sick anymore. Just like when someone has another illness, they need to go to the doctor to get help. that is what your mommy needs.
I hope you are a very happy girl..
I have 2 daughters too. They are Jenifer-- she's 16 and also Tara-- she's 13. I want them to be very happy, and if I am well, it makes me happy, and it makes them happy. They want me well, just like I'm sure you want your mom to be well. I hope you understand, we just wwant to help your mom, and also your mom does really want to be helped so she is well, that is why she comes and talks to us here on this website..
I wish you a very happy life.
Love, Becky
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Jazz, I just can't imagine why you would have let your daughter read this thread?????
I just don't get it.. So we look mean?? If you want to help your daughters, you'll send them to that website for kids.
Look for CHY, or historyteach, they have the website name with their signature I believe. I think it's soberkids.com or something like that.
I see that having her read this, was of no value to her??
I sure hope that you decide to get help for your sake and your childrens sake..
Becky
I just don't get it.. So we look mean?? If you want to help your daughters, you'll send them to that website for kids.
Look for CHY, or historyteach, they have the website name with their signature I believe. I think it's soberkids.com or something like that.
I see that having her read this, was of no value to her??
I sure hope that you decide to get help for your sake and your childrens sake..
Becky
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www.soberteens.com
i also have 2 daughters, amy is 16 and Rylee is 11. They love me to, they didn't know how sick i was. They loved me anyway. I love them too but couldn't see what i was dfoing to our life through the fog of alcohol.
We love you
We want you well Jazz,
i also have 2 daughters, amy is 16 and Rylee is 11. They love me to, they didn't know how sick i was. They loved me anyway. I love them too but couldn't see what i was dfoing to our life through the fog of alcohol.
We love you
We want you well Jazz,
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Please Forgive!!!!!
I've got to find out how she got in here!
She is only 12, but apparently smarter than me!
I am SO VERY SORRY!!!
Becky, I'll tell her what you said....but I'm gonna have to change my password. She won't get to read it herself.
Oh, I'm so embarrassed!
I've got to find out how she got in here!
She is only 12, but apparently smarter than me!
I am SO VERY SORRY!!!
Becky, I'll tell her what you said....but I'm gonna have to change my password. She won't get to read it herself.
Oh, I'm so embarrassed!
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why are you embarassed Jazz?
maybe it was meant to be
God works in myserious ways
i would direct her to soberteens though, she does need support. sober support. and don't beat yourself up about it that she does, my girls did and still do, i put them through alot of crap.
and yes our kids are smarter than we think, than we give them credit for.
i'm not sure what exactly you were talking about when you said you had to leave but sit your daughter down, maybe its time, tell her how much you love her.
Then sit yourself down and ask how much you love yourself. Your spirit is strong Jazz, your spirit, your heart want you to live, sober and have the life you're meant to live with your daughter. they are gifts.
so is life, a gift.
just for today, don't drink. Have you been to AA before?
hugs, Wendy
maybe it was meant to be
God works in myserious ways
i would direct her to soberteens though, she does need support. sober support. and don't beat yourself up about it that she does, my girls did and still do, i put them through alot of crap.
and yes our kids are smarter than we think, than we give them credit for.
i'm not sure what exactly you were talking about when you said you had to leave but sit your daughter down, maybe its time, tell her how much you love her.
Then sit yourself down and ask how much you love yourself. Your spirit is strong Jazz, your spirit, your heart want you to live, sober and have the life you're meant to live with your daughter. they are gifts.
so is life, a gift.
just for today, don't drink. Have you been to AA before?
hugs, Wendy
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