Moving out of sober living.....
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
Posts: 6,069
Yeah, I get it, Farrier.
When I was leaving rehab last time, I was full of worry that I might mess up, that I might just throw this all away.
I went to a sober home after that, much against my own wishes, but I'm glad I did.
Both experiences were very painful for me, but necessary for finding an inkling of that "thine self" to whom I should be true.
You'll be ok. You don't know what's next and that's hard. It's easier for certain to live in a world where you basically know what's going to happen each day. That was as true of my drinking life as it was for my rehab/sober living experience. Two completely different experiences, of course, but we folk do tend to like control - whether it's self-imposed by being a slave to a substance or whether it's externally imposed by the routines of a protected living environment. New and different and independent and alone is always scary. But it's what we have to do to continue to grow. You've done an awful lot of that in the past year - there's no reason to think that won't continue with your continued willingness and vigilance.
Feel the hurts - that's important, too.
Just watch for resentments wrapped up in expectations of how things 'should' be.
You'll be ok.
O
When I was leaving rehab last time, I was full of worry that I might mess up, that I might just throw this all away.
I went to a sober home after that, much against my own wishes, but I'm glad I did.
Both experiences were very painful for me, but necessary for finding an inkling of that "thine self" to whom I should be true.
You'll be ok. You don't know what's next and that's hard. It's easier for certain to live in a world where you basically know what's going to happen each day. That was as true of my drinking life as it was for my rehab/sober living experience. Two completely different experiences, of course, but we folk do tend to like control - whether it's self-imposed by being a slave to a substance or whether it's externally imposed by the routines of a protected living environment. New and different and independent and alone is always scary. But it's what we have to do to continue to grow. You've done an awful lot of that in the past year - there's no reason to think that won't continue with your continued willingness and vigilance.
Feel the hurts - that's important, too.
Just watch for resentments wrapped up in expectations of how things 'should' be.
You'll be ok.
O
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Join Date: May 2022
Location: California
Posts: 354
So I moved in yesterday and all is well. Attended 2 different men's AA meetings last night. One was full of "colorful language"; I won't be back to that one.
Another interesting twist to this move I want to share. I found this house on facebook, I don't know nor have I ever met my roommate before. Not only did I discover that we have a close mutual friend, my roommates BF is an AA guy! How these pieces fit together is beyond me. I'm just gonna be grateful for it.
Start orientation for my new career today. Wish me well.
Another interesting twist to this move I want to share. I found this house on facebook, I don't know nor have I ever met my roommate before. Not only did I discover that we have a close mutual friend, my roommates BF is an AA guy! How these pieces fit together is beyond me. I'm just gonna be grateful for it.
Start orientation for my new career today. Wish me well.
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Join Date: May 2022
Location: California
Posts: 354
Good morning all. My new career is better than expected, although getting used to working for the government is a learning curve and I'm asking my Higher Power on the daily to give me patience.
The room I rented has been great! Love having my own bedroom, bathroom and I more or less have my own little living room also. My rommie has her own side of the house so the only time I even see her is in the kitchen that we share.
AA meetings are slightly different here but it works and I'm meeting new people everyday. Tonight, I'm making the the back to Fresno, CA to attend a Friday night meeting that I loved so much and where I made some really solid friends in AA during my early sobriety. I've been wanting to go but I promised myself that I needed to get settled in here first.
There are no bad days, just bad moments.
Enjoy your weekend friends,
Jason
The room I rented has been great! Love having my own bedroom, bathroom and I more or less have my own little living room also. My rommie has her own side of the house so the only time I even see her is in the kitchen that we share.
AA meetings are slightly different here but it works and I'm meeting new people everyday. Tonight, I'm making the the back to Fresno, CA to attend a Friday night meeting that I loved so much and where I made some really solid friends in AA during my early sobriety. I've been wanting to go but I promised myself that I needed to get settled in here first.
There are no bad days, just bad moments.
Enjoy your weekend friends,
Jason
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 25,373
Originally Posted by Heidi1983 
Well done. Keep it all up. Wish we had more support for alcohol dependence in the uk.
Go in there and ask them how they did it, and then stay in there for the support and friendship.
There is also a "Class of January 2023" thread, where people are newly sober, here: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html
...a new "Class of February" is in a couple days, too. Keep an eye out on "Newcomers to Recovery" for that one.
You'll get plenty of support in any/all of the Newcomers threads. Just jump in.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
Recovery support is so important to hang onto. Foks,
before, during and after addiction have alot to teach
us so that we never have to return to the insanity that
comes with alcohol or drugs.
Remain true, honest, willing and openminded with
each passing day and each step you take along
your journey to achieving many of lifes wonderful
gifts promised to each of us.
before, during and after addiction have alot to teach
us so that we never have to return to the insanity that
comes with alcohol or drugs.
Remain true, honest, willing and openminded with
each passing day and each step you take along
your journey to achieving many of lifes wonderful
gifts promised to each of us.
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