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Old 03-09-2023, 02:16 PM
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I agree 100%
For me, in the beginning it seemed the early days were the inconsequential ones.
"meh I only made it 3 Days so far."
I had no idea at the time how huge those 3 Days were.



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Old 03-09-2023, 02:57 PM
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@keeppushing I hope you keep trying and give this another shot. I am in to my 4th day, and no, it has not been easy at all, but for me coming here and saying that I am all over the place in cravings, anxiety, etc., and having feedback from members sure is holding me up when I really need it. So when you ask if there are others like you, yes! Just get yourself through the first day sober, just do one full day sober and come here to talk about your feelings all day of your day 1 and it will be hard with cravings, anxiety, but people will listen and talk you through it, and when you go to bed sober after that first very long and hard day, I bet you will be back to talk more on day 2 when you need more venting and support. Don't give up.

I don't want to hijack your thread but I wanted to say thank you to @Offthemast @Kaily @fishkiller for wishing me strength in this battle after they read my post earlier. I am in to day 4 and I probably wouldn't be if I just stayed quiet, I'd probably be hungover, but I am not, I am here. Like gum stuck on the bottom of your shoe. (I am starting to feel better)




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Old 03-10-2023, 06:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Myley View Post

I don't want to hijack your thread but I wanted to say thank you to @Offthemast @Kaily @fishkiller for wishing me strength in this battle after they read my post earlier. I am in to day 4 and I probably wouldn't be if I just stayed quiet, I'd probably be hungover, but I am not, I am here. Like gum stuck on the bottom of your shoe. (I am starting to feel better)
Day 5 was my worst day, but of course, your worst can be another day. Then everything smoothed out in a sudden flip flop of my emotional state. But it wasn't just the time I spent in withdrawal that made the difference. Something else changed:

1) I also embraced the need to stay sober for the rest of my life, rather than to keep hoping to moderate my drinking some day. I accepted, although grudgingly, that I could never drink, even on some rare special occasion, like a wedding.

2) On Day 5, I found a niche in AA where I could go every night instead of getting drunk. I needed a change of scenery. I needed to hang with sober people, rather than drunks. This helped me make it through the evenings, which were my most vulnerable times. SR was not available to me back then.

3) I began to learn from others how to address my specific drinking issues, although I didn't follow the AA steps. I just needed the people, and a place to celebrate being sober, which is what AA is most of the time... a celebration.

4) Eventually, those early days of trail and tribulation faded away, and I remember being startled one day when I realized I hadn't even thought about alcohol for an entire week.
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Old 03-11-2023, 04:30 AM
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It wasn't until I actually gave AA a fair shake did I make good progress in my recovery.
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Old 03-11-2023, 06:02 PM
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Your cry for help on this post made me so sad only because it sounded like me three years ago. I just could not stop and the more I drank the more hopeless I felt.
One day out of nowhere a switch went off and i had no desire to drink it lasted three months and I thought I could just drink like a normal person again. All over again I could not stop, three of the most horrible years of my life later god turned the switch off again and I was given another chance to free myself. I quit drinking Dec 2019 and I will never ever pick up a drink again. I sure hope the switch is turned off for you soon.
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Old 03-16-2023, 12:22 PM
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I drink every day. I haven't had a sober day in months. I know that this can't go on, but I am scared of being sober. How can I find the strength to quit? Even for just one day?
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Old 03-16-2023, 12:29 PM
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Sorry to just jump in, but I saw Lixie's post.

Let us help you, love. Let us remind you how happy you were on the days, weeks and months you were sober. I know you can do it again, and I am sending you love. ❤️
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Old 03-16-2023, 12:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Myley View Post
The members say here to post more, tell the story of what we are feeling, let it out, ask for help, try, and try and make changes. So I hope you come back. I did what members are saying and that is to post, and my posting to you hopefully will help you, but it is also helping me, getting the feelings out of my head and seeing what I am feeling written in front of me. Support is what we need. I know I have hid in my shame and mental circling of being lost for too long, so I am reaching out and darn, it feels good, it is helping me and it will help you.
And this. ❤️

