How’s your sober tools this weekend? Weekenders 10-13 March 2023
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Location: Western Wisconsin
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Sometimes a burger and fries at McDonald's is just the right thing. Congratulations, Robbie.
I hope things go/went ok for you PJ. You're a good person, and you deserve good things in your life. We all do!
Alpine, I hope you can get through your current challenges ok. It must be very worrying.
I'm under the weather for the fist time since I had covid last summer. This is just a bit of a cold, I think. What's sad is that it is spring break, so I could take a day or two off to do fun things for a change, but I might be using sick time instead. I'm working from home today, and getting some things done, so if I feel better tomorrow, I might actually take a day off and go to the art museum or something.
I hope things go/went ok for you PJ. You're a good person, and you deserve good things in your life. We all do!
Alpine, I hope you can get through your current challenges ok. It must be very worrying.
I'm under the weather for the fist time since I had covid last summer. This is just a bit of a cold, I think. What's sad is that it is spring break, so I could take a day or two off to do fun things for a change, but I might be using sick time instead. I'm working from home today, and getting some things done, so if I feel better tomorrow, I might actually take a day off and go to the art museum or something.
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Join Date: May 2018
Location: Where I’ve longed to be all my life…..here, now.
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Woot woot,Robbie!🎉🎊♥️🤓
It’s all mental from here……
You have achieved sobriety before, now comes the next stretch……the L. O. N. G. S. T. R. E. T. C. H……..
I got to 14 months in 2019, and confused abstinence with control. HUGE mistake. Took 26 months to gather the listening to my silenced, dying soul to hear it beg me to stop, to convince me I CAN DO THIS.
Some days, I sat on my hands.
Some days, I had a burst of optimism and got all KINDS of things accomplished.
Sometimes I worried about what others might think at the party, at dinner, at the function
Sometimes when I wasn’t feeling too strong in my resolve to stay stopped, I read, watched a movie, took a shower, watched you tube documentaries on drunks and alcohol, I’d Google liver disease……BUT, THOSE DAYS, I DID NOT GO to functions that had alcohol.
Very rarely now, time goes slowly.
Most of the time, I’m happy to report, the days are FLYING by! Counting my days and weeks are turning to months. Sure, I post on the day counting thread occasionally, and it’s fun to see cool numbers, but that daily need for me, thank goodness, isn’t there as much as it was, because my focus is living my new life as it develops.
I’m trying to say, it gets easier. It really does.
For me, the self hatred is horrendous, the price is too much to pay to take that first sip, and I’ll never know when I’ll have enough fortitude to stop again.
Hugs and prayers to all the weekenders, whether you are just reading and not posting, or you are a “regular”.
🤓♥️
It’s all mental from here……
You have achieved sobriety before, now comes the next stretch……the L. O. N. G. S. T. R. E. T. C. H……..
I got to 14 months in 2019, and confused abstinence with control. HUGE mistake. Took 26 months to gather the listening to my silenced, dying soul to hear it beg me to stop, to convince me I CAN DO THIS.
Some days, I sat on my hands.
Some days, I had a burst of optimism and got all KINDS of things accomplished.
Sometimes I worried about what others might think at the party, at dinner, at the function
Sometimes when I wasn’t feeling too strong in my resolve to stay stopped, I read, watched a movie, took a shower, watched you tube documentaries on drunks and alcohol, I’d Google liver disease……BUT, THOSE DAYS, I DID NOT GO to functions that had alcohol.
Very rarely now, time goes slowly.
Most of the time, I’m happy to report, the days are FLYING by! Counting my days and weeks are turning to months. Sure, I post on the day counting thread occasionally, and it’s fun to see cool numbers, but that daily need for me, thank goodness, isn’t there as much as it was, because my focus is living my new life as it develops.
I’m trying to say, it gets easier. It really does.
For me, the self hatred is horrendous, the price is too much to pay to take that first sip, and I’ll never know when I’ll have enough fortitude to stop again.
Hugs and prayers to all the weekenders, whether you are just reading and not posting, or you are a “regular”.
🤓♥️
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Join Date: May 2018
Posts: 1,951
Thanks Mags!!
Great post, Free. It took a long while for me to understand why the first drink is the gateway to hell. It's never the last drink - used to blame for my hangovers. Similarly moderation was a big chore that left me unsatisfied and ever in anticipation of the next drinking day. Happy those days are past now.
Ran 7K today in 48 minutes thought I paced it well. Good night from Seattle.
Great post, Free. It took a long while for me to understand why the first drink is the gateway to hell. It's never the last drink - used to blame for my hangovers. Similarly moderation was a big chore that left me unsatisfied and ever in anticipation of the next drinking day. Happy those days are past now.
