Phinneas

Today is my first wedding anniversary since my divorce and the pain is bringing me to my knees... (which is maybe where I need to be?) I have no desire to use or to contact him, thank god. But of all the losses, all the wreckage caused by my addiction, this one hits right at the center of my being.

I need your prayers and your support, family.

phinny

BOOZER

Phinny,
I wish you the best. The loss of my girlfreind is also the worst of my losses from booze. I still miss her.
Do something nice for yourself today. A little something extra to get through it. Remember that because you are sober you will not lose any more loves to booze. I take heart in that.

hopealwayz

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself today. Do something for you.

Love,
Hope

indigo

prayers on their way

indigo

CAPTAINZING2000

Jo Jo this too shall come to pass. It's hard now but, the pain will diminish in time.

Keep your mind focused on what you need to do today. What tasks need to be done today? That's where your mind needs to be. Stay clean, stay sober, trust God

luluabel

(((phinny))) sending prayers your way keep strong thinking of you xxxxxx

sherbear5104

(((Jojo)))

Sending prayers up to you. This too shall pass, I know it hurts, but it will get better. Like the others said, do something nice for yourself today.

Sherry

Val-light

Hi Phinny,
It's definitely not an easy day for you today. Be extra nice to yourself today.
Whatever happened in the past is where it should stay. That way you have room to think about all the nice things you do have and will have because you're staying clean.
Val

Phinneas

((((SR A-Z)))) Thank you....

I took the advice of my wise, wise SR friends (and my sponsor) and did something nice for myself. I put down that big stick I have been beating myself with for an hour and went and had a massage. It helped. (I'm so hard on myself that loving and supporting myself is really new, so that was a pretty big step for me.)

It still hurts like hell, but there is healing there, too.



wounded sparrow
aka phinny
aka jojo

sherbear5104

Good for you jojo. I bet that massage felt wonderful and it was so deserved. You are a blessing to have here. We all are. Enjoy the rest of your night.

Val-light

wantneeda

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I've never been married but the last relationship I was in that I truly thought was love was over 3 years ago now. I drowned my sorrows in drugs and alcohol, the very things that robbed me of that relationship. I spent alot of time doing anything I could not to think about him. Now that I'm sober it's amazing to me how much I think about him.But I also know that he lost in active addiction and we could never be together.
It's true as time goes on the pain diminishes and I believe that if I didn't know how a pinch felt theN I wouldn't know a kiss. Love and pain seem to go hand in hand.
I am praying for you today. Keep on keepin' on \\//peace

Aa_vark

,

(hi phinny)

You're in my prayers, too.

Roxann

I will certainly say an extra prayer for you tonight Jojo. I hope that you remember that you aren't alone and lots and lots of people care about you. :heart:

cwohio

phinny - good for you on the massage. we that live with alcoholics also have a hard time doing for ourselves and feeling good about it. take care and prayers to you - i am proud that you are staying sober!

1Marty

JoJo, I'll be praying for you!

Time2Surrender

Prayers coming your way.Hang in there.

boop64132

Prayers sent your way!

historyteach

(((Phinny)))
Prayers sent for the renual of your body and spirit.
Shalom!