I also hope you come back, dear keeppushing. s
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Old 03-16-2023, 12:57 PM
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Nearly 29 days here, but Ive had countless resets and day 1's over the years. The most I managed was 5 months during the pandemic. I look back on that time with a bit of nostalgia because I was quite free and happy at that time and lots of my problems were getting fought successfully.
Ive posted on here on and off over the years, but like other areas of my life Ive always felt like an outsider, or an imposter. A fraud. Like I dont belong to any group of people really.
I have an addictive personality, probably some sort of ADHD, highly featuring some traits on the autism spectrum, but highly functioning. Or maybe not?
If its not having the constant desire to augment my reality or alter my mood somehow (or just plain numbing everything through alcohol), Ive always sought out caffeine, prescription drugs, illegal drugs (not for years), cbd oil, vitamins, nootropics, too much sleep, sleep aids, exercise, then Im escaping through video games, tv, reading, being on my own, impulsive shopping and spending, gambling, porn, sex, eating, bingeing on anything, going down a wormhole of being obsessed about some new hobby or topic of interest. Chasing that dopamine rush through any means. THATS my problem.
I know all this, but whats the answer? Probably the only thing that works for me is occupying my time with positive activites. Exercise, healthy food. Im not good with relationships. Im in a relationship, but friends come and mostly go. I dont have the energy or focus most of the time to maintain anything. Im in about 15,000 of debt which I just wish would go away. My partner and I want children and time is running out. I hate my job, and the people there but I cant quit.
But I know one thing, and that alcohol does not and will not help. Its only makes things worse. And if I have any chance of solving all of lifes problems, it's going to be without alcohol.
Someone once said make a list of all the benefits or positive things that have come from drinking short or long term, and Im struggling to list any. Making a list for the positives of not drinking is much easier...

Good luck to us all.

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Old 03-16-2023, 01:44 PM
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Originally Posted by venuscat View Post
Sorry to just jump in, but I saw Lixie's post.

Let us help you, love. Let us remind you how happy you were on the days, weeks and months you were sober. I know you can do it again, and I am sending you love. ❤️
Thank you so much, Suze. I want to be free from this hell. I wake up in the morning wanting to stop, but I am too afraid to actually go a whole evening sober. I feel so bad....
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Old 03-17-2023, 04:40 AM
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Hi KP,
I was chronic, 50 units per day and started as soon as my eyes opened. I could never kick cos of the withdrawal symptoms. They were too much for me to bear. I went for an inpatient alcohol detox for 10 days and the rest is history. Have you thought of giving this a go?1
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Old 03-21-2023, 01:13 PM
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Originally Posted by keeppushing View Post
I've been trying to stop drinking for decades. I've read SR on and off and even posted a few times. But I always end up feeling like a loser as I see others manage to keep AF day after day while I can rarely go one day AF. This leads to massive shame and I end up leaving SR.

So I'd like to ask if there are any others like me on SR?

I don't really know why I'm asking. I'm desperate to stop drinking. My drinking went from daily after work and starting noon on the weekends and a few weeks ago I reached the point of starting as soon as I woke up. I've tried all the advice I found on SR and elsewhere but nothing is working for me (except reading Allen Carr and stopping for 6 months many years ago).

Anyone else out there living this hell?
Not a loser. And not alone. I too live in this hell-hole. I stopped for 2 weeks in January, and like a 'loser', I started drinking again a week before a blood test. I got the results and well, of course my doctor told me to stop drinking. I thought I would. But I've not. I've reverted back to morning drinks (as early as 530AM) & lunch time drinks, and I come back to SR and make a post like this and then I have an urge to dump all the alcohol I own down the sink. I think perhaps I should keep on SR as a weekly maintenance. Once I stop my morning drinks, I know I've found the courage to slow down.

My question would be is not what leads you to shame, but what leads you to believe in yourself? What helped you stop for those 6 months? Clearly that was your most successful moment in time so far. Try to go back. You can do it.
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Old 03-22-2023, 02:14 AM
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Thank you so much, Suze. I want to be free from this hell. I wake up in the morning wanting to stop, but I am too afraid to actually go a whole evening sober. I feel so bad....
You need to feel the fear and do it anyway. Take it minute by minute. Your evenings will be totally uncomfortable - horrible. But that is only to begin with, keep remembering the end goal. Time will heal and things will improve with hard work. Just wanting it isn't enough.

You can do this, I promise.
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Old 03-22-2023, 03:32 AM
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Originally Posted by Kaily View Post
You need to feel the fear and do it anyway. Take it minute by minute. Your evenings will be totally uncomfortable - horrible. But that is only to begin with, keep remembering the end goal. Time will heal and things will improve with hard work. Just wanting it isn't enough.

You can do this, I promise.
Thank you, Kaily. I am on day 6 now and the fear is gone. I fill my days with loads of tasks and I feel so relieved that I no longer have to drink. I am aware that cravings will come, but I hope that I will be able to deal with them and not give in.
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Old 03-22-2023, 04:01 AM
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Keep it going Lixie and well done!

Don't hope you won't give in but know you won't no matter what. It really is a battle that you can win.
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