Ran 7K today in 48 minutes thought I paced it well. Good night from Seattle.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,760
When I was drinking I was always depressed. Now my mood is stable and mostly upbeat. (I'm on antiDs too, which helps). Most of my depression was due to either being drunk, getting drunk, or recovering from being drunk. 
. It was no way to live and I'm so grateful I'm sober. 
. It was no way to live and I'm so grateful I'm sober. 
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Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Adelaide, Australia
Posts: 28,647
Yes, being mindful and in the now is something I done with okayment. BUT the degree of physical disfigurment is such all I needs to is look in the mirror. No complaints. Being dead isn't fun....it messes up one's appetite.
Met son/DIL/grandson. It went well. I kept a migraine aura at bay. I made sure to show (authentic) interest in their lives/plans. Won't post bub pic....looks like a baby. But a very good beginning. Roxy is unhappy at being left home. She discovered baby smell. Early days.
Met son/DIL/grandson. It went well. I kept a migraine aura at bay. I made sure to show (authentic) interest in their lives/plans. Won't post bub pic....looks like a baby. But a very good beginning. Roxy is unhappy at being left home. She discovered baby smell. Early days.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,760
Tried going to bed a couple hours ago but the itching kept me awake, along with the foot pain that seems to have come back. . Going to try again shortly.
PJ, glad you got your meet and greet.
Hope there's anther visit in the future.
. Going to try again shortly.PJ, glad you got your meet and greet.
Hope there's anther visit in the future.
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 26,644
Good Morning Weekenders
PJ, pleased the meet with new grandbaby and family went well.
Free love your post. I went through similar feelings.
Frosty cold start here.
The sun’s come out though so hopefully soon be melted.
Just had my grocery delivery. Ordered some chocolate Brazil nuts for Mil for Mother’s Day this Sunday but they sent an alternative. I’ll have to pop to B&M see if they’ve got any
Have a good day. Love to all Weekenders xxxx
PJ, pleased the meet with new grandbaby and family went well.
Free love your post. I went through similar feelings.
Frosty cold start here.
The sun’s come out though so hopefully soon be melted. Just had my grocery delivery. Ordered some chocolate Brazil nuts for Mil for Mother’s Day this Sunday but they sent an alternative. I’ll have to pop to B&M see if they’ve got any
Have a good day. Love to all Weekenders xxxx
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Join Date: Jan 2020
Location: Florida
Posts: 6,416
Mags, I hope you have luck finding the chocolate Brazil nuts.
While meeting with a contractor from out of town yesterday, we found that we had a mutual friend who he sees occasionally now, but I knew him from school and haven't seen him in about 20 years. He described him exactly as I remember him and I thought about how people's personality doesn't change. I think that quitting alcohol is an exception to that rule though. I feel like my personality has changed somewhat since I quit, and may still be changing. To risk going instantly back to all of that on the off chance that I would be able to manage it this time, not a chance.
While meeting with a contractor from out of town yesterday, we found that we had a mutual friend who he sees occasionally now, but I knew him from school and haven't seen him in about 20 years. He described him exactly as I remember him and I thought about how people's personality doesn't change. I think that quitting alcohol is an exception to that rule though. I feel like my personality has changed somewhat since I quit, and may still be changing. To risk going instantly back to all of that on the off chance that I would be able to manage it this time, not a chance.
Giving up is NOT an option.
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Western Wisconsin
Posts: 7,808
I'm going to whine a little - I'm still sick. I don't have covid, just a bad cold. It's spring break and I was supposed to finally get a day or two off to have fun. Instead, I'm stuck at home with a pile of used tissues. I'm getting some work done, so I guess that's a plus, but I wanted to go to the art museum today or tomorrow to see a special exhibit, and that's not going to happen. Maybe by Friday I can do it. Here's hoping.
I remember in early sobriety (actually for several years) I'd feel so guilty calling in sick to work. Because I did it so often when I was drinking. I got sober a couple of months after getting my current job, and I didn't call in sick ever, so there is no history of me missing a bunch of work here. But I could not shake that feeling that people would think I was faking sick. As a result, I went into work sick when I should not have. I don't have that guilt anymore, I call in sick when I need to. Thankfully, I really don't get sick often, now that I generally take better care of myself. My man friend has this particular cold right now, too. One of us picked it up somewhere and brought it to the other.
I remember in early sobriety (actually for several years) I'd feel so guilty calling in sick to work. Because I did it so often when I was drinking. I got sober a couple of months after getting my current job, and I didn't call in sick ever, so there is no history of me missing a bunch of work here. But I could not shake that feeling that people would think I was faking sick. As a result, I went into work sick when I should not have. I don't have that guilt anymore, I call in sick when I need to. Thankfully, I really don't get sick often, now that I generally take better care of myself. My man friend has this particular cold right now, too. One of us picked it up somewhere and brought it to the other.
Magsie
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Location: UK
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